To be furious with neighbours

[ellie09]

I was recently away for the weekend and left my car parked at home.

Came back early this week and noticed mud loads of muck and grass outside their house (they dont own a car so that space is empty and mine is directly beside theirs) and mud all over their fence from what looks like brushing/spraying from cleaning the footpath and their garden.

The mud was sprayed all over my car bonnet and windscreen - it was absolutely filthy.

I came across my neighbour as she was leaving yesterday and asked her was she cleaning outside as it made a lot of mess and its made my car filthy.

She just laughed and said "sure the rain will wash it off, sorry".

In fact, the rain did not "wash it off" and I spent £15 having to get the car cleaned.

I am furious. If I did this I would at least offer to pay for the car wash and not laugh off spraying dirt on someone's car.

AIBU to be pissed at this?

Its OK, I think I have realised I used the wrong word.. I am not really "furious", just "annoyed" 😂

The solution's quite simple really. Just clean your car and sweep the dirty water/mud back onto their footpath. "Hope you don't mind, I'm sure the rain will wash it off".

@ellie09 you don’t need to justify yourself to this poster, who is monumentally missing the point in the first place and utterly ignorant in the second.

Your neighbours are out of order.

Have you read the OP’s update about her health?

Or third option… just clean the car when they’ve finished? 🤷‍♂️

Annoyed or irritated is definitely a more normal reaction to your car getting dirty than furious 😁

I would be annoyed or irritated at the car getting dirty but ok, these things happen.

I would be furious about the neighbour's blase reaction.

It’s mud on the car from pressure washing or something. Get over it.

My neighbour used one of those sprayers for paint to paint her fence, so it sprayed right through the gaps in the fence and all over my vegetable patches, everything sprayed with paint. Lettuces, radishes, the fruit trees and fruit growing on them, cabbages, pea pods…. The list goes on. All sprayed with paint. That’s something to be furious about. A fortune in wasted veg and fruit as most couldn’t be eaten.

I would be "furious" about this too - lol

I can also drive with a different chronic condition. It is much easier for me to drive then water the garden with a hose or wash the car. I can drive safely but walking is very painful. Just because the OPs condition effects her doing certain physical tasks doesn't mean it rules her out of doing other things safely.

My neighbours did this except it was paint from spray painting the front of their house and fence.

A bit of muck and grass I couldn't get worked up about. I'd have taken a bucket from the kitchen and washed it down if I didn't want to spend the money.

They were rude op and so are some of these posters. Maybe people would have liked it better if you said “fuming or upset or even good ol angry but that’s just semantics. Yes it’s was very rude and inconsiderate…oh lookee here at our sparkling power washed footpath… too bad it all blew all over op car. And hand washing takes time so I can assure I would have driven to my local car wash also. And of course the rain doesn’t clean it…if that were so car washes wouldn’t exist. And dont ever power wash your car…it can and often does take the paint/finish off. Approach one of your neighbors and say…your pathway dirt landed on my car and because I am unable to wash it myself it cost me 15£ to wash. And then pause….see if the CF catch on and offer to pay you back.

I think you'd have gotten very different responses if you'd said annoyed. Though personally if I'm having a bad day with pain I might feel furious or despairing at having anything else added to my already overwhelming load.

I think I am just very crabby this week as not long after I got home, I also caught covid so the illness has also set me into an MS relapse.. Always the way!

I'm sure I will laugh about it in a few days.. 😂

Your neighbours are incredibly rude: you don't do anything on your own property that negatively impacts your neighbours.

🤣🤣

It’s annoying and any reasonable person would have offered to pay. However, now she’s made your car dirty and made you angry and ruined your day.

Not that I’m very good at following my own advice but that’s what a Buddhist would say🤣

I'd be angry too. It's really hard to get off dried on mud from pressure hoses. Still trying to get ours off porch roof.

These things happen. Our neighbour power washed his patio, not realising the dirt was pouring into our garden. We let it go. No point in falling out with neighbours. I'm sure your neighbour didn't realise what was happening to your car.

Honestly it's no biggy although I'll admit.my hunny would be just as annoyed due to his OCD. Then again I live in an area where the men like to wind each other up so if you'd reacted like that with them they'd then tip bird seed around your car so it gets covered in bird poo. I'd just laugh it off. Maybe just take it through a car wash.

I found the comment from someone else about you driving with a disability meaning you can wash your car not only pathetic but offensive. Can they advise me how I do that in an electric wheelchair with one paralysed arm and unable to walk. I can still drive and my vehicle is adapted for my needs. But washing it myself isn't an option because firstly I'll fry in my electric wheelchair secondly holding a hose pipe and trying to sponge down the car at same time as manoeuvring my wheelchairs not ideal. I can however change a tyre by drawing level with the vehicle to jack it up and using my good arm I use a battery powered nut remover then face it and wiggle the tyre forward onto my footrest then wheel to one side and put the new one on in reverse.

I'd be annoyed, and I don't get annoyed that easily really. But I also don't know anyone that wouldn't have already washed your car for you or who wouldn't offer to wash it. Unreasonable expecting them to pay though for something that could have been done at home.

So you’d be ok if your neighbour sprayed shite over your car/garden/property? And then laughed it off?
I prefer to live in an environment where people show a little consideration for each other.

Is thread is wild.

Cars don't get so dirty you can't drive them. As long as the wheels can move, they move. Even if they don't move, they can be made to and the car still dirty. This poster was probably the most batshit.

Why should she have to pay or clean it herself? They could have done this while they were cleaning whatever and the face they didn't have the foresight to avoid it or clean it is really shit.

We don't all have hoses or buckets and car sponges or the ability to use them.

Neighbour is a cunt as are most of the posters here.

Well I wouldn't have been happy and as a neighbour would have sprayed the hose over your car to clean it.

Yes it was rude they didn't give it a spray clean after, we all need to be a bit more considerate to each other.

Fortunately my neighbours are lovely both sides and we help each other out. X

I can fully understand the OP's outrage.
My sister had a very similar incident several years ago.
She did a sales job, and it was expected of her to rock up to her clients with a gleaming car because the state of the car was believed to project the image of the company.
This particular weekend, my sis & her DH went away for the weekend, she'd had the car detailed on Thursday and believed it would fine for her to come back to work on the Monday.
They returned from their weekend away to find their ndn had done exactly as the OP's had done.
She got a similar reaction, so she took the car to be redone on Monday morning, then put the bill for the cleaning plus the time she'd lost from work to get it done, through the ndn's door.
They made it clear that they didn't want to pay it, but my sis had been really good to them previously, so she said she would settle for them paying for the cleaning that they'd caused her to need doing, which they did eventually pay.
From that day on, they were more careful when they hosed the pathway down. I think they were scared that she would present them with another bill!