Why would someone keep an empty envelope?

[Anothernamebite]

To ask why a person would keep an open but empty envelope with their name on the front. They haven't mistakenly kept it. I know this because it has been deliberately moved from its original place and hidden in a new place while they were tidying up.

The paper it’s made from is nice.

My DP does this if it’s a fancy stamp. I keep a non fancy envelope that was posted to me because it was the last thing my mum had posted to me before she died and I really really can’t bring myself to throw it out..

OP, have you opened the envelope?

The fact that it is folded over suggests that he chose it as a container to store something small, which may be unrelated to the envelope or its previous contents. Could it be a USB or hair or something sentimental?

Why can’t anybody see, the DH is having a torrid affair. Nothing says it more than a hidden envelope.
Especially as it’s hidden amongst photographs.
It’s so obvious. It happens all the time.
You must LTB immediately OP don’t wait for any explanation.

This might be the most batshit thing to be suspicious about on MN

He wanted the stamp
It was an accident, it was folded to go in the shredding and got picked up in the photos which he opened at the same time
It was from a deceased family member and he was keeping it safe because the handwriting is special but he felt it was too "girly sentimental" to let other people know
It was just the closest thing to split the pile of photos into the categories he'd chose
He suspects you rifle through his stuff so it was placed and folded specifically so he'd know if you were digging around because you're so suspicious

Maybe he's just too lazy to chuck it in the bin? My DH always goes nuts at me when I put envelopes in the drawer sometimes, I just do it for no reason other than just being lazy and cba to walk through to the kitchen bin. So perhaps there is nothing else in it that that!

My boyfriend keeps an opened envelope, it was his last from his mum - she used to give them money in an envelope instead of cards. He keeps it for sentimentality

You have absolutely no idea what explanation is "most likely."

If they are photos that you haven't seen before and they're from seven years ago, were they perhaps taken at a family event or similar and whoever took them decided to print them off and give them to your husband, hence his name on the envelope.

My dh kept the envelope from the anniversary card I gave him.

I would guess if it was my DH that it was some sort of bookmark. But I suppose if you're that worried you have separate concerns about his behaviour.

Is there more to this story which explains why you’re suspicious? If I found an open, empty envelope with my boyfriends name on mixed up with his stuff, I would think absolutely nothing of it.

Because the contents were special to him. And you wouldn't like what they were. So they're long gone. If they were hidden in a better place elsewhere, they would still be in the envelope.

They were of enough importance that the envelope was kept as a momento, knowing you couldn't prove anything just by the envelope.

I kept the envelope from a beautiful letter from my ex. I can almost recite the letter word for word. I had to throw the letter away when I met my abusive ex husband because he'd have used it as a weapon against me, but he wouldn't ever have been able to know what the envelope contained. He was always going through my things, and he did find it. I told him it was the envelope that tickets came in for a Father Christmas trip for my and ds one year and having lost the tickets, kept the envelope as a reminder. He seemed to believe it.

Ask why someone might hide something from you. Is it more likely they have something to hide...or is it they know how you'll treat them if you find it.

I think the far bigger question is why the hell you would even notice let alone would care enough to post on mumsnet.

Honestly if I found an envelope with DH name on I would just pick it up and move it or leave it where ever it was minding its business without even a second thought. So strange this bothered you this much to gossip about it online, seems awfully controlling and red flaggy of you.

LTB

Why is it so important to you that you’re asking ransoms on the internet but not important enough to you that you won’t ask the person in question?
I find this exceedingly odd.
It’s an envelope.
With their name written on it.
It isn’t a love letter.
It isn’t a bribe.
It isn’t extortion.
It isn’t treason.
It isn’t State secrets.
It isn’t a long lost will.
It isn’t a secret property ownership.
It isn’t a secret wedding certificate.
It isn’t a £50Million cheque
Ir isn’t proof of a secret second family.
It isn’t a secret birth certificate.
It’s an envelope.
With their name written on it.
That you conveniently found “hidden in a pack of photos.”

I’m just making myself laugh now.

I mean, I have kept things in the past with a dead loved ones writing on, for example cards, envelopes, scrap bits of paper they have written things down on - is it from someone who he has lost?

I have empty envelope with my name on written by my grandma . It's just sentimental.

Could that be why?

Now the envelope is inside a packet of photos, photos that I had never seen printed before, random photos from his photo stream from seven years ago.

This is giving similar vibes to the 'I was scrolling photos from 7 years ago on DP's tablet and found one of a fully-clothed unknown woman in a public place, how should I interrogate him' thread from a few weeks back. 🚩

My guess is the person who wrote his name on the envelope has deep meaning to him. It is always lovely to see your name written by someone you love dearly. Maybe someone no longer in his life who he holds with great fondness.

😂😂😂

Is there a date? Postmark? Stamp?
I take it you don't recognise the writing?
My own personal reasons for keeping envelopes is I've usually written on them or drawn on them.

If his name is handwritten, he probably kept it for a time capsule. No one handwrites letters/envelopes these days do they?

Edit - unless it's a Christmas card maybe!

I know exactly what happened.
One day, your OH was lovingly looking through some photographs he stumbled upon, when something big and hairy scuttled across the floor in his peripheral vision. It was a spider! A rather scary looking one with biceps and a mean look on his face.
He let out a tiny squeal and was tempted to run away, but he decided to protect his family and deal with it himself.
After some flailing around to find a glass, and with the spider now imprisoned, he needed a scooper. A single sheet of paper wouldn’t have provided enough protection. He contemplated using cardboard, but worried he’d have to lift the glass too high that the spider may escape. Then it came to him - that random envelope he’d just seen in with the photos! He slid the envelope beneath the glass with ease, and safely released the spider to the garden. He then went to dispose of the useless envelope, but paused before chucking it in the blue bin.
“September is spider season,” he thought, “I shall keep this multi-purpose piece of folded paper, for it is the exact tool we need for removing future unwanted guests”.
And so he placed it in a place where he could easily reach it, for next time.

I feel like I need to know the answer to this one.