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Would you have sex-missionary with someone if offered money

687 replies

Snoringfamily · 12/09/2024 23:34

If so, how much would it have to be?

Discussion at work quite a few years ago, inspired by the Demi Moore film. I was younger and had more money than now. If someone asked you to sleep with them for x amount of money-say half a million, would you? Missionary only, over quickly
I was aghast and said no, most said of course they would.

Now, I think I feel differently

Would you?

OP posts:
Portfun24 · 13/09/2024 08:31

I don't think I could, because I'm happily married and would worry it could ruin that. So no, money isn't the be all and end all and I'd not risk it. If I was single, without a second thought.

Gremlins101 · 13/09/2024 08:32

SusannaSpider · 13/09/2024 00:02

If I was single I would for a decent amount - £500k would do nicely. But I'm married, I couldn't be unfaithful and even if DH knew and was OK with it, then I'd think less of him for being OK with it - Not sure that makes any sense🤦‍♀️

This 100%

Mummadeze · 13/09/2024 08:36

Yes, I haven’t had sex in 6 years and miss it. I could also do with the money. Probably £50,000 or above but open to negotiation.

Beezknees · 13/09/2024 08:39

I would yeah. I'm single, stuck living in a council flat as I can't afford to buy a house. £500k would do me, that could buy me a house outright where I live and have enough to retire on. I'd be happy to carry on working for fun money if I knew I had the necessities sorted!

MsLavender · 13/09/2024 08:40

Flossyts · 13/09/2024 07:14

If my husband found out I hadn’t accepted half a mil for a quick shag I think I’d lose my marriage 😂

If my partner found out I turned down £500k for a quick shag I think I'd lose him 😂

Sdpbody · 13/09/2024 08:42

I would have sex with someone for a little as £50,000. One shag and I'd be able to pay for an extension and a new kitchen.

SissySpacekAteMyHamster · 13/09/2024 08:42

I'd want the money transferred first.

BalmyLemons · 13/09/2024 08:43

Synchronisedwitches · 13/09/2024 00:12

And I don't think it would be any more psychologically damaging than anything else I've experienced in life only this time I'd have 100k to help me get over it..

A good extension of this discussion is body parts.
Me and a friend who works in insurance were discussing that girl who got the payout from alton towers when her legs got crushed on the Smiler.
And how she may actually have considered it a lucky thing to have happened to her as she can now walk again with prosthetic legs and live a relatively normal life.. but she got 1million plus payout at 18 so she never has to worry much about money...
So we were discussing what body parts we'd give up for how much money..
Apparently there's a list of how much body parts are worth in terms of insurance and/or in court cases regarding accidents that weren't your fault!! There's a whole list of what say, losing a finger, or an ear, would be worth financially

£1mil won't get you many prosthetics over a lifetime. The NHS ones are not very good, lead to painful blisters and are not changed often enough. Then there's the phantom pains and itching. Imagine an itch you can never scratch and cramps you can never rub better. Nah, I'll keep my limbs thanks!

Sex for money I'm fine with.

Incakewetrust · 13/09/2024 08:43

For half a million? Without a doubt.
Hell, make it a million and they can have a go with DH too 🤣🤣

Carouselfish · 13/09/2024 08:44

For me it all hinges on are they hot? If not, no. Couldn't.

MsLavender · 13/09/2024 08:45

OpalGoose · 13/09/2024 08:21

I'm surprised so many are saying yes. Are you not worried that if it's that easy then you might do it again and again and again........?

Oh for 500k if I was offered it again then I'd do it. Not saying indefinitely but certainly 3 or 4 times to get 1.5mill or 2 million.

I know a lot on here has been said about the psychological damage but many of us are already psychologically damaged by a lifetime of poverty, do not underestimate the damage poverty does to someone's psyche. 40 years of it here and I'd rather a quick shag to change my life around than live another 40 years of not even being able to enjoy the smallest of life's luxuries.

Leavesandacorns · 13/09/2024 08:45

Yes, absolutely! Would definitely give DH my blessing if someone wanted to pay big money for sex with him too.

