To be freaked out about what DD is saying.

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On holiday with DD just gone 4 and DSS. DD has just come to me and said mummy I have a question. I asked her what the question was and she asked if she could go to the beach she went to with her other mummy. I asked who her other mummy was and she went on to tell me her other mummy was jody and she lived in a big house, she said she had 2 mummy's at her other mummy's house. She went on to say it was next to the beach and she flew a kite when it was really windy, it blew away and other mummy couldn't catch it. She said her other mummy had a baby in her tummy and the doctor had to pull it out.

I answered by telling her we can go to the beach tomorrow, but the one by the caravan. She said okay, I've got no more questions I'm going to bed now 🤷‍♀️

I have no advice but my friends little girl is 7 now and friend is a single parent dad walked away from pregnancy only ever been her and my friend. My friends mum and us as her friends were the only other females before school.
She calls her mum mum and always has but says she's not her actual mum "you're just mum cos I live with you" "my other mum was my mum first" or calls her by her first name since she's been old enough to know my friend has a name. She is absolutely adamant that my friend isn't her mum 🤷‍♀️ when she was younger my friend was her mum but the other one was mummy. She tells everyone that my friend isn't her mum 🤦‍♀️

She's 4, she's got a good imagination and has made up a story. Nothing to freak out about. You have a SS, so she's aware that some children have two families.

This cracked me up 😂

Oh, come on, this is something she's seen on TV, or heard a story about, or been told about by a friend. No woo to find here, folks.

No, we haven't.

When my now adult nephew was little, they were driving past the cemetery and he turned to my sister and said "that's where my last mummy left me" and pointed to the cemetery.

When my youngest was about 3 he told me in great detail about the last time he was big. He said he worked outside digging things up and he rode a bicycle, and someone ran him over on his bicycle and his chest was hurting everyone was sad and then when the man asked him, he said he would like another family.

If you ask a pre school child to tell you about the last time they were big, of they remember they will tell you, and normally its so bizarre for a kid to say, they couldn't be making it up. My friends little girl said she was a man and a fell off a tractor and hurt her head.

There's books by Dr Brian Weiss about all this stuff.

Genuine question, with past lives, why does it seem that a disproportionate number of people were handmaidens to Cleopatra, or Viking princesses, or Aztec sacrifices, or on the Titanic? Why aren’t there many people who were agricultural labourers in the arse end of nowhere who never did anything or went anywhere?

Also, how does it square with there being more people alive today than have ever been alive in the history of mankind?

My son goes on about his "big sister" all the time. He is my eldest and has no big sister. Sometimes the stories are plausible but he seems to always take them too far. Husband and I think he could definitely string along a researcher for a past lives programme but he is essentially a professional bullshitter. He also had an imaginary friend named Toothache.

Isn't this around the age when there tend to be huge leaps in imagination/pretend play? Apparently I once told my mum, 'When I was a bird...' My mum loves that anecdote (she's quite woo and thinks it had significance) but I was probably just getting my words mixed up/having a daydream.

My dd once told me about her 17th birthday when she was a boy, her birthday present was a record apparently: I had no idea how she could have known about records as she was only 3 and we have no records in our house.

i did see and episode of peppa pig s while later where granny and grandpa pig play some old records so maybe she got it from that. No idea why she said she once a 17 year old boy though!

Around this age I can distinctly saying things to my Mum and have the very vivid memories of the following;

