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Would you have sex-missionary with someone if offered money

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Snoringfamily · 12/09/2024 23:34

If so, how much would it have to be?

Discussion at work quite a few years ago, inspired by the Demi Moore film. I was younger and had more money than now. If someone asked you to sleep with them for x amount of money-say half a million, would you? Missionary only, over quickly
I was aghast and said no, most said of course they would.

Now, I think I feel differently

Would you?

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BoreOffAboutYerChickensEmma · 13/09/2024 03:14

SickOfTheRoad · 13/09/2024 03:02

I agree with the poster who finds it odd that the first post you choose to comment on is one related to sex.

Your own thread, which was posted later than when you started to comment on this one, says that you're going to prison. Thank goodness you have your priorities sorted as a single dad, 1) post on sex thread. 2) post a thread needing help because you're going to prison leaving your children behind. 🤨

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Report it then if you find it odd. Some thread titles catch people’s attention over others. That isn’t odd just because the poster is a bloke.

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 03:16

Don’t want to or feel the need to report anything, it’s just people’s opinions and thoughts. If it’s to offend me then I really don’t care I don’t let that bother me I just don’t get it is all

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 03:17

I don’t feel the need to report anything it’s just people’s opinions and thoughts and if they intent to offend then I just let it go it doesn’t affect me in the slightest

DoYouReally · 13/09/2024 03:17

I love sex.
I love money.
I can enjoy sex just for the sake of it.
I wouldn't be be psychologically damaged or anything.

But no, I'm not for sale or at least not for €500k. I'm not that cheap.

BoreOffAboutYerChickensEmma · 13/09/2024 03:19

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 03:17

I don’t feel the need to report anything it’s just people’s opinions and thoughts and if they intent to offend then I just let it go it doesn’t affect me in the slightest

My reply wasn’t to you. If someone quotes a poster they are replying to that poster.

Some posters are giving you a hard time on this thread unfairly.

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 03:20

BoreOffAboutYerChickensEmma · 13/09/2024 03:19

My reply wasn’t to you. If someone quotes a poster they are replying to that poster.

Some posters are giving you a hard time on this thread unfairly.

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Fair one got ya thanks :)

SickOfTheRoad · 13/09/2024 03:31

Report it then if you find it odd. Some thread titles catch people’s attention over others. That isn’t odd just because the poster is a bloke.

Yeah, he's now posted on one about boobs as well. I'm sure he's a great man.

ImustLearn2Cook · 13/09/2024 03:36

I wouldn’t have sex missionary with a man for any amount of money.

I might consider being paid 1.5 million for sex where I was on top and in charge. And for no more than 20 minutes. And he has to pay upfront because I don’t want to get screwed.

MayaPinion · 13/09/2024 03:40

For half a million I’d throw in a blowie as well. That’s your pension sorted/mortgage paid off sort of money.

Dollyparot200 · 13/09/2024 03:47

I'm sorry I would 100 per cent do this im never going to be able to retire work in a toxic work place and this would change my life.

daisychain01 · 13/09/2024 03:47

Abbylikeswine · 12/09/2024 23:49

Does nobody wonder about the psychological damage it would do to you?

What psychological damage, as long as it's consensual?

Woman makes decision about what she does with her own body. Very different to woman being forced to do something against her will.

not saying I'd do it. I definitely wouldn't, it wouldn't appeal to me for any amount of cash, but that's my choice. Others feel differently judging by this thread.

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 03:50

Dollyparot200 · 13/09/2024 03:47

I'm sorry I would 100 per cent do this im never going to be able to retire work in a toxic work place and this would change my life.

She’s got it 👍 most people would

daisychain01 · 13/09/2024 03:50

SickOfTheRoad · 13/09/2024 03:31

Report it then if you find it odd. Some thread titles catch people’s attention over others. That isn’t odd just because the poster is a bloke.

Yeah, he's now posted on one about boobs as well. I'm sure he's a great man.

🤑a prince amongst men, clearly.

