To send a birthday text at 6pm

[Trufflebutter24]

It’s my cousins little boys birthday today. I see my cousin as an older sister and love her and her son and see them often.
Today was her sons 2nd birthday and I had planned to ring this morning but we were late on the school run and I didn’t get a chance.
I had the most intense day at work, and I could have text her during the day but I wanted to call and so I waited till I got home and text the minute I got in.

My kids got home at 7, I rang as soon as they got in but expected it would be too late, so sent a video of us singing.

The only response I got was “too late?”. To which I apologised.

I know feel absolutely terrible, I didn’t forget the day but now maybe she thinks I did? I’m sitting beating myself up now.

Am I out of order?

DDs birthday is in the school holidays , we've always had multiple celebrations on completely random days because friends and family are often away. We joke that she's like the queen and one birthday is not enough!

I agree. You have no need to feel terrible OP, your cousin is a bitch.

Just stop.

YANBU. Life happens. It’s his birthday all day long. And with little ones it’s birthdays every day. Your cousin needs to get over herself. It’s never too late.

She's being ridiculous. Main character syndrome. I think I would reply, "sorry, not sure I understand what you mean?"

Yes, probably 3 or 4 I would imagine.

OP you are not out of order. You had a busy day and sent a message when you were able. Today is my birthday and unless I’m clearly mistaken it is still my birthday and will be until the clock hits 12am tonight! People have busy lives so if someone messages me at 11pm then I appreciate that message as they’ve taken time out of their busy life to wish me a happy birthday. Some people need to get a grip

Hi op,

you are both, of course, being emotional about it. Your both hearts are in the right place. It is evident.

forgive and move on. You know you weren’t great. She knows her reaction wasn’t great. You are important to each other. Let’s just agree to do better next time.

🌺

Yes, I agree.
Why try to make you feel bad?
Kid doesn't know anyway.
When they do, it's a bit different

I don't see the issue. If he's having a party at the weekend then his birthday is already being acknowledged over more than one day, which I imagine is perfectly normal for most young kids. If anything, getting presents on more than one day is extra fun when you're little no?

I get you had a busy day and didn’t actually forget but to her, you’re a close family member and you did this late in the day. I do think it could easily come across that you forgot so did this quickly when you got home and remembered. If it had been her birthday she probably wouldn’t have minded and understood your day was hectic but it’s her child and some people take these things really personally.

Well I think it's a bit slack of you op.

You didn't text all day, did you actually send one at 6? Did you try to call at 7 but she didn't answer.
She was rude but I'd assume you'd forgotten/ CBA. It was the latter.

Personally for my sister I would have text first thing saying “happy birthday!” And that I would call later on. Maybe she thought you had forgotten. To be honest when I get message that late I assume that they’ve forgotten and Facebook has reminded them! Which is fine as I’m an adult and I’m not arsey about it but if you say you two are that close she was probably wondering why she hadn’t heard from you all day

This makes most sense. He's asleep and that is why it's too late.

Perfectly OK, he can celebrate a bit more tomorrow! He can have a birthday week! His mum is being a bit precious.

OP, I’m the master of brevity when it comes to texting as it takes me ages, what with predictive text. I then beat myself up because people might have thought I was being rude. Your cousin probably meant her DC had gone to sleep and you had missed them.

There would have been a much nicer way of saying that though, which wouldn’t. Have left the OP feeling bad, when they have done nothing wrong!

Ah right OK sorry op. You're good til next year

Explain, apologise next time send a text and card with a voucher

There would have been a much nicer way of saying that though, which wouldn’t. Have left the OP feeling bad, when they have done nothing wrong!

Oh yeah I get that. It's just a shame it's caused ill feeling really

No excuses, that was plain rude. A simple " thank you" would have been much better.

The kid is 2, he doesn't care! It wouldn't occur to me to send a happy birthday video to a 2 year old, so you've already gone above and beyond.

Am sure will be fine at the weekend

I "schedule" messages on SMS when I think about them. In fact I've scheduled nephews birthday wishes tonight at 9pm ish to be sent 9.25am tomorrow. I also scheduled a message last week to be sent to a colleague on Sunday afternoon reminding her I'm covering her shift on Monday

Is there such an option for sms’s? Never new