To not want random teenagers in my house daily?

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Genuinely don’t know if IABU and an old grumpy git.

I have two 18YO. They work shifts, I WFH 9-5(ish).

Every single day, they appear at home with friends. Often in the daytime as I’m working. They don’t ask first. Sometimes it’s one of them, often it’s both of them.

But I am SO sick of it. The noise and disruption. The lack of courtesy in not even letting me know. The fact it’s completely pointless, as sometimes they’re just appearing with friends to pick stuff up and then leave again a few minutes later, so their friends don’t even need to be here. And I just don’t want 3-4 random people in my house every single day!

It is starting to drive me demented. I don’t want to say their friends can’t come over, but surely every day, multiple times a day, without even letting us know they’re bringing people over is a bit much?!

If it’s relevant, they pay zero in rent/board and contribute nothing to the house in terms of chores either, but that’s a different story (and something I will be changing, quickly).

Maybe you need to compromise and say no friends round on x day/s so you know you’ve got a day of peace.

when you’re working can you limit them to a place in the house where they won’t disturb you?

My son always brought his friends over, and to be honest I preferred that as I had no worries about where he was or what he was doing. He fetched one friend over who ended up as a lodger for 18 years! I guess unless they are disturbing your work, you should be proud that your kids are happy to have their friends around you - lots get to a certain age and pretend that they don't have parents!

I wish DS brought friends back but he’s autistic and finds it extremely difficult to make friends. Count your blessings and stop whining.

People saying they love having their teens friends over. That's great.

But the op doesn't.