To be furious with neighbours

[ellie09]

I was recently away for the weekend and left my car parked at home.

Came back early this week and noticed mud loads of muck and grass outside their house (they dont own a car so that space is empty and mine is directly beside theirs) and mud all over their fence from what looks like brushing/spraying from cleaning the footpath and their garden.

The mud was sprayed all over my car bonnet and windscreen - it was absolutely filthy.

I came across my neighbour as she was leaving yesterday and asked her was she cleaning outside as it made a lot of mess and its made my car filthy.

She just laughed and said "sure the rain will wash it off, sorry".

In fact, the rain did not "wash it off" and I spent £15 having to get the car cleaned.

I am furious. If I did this I would at least offer to pay for the car wash and not laugh off spraying dirt on someone's car.

AIBU to be pissed at this?

I had my driveway jet washed a few weeks ago by my usual handyman, and unfortunately the debris went over my neighbour's car and her bins etc. She came out to complain (she knows the handyman), so he just went round a cleaned up the mess.

I think it’s a bit sad that people are saying you are being unreasonable. Yes in the grand scheme of problems it isn’t the worst but does that mean we can’t be annoyed at little things? I don’t think it’s much to expect your property to be respected and her response showed she has no respect for others.

Problem Neighbours ??? This is so mild though somewhat annoying I agree. I have lived here for many years in the same house and new people have moved in who have impossibly high standards of neatness of drives and gardens . My old neighbours were lovely but these! They complain about everything , our hedges our lawns rubbish in drive waiting to go to the tip etc etc.

I can see why you are annoyed because of the inconvenience and cost, my husband loves cleaning the car would have thought yep he’s going to love doing that at weekend and I get the telly for a bit haha 🤣🤣🤣 Not everything is a problem sometimes it a quiet little win. You need to find a man who likes cleaning the car!! Chin up lovely, at least your car is making her car and drive look muddy right now. Next time ask to borrow the spray do your own garden she won’t get it out so much 👍

Pretty annoying

Don't let it drive you to drink though

I’m guessing your neighbour is aware you have a debilitating condition? Outrageous to put filth all over your car then say the rain will wash it off. Did the rain clean their drive? She’s unpleasant and it would have annoyed/upset me. Given you are also dealing with MS/Covid I think you’re a saint to even question if you are being unreasonable. Btw you don’t need anyone else’s approval/permission to feel aggrieved. If the previous responders were physically incapable of cleaning their car they’d surely feel the same way. Is it alarmed? Would the jet spray have set it off if the neighbours had attempted to clean it while you were away? Though from her reaction I’m guessing they could care less

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I’m flabbergasted at the agro you’re getting n this post. I too would be furious. It’s incredibly disrespectful of your neighbour. The car was likely bought with your own money that you’ve worked hard to earn, and no one has the right to “mess with” your property in anyway. Your neighbour sounds like a pr*ck. Paying £15 to get your car cleaned though? Get a bucket and sponge and some car shampoo and do it yourself and your £15 will go much further. It’s half hour of your time, and exercise and fresh air. After you’ve finished cleaning your car, dirty wheels included, throw the bucket of dirty water at her front door or better still her windows and say to your nieghbour “Oops sorry I was only cleaning, don’t get so angry about life” . F them.

How do you come to that conclusion?

@Jc2001 Ive explained upthread

If someone drove through a puddle and splashed your car with mud they wouldn't have to pay to get it cleaned, I think it's just one of those things. Cars get dirty. Get a bucket and sponge next time, takes half an hour. I've never paid to have the car washed.

Yup me too. I’d be her washing my drive and making sure the crap is all over the front of their house!

With a bullshit explanation! The windscreen can be cleaned with the wipers and isn't the only part of the car that could be dirty.

You disagree then?😁

You aren’t being unreasonable but it’s not the hill to die on.

@Sidebeforeself 😂😂😂

I'd be upset too. In what way is it ok to cause such a mess to someone's property and then not only not clean it up but basically laugh it off?
It's dreadfully bad manners.
To those who think it's just fine to behave in such a discourteous fashion, where would you draw your line? Making your car filthy is acceptable, what if it was the clean laundry on your washing line? Would that be ok? What if they caught your Ds or Dc with their mucky water as they were walking by? Would you feel fine about that too?
If we want to live in a civilised society, surely we have a duty to behave civilly?

Wow, so glad I don't live next door to either of you. Smearing a biohazard all over a porous surface on the interior of someone's home that would be impossible to fully sanitise, as a reaction to a bit of mud on the exterior of an impenetrable surface that babies are never going to crawl on... And with the malice aforethought to ruin Christmas, when they will have to either live with it for days or evacuate over the festive season (and how much will that cost?). Have you heard the term "overkill"?

Unbelievable. Just WOW.

£15 for a car wash!? Are you having a laugh? £5 for a quick power wash would have sufficed, or even use your own tap and hose for virtually nothing!

Laughing about it might have been a bit off on the neighbours part, but I think your reaction is way OTT. It was a bit of dirt, it wasn't damaged.

Was it absolutely covered in mud, or did it have a few splash marks?
Did she laugh because she didn't care, or because she wasn't sure how to react to someone being "furious" over something that actually isn't a big deal?
This is not something to get "furious" over YABU

If I’d of made mess of your car I’d have cleaned it off

I agree! I'd be really cross!
So her neighbour made a mess over her new car, and OP has to spend time and money getting it cleaned up.....yeah, I'd be really annoyed!

It depends how dirty your car was. If it was some flecks of mud and grass that she could reasonably not have noticed, then YABU - if the car was filthy and covered in clumps of muck then just ask her to pay for the damage now. Say, ‘it cost me £15 to clean my car and I think it would be right for you to pay, considering the state you left it in.’ If you aren’t willing to do that, then I imagine you are overreacting and need to reconsider your priorities in life.

1st world problems - you have a house, a car and a holiday … get over it 😂

Bollocks to that. They deserve to come out to get in the car in the state they left it, not have it covered in muck caused by their neighbours' lack of consideration!

So, by your token, would it be ok if the neighbours broke their windows, or stole their dog, yada yada yada, because they have a house, a holiday and a car?!

Utterly bizarre logic!