Is DH is being weird about the neighbours

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DH is doing my head in, basically being a weird af curtain twitcher

To be fair he’s much more of a “chat to the neighbours” type person and I barely know any of their names. I’ll just smile/wave if I see them in the morning and carry on with my life. That’s always been our dynamic and never been an issue.

We have been going through some significant issues TTC and our neighbours are having a baby. Their due date is any day now and it’s made DH crazy? Every time he hears their car he’s peeking to see if they might be going to the hospital or coming back with the baby? The other day he came in like “I’ve just seen Dave installing the car seat, it must be soon”

On one hand it’s nice he’s excited for them but he’s taking it way too far imo. When I’ve tried to tell him that I’m finding it a bit much he’s said I am being miserable

I know I’m a bit tetchy but I’m not being mean spirited about it.. I have even bought them a present and card etc for when the baby is here.

Someone please help me understand why he’s gone crazy because I’m on my last nerve 😂

I guess the test now will be whether he carries on, or whether it was short-term baby excitement.

I don't know many curtain twitchers in their 20s. I think it's probably something that does begin when people are older... So it's possible that he is now going to update you about the weird car on the street/an ambulance outside number 60/a weird dog walker/a strange egg smell/etc that's happening outside. In that case, I think you'll just have to find some coping mechanisms for you - perhaps headphones, or just nodding and smiling?

If it stops, I would presume that it is linked to TTC for him, and perhaps wanting to feel some of the excitement and joy around an impending birth, even if he's "borrowing" that from a neighbour. I'd try and keep that in mind even if they weren't feelings that he's fully acknowledged or verbalised yet... and then I'd be glad that it had stopped 😆

All the best with your TTC journey, too.

I'd also have a very low tolerance of that kind of nosiness. I'm sure the neighbours wouldn't appreciate having their movements scrutinised. It would really turn me off him if it continued.

I’m sure you’ll be pleased to know he has gone back to his usual non curtain twitching self and peace is restored 😂

Great! So it was temporary baby fever.

I hope he is considering getting some counselling, TTC can be hard on the male partner as well as the female.

Oh really? I had no idea and made no attempt to discuss this with him 🙄

Have they had the baby already or does he just get bored easily 😂

Op replied they’ve had baby

im sure with an attitude like that he’s happy with you

Does he have a sicial life and friends?
He probably feels excited for the baby and a sense of having an aquaintance.
Perhaps he enjoys it and wishes he was friends.
A people person.

I don’t understand why you've repeatedly said “TTC is hard on the man too”. When I’ve said we’ve talked/I have tried to talk about it. I’m not naive to the fact, I have said as much. We’ve had multiple miscarriages and have supported each other throughout (something else I’ve stated) so I’m obviously don’t believe he’s just skipping along happy because he’s “getting lots of sex” … so How is you repeating the same thing useful?

Anyway, for all of you so worried about my DH. Like I said they’ve had the baby - he’s agreed that he did have a couple of weeks of being a bit bonkers and doesn’t really know why. But he was happy to give their neighbours the present and their baby is really cute, they bought her round for a little snuggle.

He sees his friends, plays a sport three times a week and we share a hobby which do on occasion with a small group. He is on the parish council too! We are going to wait for our appointments now (one for endo clinic in December, still waiting on the recurrent miscarriage one but it will by all accounts still be a while) and go from there. I won’t be replying to this thread anymore but with luck we might be updating you on our very own baby when the time comes, and I’m sure he will be wonderful. Probably will be a PTA Dad knowing him 😂

So a little update: yesterday I had an absolute meltdown over something minor. Thought “that was weird”

This morning I had a positive pregnancy test.

I have an IUD so shitting myself a bit but cautiously hopeful

@Avocando This morning I had a positive pregnancy test.
I have an IUD so shitting myself a bit but cautiously hopeful
confused! you are trying to conceive but have an IUD inserted?????

I had it a couple of months ago to see if it would help endometriosis symptoms while I was waiting for an appointment at the recurrent miscarriage clinic. The wait has been really long and emotional so it seemed a good idea to have a little break from TTC and try and relieve some symptoms. The clinic told me it was fine to do.

the test might be wrong? Idk. I’ll be calling the GP/clinic monday

Fingers crossed for you OP.
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