I think I'd only feel awful about it if I had to do it. This would be a free choice 🤷‍♀️

Abi86 · 13/09/2024 08:47

The old joke - "so now we know what you are, we’re just negotiating the price".

moonplop · 13/09/2024 08:49

I know a lot on here has been said about the psychological damage but many of us are already psychologically damaged by a lifetime of poverty, do not underestimate the damage poverty does to someone's psyche. 40 years of it here and I'd rather a quick shag to change my life around than live another 40 years of not even being able to enjoy the smallest of life's luxuries

Absolutely agree.

Damnloginpopup · 13/09/2024 08:49

OpalGoose · 13/09/2024 08:21

I'm surprised so many are saying yes. Are you not worried that if it's that easy then you might do it again and again and again........?

With half a million in the bank? Wouldn't need to.

But if it was half a million each time I would.

That's twenty years pay in a shitty job...

Snowdrop90 · 13/09/2024 08:51

Initially I thought yes for X amount however I have since thought with the most repulsive man I know and now the idea isn’t so easy. I don’t think I could as I be psychologically damaged / repulsed with myself for the rest of my life. I think it’s easier hypothetically saying yes to a fictional person but if you imagine someone who repulses you, not so easy for any amount of money.

Dpresst · 13/09/2024 08:56

At this point I’d probably do anything that wouldn’t result in a criminal record.

BettyBardMacDonald · 13/09/2024 08:57

Cobblersorchard · 12/09/2024 23:43

Yes I would, absolutely. I’ve done far worse in my youth!
I’d probably do it for £50k I reckon, £500k and I’d do a whole football team.

Alas I’m fairly sure absolutely no-one would pay £5 these days.

Lol, same here. I'd have to pay them at this point.

NortieTortie · 13/09/2024 08:57

In a heartbeat. 500k would solve all of my worries

BettyBardMacDonald · 13/09/2024 08:58

MarkingBad · 12/09/2024 23:47

I'm over 50 and don't currently have a partner ... a tenner would do, hell I'd probably pay him! 😆

@MarkingBad 🤣🤣🤣

SwanRonsen · 13/09/2024 09:00

Do you get to see the guy before deciding?

Pedallleur · 13/09/2024 09:01

As much £ as possible but its limited in whats available. Missionary ok but no kate price/Dubai antics or worse

betterangels · 13/09/2024 09:02

BoreOffAboutYerChickensEmma · 13/09/2024 00:37

Same.

Wouldnt give a crap if people knew either, I’m in my perimenopause, over 40s life stage where I don’t care about others opinions enough anymore. The gossip would be yesterday’s news soon enough anyway.

Same. And for this reason:

I know a lot on here has been said about the psychological damage but many of us are already psychologically damaged by a lifetime of poverty, do not underestimate the damage poverty does to someone's psyche. 40 years of it here and I'd rather a quick shag to change my life around than live another 40 years of not even being able to enjoy the smallest of life's luxuries

ShinyPebble32 · 13/09/2024 09:03

Yes, if I wasn’t married I’d do it in a heartbeat. There’s no shame around selling sex as far as I’m concerned, it takes a certain skill set that some people have and some people don’t, like any job.
I think all jobs are a type of prostitution - you give away your time, and very often your peace of mind and dignity, for money. For example, I am qualified and experienced in my field, but my job sometimes involves being shouted at by condescending or very angry customers on the phone, people that in my own time I would tell to fuck off in a heartbeat. But I can’t, because I’m being paid to represent a company. That to me is worse and more demeaning than selling sex for money. However the majority of society don’t see it like that.

BettyBardMacDonald · 13/09/2024 09:04

ThatSongStuckInYourHead · 13/09/2024 00:29

No. The idea of a man that thinks he can buy me is repulsive to me.

I think it would have psychological consequences for many who have said yes. Every time you bought something you would be reminded of some grotty man who bought you. <shudder>

I wouldn't think "he bought me," but rather "i sure played him for a fool."