Why are so many people nasty to each other on here

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Honestly, I have never been on a forum where people say such nasty things to each other. Fair enough, I haven't been on many forums, but users on MN will write a whole paragraph trashing each other. The judgemental attitudes on here are atrocious, most of the time over quite menial things. Do people really have that much time on their hands for this?

Some comments do be awful, I sometimes wonder what crappy life people have to type nasty replies.

Some people would bitch in an empty room !

I also noticed that the 1st reply often sets the tone for other replies, it's nearly a race to get in there first, you can often feel the bile pouring out.

I’ve used MN on and off for around a decade now and AIBU has always been catty, it’s kind of the whole point of it. I have added threads to the chat forum on here in the past and received incredible help from people, advice that has genuinely resolved my issues. I’d never post on AIBU because I know how it gets!

This is how women speak to each other sometimes.
HR is filled with disputes and communication problems between colleagues usually females.

This really tickled me. Very true.

Have you not seen TwiX op?

What makes you think anyone else knows who anyfucker is though?

Also, she could be on here as a different name now.... she could literally BE any fucker! 😂

😂

Because they'd never have the bottle to say the things they say to people on here in real life. It's that simple.

That's what makes it so pathetic @Ramblomatic

Indeed. So if someone has a severe inner critic they may be showing up on here as a harsh exterior critic.

I had a good kicking when I posted about my abusive marriage. I'd bet my house none of them bitches would say it to my face though. They'd rather kick a woman about to become a single mum to a 1 year old. And 5 years later I'm delighted I left

Keyboard warriors, unleashing their dissatisfaction with life. They exist on any message board.🤷‍♀️

This is either satire or sad. Of course there are always better things to do. Many of which cost nothing, before you jump on me.

Errr no.

'irritatingly stupid' is an opinion, not a fact

It’s really bad and people just argue the opposite despite what they think

OP, avoid AIBU and you will find kindness, solidarity and incredible generosity in terms of how thoughtfully many posters will advise others reaching out for support. It's been an amazing help to me at various points in my life when I've needed advice.

Exactly. Some posters get nasty about the most innocuous things. Itsjust nastiness for the sake of it imo.

I think there are lot more insidious trolls on here than there were 20 years ago. By that, I mean - trolling tended to be the more fantastical OPs and now it is more snuck into the replies (you only have to look at the deletions through a thread to see that).

Of course there are still plenty of trolling OPs on here. I mean, literally LOADS. So some people will respond snippily if they feel they are being taken for a ride.

But also, the nature of the internet means that people are now used to just quick-firing off any old shit and not really thinking about it. Chat forums have got so huge people don't really have the feeling of pissing off a bunch of mates - it's just randos.

Try being kind on MN and you’ll be eaten alive.
This is no place for the delicate of nature.
Also we are all anonymous, that gives us all courage. 😉😁😁

The best thing I have found to do is not be baited by the nasty comments. Either ignore or answer them very calmly. It takes the fire right out of them as they were hoping to get a rise out of it. Obviously it’s not nice to get those kinds of comments but it happens to everyone on here. And if it gets too much and it is affecting your mental wellbeing, then step away until you feel more resilient.

Absolutely!

And in my opinion a lot of the ‘nastiness’ is because other posters’ opinions align to my own, which is that most of those on the receiving end come across as irritatingly stupid or lacking self-awareness. Obviously as it’s an anonymous online forum people’s reactions will be far more direct that they would be usually acceptable in real life. But that’s the internet. It’s not new or surprising.

When people are clearly in need or seem vulnerable, posters are usually very kind and supportive.

The category of posters who ask Should I Go to A&E are a special case in the intersection of this Venn diagram.