How can they not see the washing basket is full... and other things

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I don't understand how men can't see that the washing basket is full to bursting and just keep putting stuff into it.

Or say 'that bin really stinks' and walks away 'it really needs emptying'

Or goes to the shops to buy toothpaste for his forthcoming trip but none for the house (on the last dregs, none in the drawer)

So many girl friends say 'they just don't see it' but how!!

Laziness and nothing more!

Some of it's because we let them!
I used to sigh & do everything but I have a stern word now& dh wouldn't dare pull that bin stunt anymore!

Yes, because they have been taught that it's not important for them to notice and that there will be no bad outcome if they refuse to take action.

Tbf I do that about the bins rather than DH

I just got home and heard the tumble drier was on, and the dishwasher and the hoovering done. OH working from home bless him and he walked the dog. I think he's gonna ask if we can have Thai takeaway later!!

Does he do his fair share around the house or do you usually do everything? When I lived at home, I wouldn't have noticed toothpaste or the bins because my parents took care of it. I didn't have to worry about it.

If you divide out chores and make sure he pulls his weight, for example he's now in charge of the laundry or it doesn't get done, then I'm sure he'll notice.

On the toothpaste thing, my exh was even worse. We always had our own toothpastes as he traveled a lot with work but if was running out of his he would grab mine before going away so then I’d get to the bathroom at 11pm ready to brush my teeth and of course he’d taken my toothpaste and not said anything. Made me fucking furious every time.

Because they're lazy. Like my kids seem to be with replacing toilet roll.

To be fair, I don't empty the bin. I refuse to use it. Everyone crams stuff in, it starts to stink, bag splits when you pull it out...I use a biodegradable bag on the back of the kitchen door and throw it out daily.

Because he thinks it's your job, and you're going along with it.

Because the house elf will be along soon to take care of it.

This is why I have seperate washing baskets. If he has no pants to wear it's his own fault.
He is good with the bins mind.

TOILET ROLL! That last little sheet just gets left there as if it's enough for the next person.

He's made dinner tonight (he's been working from home all day) but still no washing.

Of course they see it. They just know that if they pretend not to, you will do it instead.

It’s not something my DH has ever done.

Neither my DH nor my young adult DS live like that. It’s not a man thing, it’s a lazy prick + enabling partner thing.

Because its facilitated by whoever they live with.

Just have set jobs each that you do each day, none of this waiting around for the washing basket to be full, just put a wash on every day, empty the bins before work, cook on x,y,z night etc

I put a basket of clean washing at the bottoms of the stairs to take up next time I'm going up and he will step over it rather than take it up with him. I often wonder if life would be easier alone

This is why I have seperate washing baskets. If he has no pants to wear it's his own fault.

Indeed. And at aged 10 DS is starting to learn how to do his own washing.

They see it

They also know it's not their problem as you will sort it.

That's how it goes

Put it in their car. Then they'll notice!

Friend of mine calls it Male Fridge Blindness.

"Oh, I didn't know there were sausages in the fridge, I'd have eaten them if I'd known."

This clip explains

Oh the bins.
Husband used to stress every week about the bins. We would lose the wheelie bin by 10am the day BEFORE bin day, then the ruddy thing wouldn't return until 2 days AFTER it had been emptied. Grrrr. And it used to take him a good 20 minutes to take it down the drive too. Adamant that it was HIS job. Mind you, it was the only thing he ever really did.

This is BRILLIANT

I blame mothers of sons. They mollycoddle them and I'm sure many just do it for their own self gratification, as they love to 'mother' but they smother. And teach their sons zero life skills in having a happy relationship once they leave home.