1. Where did the sheep dog go? The big dog that lived in your bedroom mummy when the two men lived here and closed up the fireplace? (the fireplace in her bedroom had indeed been boarded up before I was born).
2. I saw you and Daddy before I was born. A big red and yellow helicopter hovered over the park and a lady and man with blonde hair wearing jumpsuits were in the helicopter with Jack and Tim (kids from preschool) and me and they said we had to choose our parents and you were in the park with Daddy and you looked up and pointed at the helicopter and I said I want them to be my Mummy and Daddy and the man and lady sent me into your tummy and it was dark and I slept and then I was born.
3. Mummy, in the time before, the smiley man that lives in that house there in the corner, when it was history, he used to kidnap little girls. He had a big stone fireplace and tools like a blacksmith and he was polishing his big knife on his apron that was like leather because he used to kill then skin all the little girls. He kidnapped me when I was a little girl before but he had long hair and he wasn’t a nice man like now and I woke up in his house and he smiled at me but he’d made a big fire and was polishing his big knife and then I don’t remember. I think he killed me. Did he skin me too Mummy? He killed lots of little girls. I thought he was handsome but he’s a bad man mummy, please don’t think he’s nice mummy.

I can still see these “memories” in my head. I still don’t walk past the house from number 3! I don’t know HOW I knew some of the things I knew (like what a Blacksmith was) but looking at it as an adult, I’m convinced I’d been mixing up dreams and reality.

The sheepdog was, I think, the Dulux dog which was a popular TV advert. The helicopter most likely came from Challenge Annika.

No idea about 3 but I think it was a nightmare. Our brains are absorbing a lot of information as young kids and has to process it all in our sleep.

Don’t be freaked out!

My granddaughter is exactly the same! Her flights of fancy are often incredibly detailed. I didn't see anything surprising about the OP. Kids have great imaginations and many like to try out their new ideas by expressing then as fact. They don't mean anything, they're just telling a story in the most direct way they know. They grow out of it.

Being cynical about isn't bad, but reading things like The Tibetan Book of the Dead and The Tibetan Book of the Living and Dying certainly opens your mind, as well as some very centuries old books you can get copies of (I've got a ton I came across while reading up on demons and pagan gods)

Also I have a really clear memory of telling my mum I could remember being in her tummy and describing it to her. I was completely making it up though.

Kids have got amazing imaginations.
We don't get scared when they tell us they were a tiger or ate an iceberg or just got back from the moon.

This stuff is no different.
They are little sponges and absorb more than we realise. combine that with imagination and you've got really quite amazing stories.

But that's all they are.

There are currently more people on the planet than there have ever been before so how can everyone have been here before? There must sometimes be some 'fresh' people even if reincarnation is a thing.

If you want to look badly educated , do it

My daughter had another mummy that apparently allowed her to do all things that i didnt allow, such as going to the park by herself at age 3.

I have 5 year old girls and one of them has had another mother (not mummy or mum a very deliberate Mother) for about 2 years.

I just humour and smile now 😂 she has a very active imagination. I wouldn’t worry xx

I'm almost certain there is a comedy sketch about this, I'm thinking Mitchell and Webb Radio 4 show? Someone goes to a medium to find out about their past lives, convinced they were Someone Important and the medium reels off a list of "died in infancy, died in infancy, died in infancy, peasant who died of an infection in their twenties, died in infancy..." 😂

It’s probably your dd trying to picture the different family set ups.
There is a Spiritualist theory that children remember past lives until the age of about 4. I’ve heard similar from an almost 4 year old.
No one has ever proved this theory of course. Or disproved it.

Don’t be freaked out? Your no.3 has made me too fricking scared to let the dog out 😩 It’s hideous!

My son had loads of make believe scenarios like this, and often had elaborate playing sessions with his toys. He watches YouTube!

My daughter (and several other kids I know that were about 3 or 4 at the time) said something similar. My DD asked if she could go back to her other mummy. It is a weird phase for some that passes. Just an odd imagination thing I guess.

My DD, who is adopted, was quite confused in Y2 when they said some children have two mums. She does but not like they meant. We explained (she has no memory of living with bio mum as she went straight to foster care from the hospital) but she did when younger ask questions as if she did - the right form of questions can be hard at some ages E.g.
If I'd lived with Mummy A would we have gone to the swimming pool Vs
When I lived with Mummy A we went to the swimming pool.