We have one DC who is under 6 months old. We only plan on having one.
My mum - she didn't raise me, very interested in drugs and men and having multiple children with different ones and not looking after them. I tried with her as an adult, she never changed
My dad - M.I.A he ran off and had another family and forgot about me
My in laws - had a great relationship with them until we got engaged and they turned very nasty towards me, mainly MIL. I have gone no contact, DH continues LC. But we are both of the opinion that if you can't respect someone's mother, you don't get a relationship with the child. Plus our DC is treated very differently to the other 1 DCG of a similar age and it is so obvious that they will notice it in a few years time.
I had the most amazing relationships with my grandparents- who all took turns raising me.
What do I say, and when, and how?