Would you have your own bedroom if you had space

[spanieleyes22]

So a friend of friend is moving house and she has said that the main bedroom which is en suite and has a teeny balcony is going to be her room. She's having a dressing table and fitted wardrobes and the bathroom is hers alone. Her husband is taking a bedroom across the landing next to one of her sons and is sharing a bathroom with him. (Other children are up on next floor).

Would you if you could 🤣

We have the space but haven't succumbed yet - if his snoring gets worse I may decamp. My own bathroom is non negotiable though.

No. The 5min before we fall asleep is the only 5min of the day that we communicate.

Yes if we weren't lucky enough to have our own houses

We have the space but we still choose to sleep together.

We each have a hobby room so we

With my ex in a heartbeat (and we did sleep separately for years) with my DH never. He is my cuddly security blanket. I adore him next to me 🥰

I'd rather have my own little living room than my own bedroom.

We don't 'go to sleep cuddling' (I'd actually hate that) but I generally find it easier for either of us to initiate an impromptu shag when sharing a bed. Also we both like to read in bed and listen to the radio together and chat.

Yes I already do. Absolutely love it. I sleep so much better.

This needs to be a vote...

Kind of scary (for me at least) how many people don't actually want to sleep with their partner.

I do. My husband sleeps in the main bedroom all the time, and keeps his clothes in there. During the week I sleep in the little spare bedroom, which is decorated to please me, and at weekends I go in the main room. The third bedroom is my dressing room, with all my clothes and my dressing table. The advantage of this is that if anyone comes to stay they can go in the spare bedroom without me losing access to my stuff. The dressing table is also where we dry clothes when it rains, so the rest of the house doesn’t feel like a laundry.

We have separate rooms and I love it! The reasons are as follows:

• DH snores which prevents me from sleeping
• We go to bed and get up at slightly different times due to work schedules so would disturb each other
• i like to sleep in silence, DH likes to fall asleep to podcasts
• I like to be cosy with hot water bottle in autumn/winter but DH finds it too hot
• I have IBS in the mornings and disturb DH by being back and forth to the loo
• i like to have a room filled with my clothes, hair stuff, makeup, mirror, dressing table, etc whereas DH likes to be in a very uncluttered room with just a bed and his clothes in a wardrobe
• probably other reasons I’ve forgotten

And our sex life is better now we don’t share a room when sleeping.

We still share a room on holiday but that’s different as you’re not getting up for work etc. and it’s all a different routine. I can manage with earplugs for the snoring for a few nights.

It's scary how many men snore.

Why would I divorce someone who I love and trust and get on amazingly well with and have fabulous sex with just because we don’t like being next to each other while unconscious?

😂

We have spare rooms now the kids have left so if he starts snoring or is unwell we have options. I don’t think we would like to have official separate rooms.

Lol. Course you are pal.

It's just the two of us and our two biggest bedrooms are identical in size. We both have a king size bed and it's amazing. I have a dressing table in mine and we share the wardrobes in my room as well.

I would never not have this set up.

Hell yes. In an ideal world there'd be a double bedroom for each person, then they can spend time in the others room or bed when they want but go in their own space when they don't.

I geniunely like sleeping next to my partner so no this wouldn’t work for me but what works for you might not others so go ahead and live life how you’d want

Anyway, I have my own room. It's great - we have different sleeping habits, and both of us are liable to snore.

I've no objection whatever to sleeping with my DH, it's the being in bed together when one or both of us wants to be asleep but can't due to the other which is the issue!

No you don’t, don’t be ridiculous. No reputable therapist goes around saying things like that. You’re either lying, or you’re very bad at your job.

I already do! Best decision we made.

I slept in the same bed as my husband happily for over 25 years and then suddenly my sleep became as light as a feather and my husbands snoring became an issue. We bed hopped for a while and in the end now sleep separately. My sleep isn't that much better actually however the stress has gone so for us it's been worth it! If people don't have issues they wouldn't need to fix them would they? 😂

I do and I have!
Perfect, we each have a bedroom, ensuite and dressing room"
Occasional we have to bunk in with each other if we have a full house and that can be fun!

I would never share a bed with a man after the bliss of having my own room and bed set up exactly as I want it!
No more snoring, farting, being kicked in his sleep or groped awake.