Josette77 · 13/09/2024 03:52

Synchronisedwitches · 13/09/2024 01:04

I don't think there necessarily is a level of selection..
At least in my experience. Sex I regretted tended to be when young with guys who just relentlessly persued me and I eventually gave iin.so it was more that they selected me and I was just not confident about what I did or didn't want so ended up sleeping with them. Sometimes when young you think you should feel something towards men who express interest in you. Sometimes it takes a while to learn to identify and assert your own feelings.
So yes I did end up sleeping with guys I wasn't attracted to at all.

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Same.

Plus those of us who have experienced sexual abuse tend to feel less empowered to use our voice and say no.

Lulusept22 · 13/09/2024 03:56

Cobblersorchard · 12/09/2024 23:43

Yes I would, absolutely. I’ve done far worse in my youth!
I’d probably do it for £50k I reckon, £500k and I’d do a whole football team.

Alas I’m fairly sure absolutely no-one would pay £5 these days.

Hahaha

Just4thisthreadtoday · 13/09/2024 04:08

DoYouReally · 13/09/2024 03:17

I love sex.
I love money.
I can enjoy sex just for the sake of it.
I wouldn't be be psychologically damaged or anything.

But no, I'm not for sale or at least not for €500k. I'm not that cheap.

@DoYouReally

I don't see it as what 'I'm worth' or that I'm for sale!

I'll happily exchange a short amount of my time for .5M

Maria1979 · 13/09/2024 04:28

Snoringfamily · 12/09/2024 23:41

@peachgreen Thats actually another, interesting side to the discussion! If our dps, Dh’s we’re offered the same scenario, would we give our blessing

My DH is more into money than me and I think he can separate sex and feelings so I'd let him. I have zero libido due to antidepressants so atleast he'd get some hanky panky while being paid😄

Maria1979 · 13/09/2024 04:29

Sorry: than I am. Before grammar swat team kicks my door in..

GuestFeatu · 13/09/2024 04:34

I would. As long as he was clean and not physically revolting in some way, and his penis was a reasonable size (not huge!), I'd do it doggy style for £50k. A nice chunk of money for minimal physical discomfort. I wouldn't be concerned about my soul. I'm pretty good at compartmentalising sex anyway and have had a LOT of casual partners so this would feel fine I think. Or maybe a bit grating but the money would make it very much endurable. Like having your teeth scraped or a smear test - unpleasant but over quickly and worth the discomfort.

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 04:39

herecomesautumn · 13/09/2024 01:12

I'd pay myself.

If only we could lol

NeonGiraffe · 13/09/2024 04:46

MarkingBad · 12/09/2024 23:47

I'm over 50 and don't currently have a partner ... a tenner would do, hell I'd probably pay him! 😆

😂😂😂

DontLookBackInBognor · 13/09/2024 04:47

BMW6 · 12/09/2024 23:45

Yeah, I SO would for, say, 200k +.

I could sell this house and get a bungalow.
I'm getting on and looking to future-proof.

Just love the practicality of this! 😄

Fair play to you!!👍

Pacificisolated · 13/09/2024 04:53

If I knew my partner would never find out and I had a good cover story for where the money came from would to it for £10,000. Not a life changing amount but a decent sum to invest. Sex can be very transactional and meaningless in even a committed relationship so I don’t ascribe to the whole ‘selling your soul’ stuff some people are posting on here.

Simonjt · 13/09/2024 04:56

No, no amount of money or other forms of coercion would work either.

Poppins21 · 13/09/2024 05:06

The whole point of the movie was she was attracted to him and he could have seduced her for free. But he was rich and powerful and decided the destroy the husband with his games. The husband couldn’t come to terms with how much his wife enjoyed her night and jealously destroyed the love.

So in the scenario of the film I wouldn’t as I wouldn’t want to destroy my marriage.

Let’s look the other way - Would you let your husband or partner sleep with an attractive older woman for one night for million pounds? Would jealously destroy you like in the film? Or would you happily spend the money?