Would you have your own bedroom if you had space

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So a friend of friend is moving house and she has said that the main bedroom which is en suite and has a teeny balcony is going to be her room. She's having a dressing table and fitted wardrobes and the bathroom is hers alone. Her husband is taking a bedroom across the landing next to one of her sons and is sharing a bathroom with him. (Other children are up on next floor).

Would you if you could 🤣

We have this set up although we do have nights together as well. We both have different sleeping patterns and a few health issues and sleep is scared. It really works for us.

I like sharing a bedroom.

my dream house has 2 en-suites for the master bedroom and separate closets.

No, although I decamp to the spare room if DH snores too much BUT my dream is separate bathrooms. We have just come back from a month overseas and there were two bedrooms with ensuites so I used the one in our bedroom and he used the other. Bliss.

Yes, absolutely.

I have my own room. DH has the main bedroom which has room for his office set up for wfh, his hobby, and a lounge area and an en suite. We spend most of our evening there together and when one of us wants to sleep or have some space I go to my room which has my hobby set up in one corner. I use the en suite if DH isn’t sleeping and the family bath if he is.

Not super keen on the bathroom situation, would really like my own ensuite, but absolutely love having my own room.

Yes I do. I'm just decorating it at the moment but when it's finished it's mine all mine. I snore so it's the best way to maximise our sleep quality.

Yes I do I love it - no snorer waking me up and I don’t wake him up with my insomnia and then we split nights with the baby monitor so both get chunks of sleep

Id love ( in my dream house never going to happen house - bedrooms like the queen had in the crown bedrooms joined by a living shared space but the ability to have your own space … together not together

My husband wouldn't like it but I kind of would. I'd like to be able to switch on a light if I get up in the middle of the night or morning without him crying out rather than me stumbling around in the dark. Also, nice to have a bit more of my own schedule.

Yes. My husband sleeps on the sofa a lot and also works away. I'm used to having my own bed.

I do. Sleep is so much better and is nice to have my own space.

God no! I know it works for lots of people but for me personally if we started sleeping separately it would announce the death of our marriage.
We're very tactile and go to sleep cuddled up. Once we've dropped off we then face away from each other but we'll still be touching feet or holding hands.

Friend of mine and her DH have had separate rooms for years, majority of their 20 odd year marriage. She likes light, electronics / screens and he likes quiet, dark and to read a book. They are perfectly happy.

I’m absolutely with you, Ponderingwindow. I’m very happy to have a cuddle with my DH before we fall asleep (even though he snores) and I really wouldn’t want not to share a bed, but I would love my own bathroom!

Own room here
Absolute bliss !

I've had my own bedroom for over 10 years now - neither of us ever slept properly in one bed so when the spare bedroom was redone I moved right in.

When we bought a house in france we went for 3 bedrooms, one for each of us and one for when the cat won't move off one of the beds.

Just kidding, we didn't have a cat at the time, he just turned up here and decided to never leave. It was originally for family and friends to stay in.

I wouldn't want separate bedrooms but I do like separate duvets as I like to get tangled up in mine and don't sleep well having to share it

No way. I like cuddling. I wouldn’t feel as close and it would feel like I was living with a flat mate than a husband.

My problem isn't sharing a bed with DH but the bedroom itself. I always had my own room as a child and the one thing I've struggled with living with DH or with a previous boyfriend was the sense of not having my own sanctuary just how I wanted it. I love DD's room in our house so, eventually, might get that set up as my space but still sleep in our room.

Yes. My retirement aim is to have my own bedroom right next to DHs.

I am a much tidier person than him which means I feel slighlty down the whole time I am in our bedroom. I know could just pick up after him but I would then resent that too. He also snores and our weight difference is big so it's hard to get a comfy bed.

No. I love sharing with DH, but couples should do what works for them if they have the luxury.

No, I like sharing bed with my husband, but appreciate how lucky I am that a) we have room for a super king bed and b) we both sleep reasonably well, or at least, if one of us has a bad night it's quiet (no snoring or flailing around).

I don't think it's any kind of death knell for a relationship either way, people should do what suits them as a couple and surely being well rested leads to greater happiness!

We manage this by DH having the 4th bedroom as his "man cave" ( hate the term) but yes all his memorabilia, gaming etc. I have the downstairs office which is kitted out with all my favourite things, posters etc. And whilst we share the main bedroom, the en suite is mine, he uses the main bathroom, something he offered when our house became over run with men 😂 (we have sons!)

But yes I like sharing a bed! So long as it's a good size!

We have separate rooms. We both sleep so much better.
Sometimes we share if we have guests , I hate it.
I'm such a light sleeper and I'm awake a lot in the night.

If there was space, definitely. DH has had a CPAP machine for years.