To be freaked out about what DD is saying.

[Outandabout43]

On holiday with DD just gone 4 and DSS. DD has just come to me and said mummy I have a question. I asked her what the question was and she asked if she could go to the beach she went to with her other mummy. I asked who her other mummy was and she went on to tell me her other mummy was jody and she lived in a big house, she said she had 2 mummy's at her other mummy's house. She went on to say it was next to the beach and she flew a kite when it was really windy, it blew away and other mummy couldn't catch it. She said her other mummy had a baby in her tummy and the doctor had to pull it out.

I answered by telling her we can go to the beach tomorrow, but the one by the caravan. She said okay, I've got no more questions I'm going to bed now 🤷‍♀️

It’s just something kids do - even if they aren’t in a blended family, they read books and meet their friends families and hear what they do, and they imagine scenarios as a way of figuring out the world.

Remembering her past life is not that unusual

My youngest son was about 4 years old when one day while on a day trip out he said his other Mummy used to bring him here all the time. I said, no pet I haven't brought you here before. He said no. not you Mummy, my other Mummy, the Mummy I had before you, then I died and was born to you.

Well OK then son...Never mentioned again

I had such vivid 'memories' or they could have been dreams? as a child of another mother...I even cried and asked if I was adopted although I'm definitely not.
It's a strange one but something I've always remembered.

Like PP I had an imaginary friend. A place was set for her at the table and all sorts.

I had a similar ish…thing from my Dd when she was just 5, I posted it on here I think. She came and told me she had a dream that I was in a garden over the fence and had two daughters who looked just like me (Dd doesn’t at all) I’ve had two losses before. She said they were swinging on ropes and I was knitting lots (I don’t knit) then she was calling me and then I died 😢and I woke up.
Just all a bit weird, I remember getting goosebumps

My kid has also just turned 4 and talks a whole lot of shite. Don't worry about it.

I love how there are so many things little kids just seem to know or imagine and create - and we always say they grow out of it, but perhaps it’s more that we have quite restrictive ways of thinking and behaving that we drill into them and each other to align with what we consider normal, acceptable and true in our societies.

There’s so much more to our worlds than we can possibly know.

Some things are very interesting and random mind - like did anyone else have dreams of driving a car when young? I did, very vivid and the exact way and feel as it truly feels to change gears, check for hazards, use lights and make turns etc. And I was pretty young at the time so of course would not have known how it actually felt to drive. Definitely one particular road in the dark as a country lane cropped up a lot and as an adult I drove on it and realised it was the same road, in a totally different part of the county to where I grew up, had never been there before. It was uncanny as it was dark just the same and felt very familiar like i’d already driven it just as in my dream as a kid.

If it was my dd I would bet my bottom dollar it's something she's picked up from a YouTube video she watches.

When my eldest son was about 3 or 4 he freaked me out by talking about his “ other mum and dad”, who apparently died in a car crash! He also had an “imaginary “ friend who he called “ the other (his name)” !!!
He’s 32 now…. He cringes when I remind him. It still freaks me out! My other two didn’t do or say anything like this.

When he was 5 my son asked me why the old lady in my room was there. I was like, what old lady? I see her in your room all the time mummy, she has curly hair, and wears shoes with floof on them. She’s always with a little dog that looks like Jessie (his dads dog) but she’s fat and bald.
he was describing my grandmother and her dog, she died 3 years before he was born, and he had no idea that the house we moved to was hers and my room her old room that she shared with that dog.
I’m not a woo person, but I don’t know how to explain it. He’s autistic so he doesn’t have a crazy imagination and definitely not at that age.
🤷🏼‍♀️

Don't worry my daughter does exactly the same! 3.5 years old and DH and I were completely taken aback and a bit spooked when on the way back from Scotland on a windy and dark road, she started telling us about 'mum' and 'dad', which is not us ('mummy' and 'daddy'). Mum and dad are loaded, they live together in a mansion in Notting Hill that she showed us. But sometimes they also live in a tree, I guess inflation hits us all.

We've all been here before, and we'll all return. Children are just better at remembering past lives.

I agree with you @BubblegumLolly. People on MN immediately "woo" it cos they've never done any research into it.

Buddhism for a start has it as a basic belief.

It's the DSS situation that has her puzzled.

Maybe she and DSS have been chatting and he told her he has a mum somewhere else, and she's working it all out in her own little way.

Yes to this.

Next they will have an ice cream van.

Sounds like she may be processing family dynamics.

*Genuine question, with past lives, why does it seem that a disproportionate number of people were handmaidens to Cleopatra, or Viking princesses, or Aztec sacrifices, or on the Titanic? Why aren’t there many people who were agricultural labourers in the arse end of nowhere who never did anything or went anywhere?

Also, how does it square with there being more people alive today than have ever been alive in the history of mankind*

I’m 50/50 torn re reincarnation, and these are definitely the two aspects that make me torn.

There was only one Cleopatra, Mark Antony, Julius Caesar, Joan of Arc, Boudica etc, yet if you listen to people who claim to have had past lives there are thousands of each of these individuals. Extremely rarely does anyone ever believe that they were a shit kicker peasant who just worked 16 hours a day in a field and died aged 19yo of an infected impacted wisdom tooth, which would clearly be more of a reality than being (yet another) Joan of Arc.

I also struggle with the number of people now versus previously, and whether souls can/do jump species if souls do exist. Can you be a Galapagos tortoise or rat or ant one day and person the next or vice versa? Thats the only way it could work. For example a decreasing number of ants but increasing number of humans. The barrier here for me is that I have never heard of anyone referring to their past life when they were an ant, or a fish, or an antelope which makes me think this doesn’t happen. That then circles back to the ever increasing number of people outrunning the number of souls to be returned.

Religious belief is just that, it is not scientific evidence or proof. Feel free to share any links though.

That's a review of people who asked children about past lives. It doesn't prove such a thing exists, because it's impossible to prove.

Our young DS talks a lot about his magic brother, who has an extraordinary name that is far too distinctive to put here because everyone knows, it's like Ruddy-faced Sparrow. They used to live together in a town he has named that is far away and he's never been to. They both had specific professions, children. It's fascinating and I love to hear the ever- extending stories.

Well you said it yourself. If you’re fluent in science linguo you know exactly what it means 👍

Why do you think you remember them then, if they don't exist?

Children have very vivid imaginations.

I would ask her where her other mummy comes from, see if she is projecting due to the family dynamics. She is at the age that her imagination is starting to develop but I would ask if she is worried about having another family.

Yet it come be past life memories because she said two mommies regardless of progress’s we have made not many 4 year olds unless living in a same sex family would consider two mommies they normally just follow the norm, mom dad etc.

I would just explore the information with her in a fun none leading way.

My DD used to do this all the time when she was really diddy maybe three she’d often talk about when she was a boy and her other mummy and daddy, apparently they died in a bear attack. One time we were walking somewhere and she was waving, smiling and saying high to an older girl as if she knew her I asked who she was and she said that was her sister when she was a boy…. She’s 7 now and cannot remember any of it.