Expecting to be met at Arrivals

[FarFarWay]

(OK, this a while ago - but |I have never cleared it up in my mind; I need other opinions.)

Travelling with an 8 year old, to meet people who I don't really know (even though technically family), and who the child has never met.

Two flights (one upgraded, the other downgraded, by comparison; no spare time in the airport in Japan, just a mad dash to find the plane!), about 22 hours in the air total, plus the travel down to Heathrow/check-in etc. (Also a week before Christmas). Almost the only child on the flight, and even though a "special meal", most of it was not to her liking - not fussy but never eaten sushi etc. So she was a bit hungry and tired when we landed.

The people we were to be staying with lived approx 40 minutes away.
Not only did a carful of people who my eight year old had never met, EVENTUALLY turn up - but we had to sit and wait for them to get there.

Before anyone says "Let it go....". The main player of that group has recently brought up the trip, and what a (not-quite-but almost-) disaster it was - but the then eight-year-old has never seen these (important, arguably) people ever again, and this is now being held against her by the main player.

Despite appearances, I am not a grudge holder but, in my over-thinking way, I have actually tried to figure out the actual science of this flight and how much time was needed for them to be there to greet us. And I am a bit pissed at the "they", as the delay was blamed on the wife element doing her hair, when she really did not need to come as well, as it made the whole thing into a bigger deal, when we - and especially my daughter - would have really appreciated it being casual and low key - let alone there actually be someone - anyone - present, when we came through the Arrival doors to ---- [crickets].

By my (bad) calculations, they didn't even set off until we landed.... but due to the time-travel aspect of hours behind/ahead, am I getting it wrong?

(PS - on the one hand, this light-hearted, but on the other - as I said, she has never seen them again, and so sometimes, it seems like it happened yesterday.)

It is nothing to do with this that anyone should relate to this situation, but you simply don't understand what we are saying. The way the post is written is so confusing that barely anyone understood what you wanted to say. You came here for an advice. But nobody can advise you, as we simply don't understand what you are saying.

That’s odd because op has received plenty of advice from posters who understood what the issue was.

Power of the bloody plural again.

Even I am fed up/bored now - and I am not defending or explaining myself any more.
Shame on me for using too many words -
and in the wrong order.
It's my speciality.

(And yes, | did focus on one two-letter word,)

Thank you @SwingTheMonkey x

@Mayana1
But that's not true.....you don't understand the OP's posts, plenty of us do. Step away if you're perplexed, no need to admonish the OP.

And has ignored it all. I reckon this is a wind-up thread.

It makes me despair of our education system

It's really not that difficult to understand

It is impossible for you or anyone to "know" that I have ignored the advice. A lot of which is very valuable, insightful and generously offered.

Are you a time traveller from the future?

(Carry on between yourselves. Typical.)

OP sorry this is not clearly written at all. Just bullet point it.

You are SO late to the party.

I wish I had - and I could. (This isn't an office setting ---- is it?)

But. No, not doing that.

OP - what's the deal with the incessant parentheses?

You've acted on the advice then? How so?

It's a process, not an event.

I have listened to - and respect - the advice; taking action involves multiple people - and mental gymnastics on my part. What on Earth did you think would happen in two days?

I use them as an aside, or to refer to something that isn't the main point or is clarification.
(And there's a tautological sentence!)

They are actually brackets away from a scientific setting.

I like these too. [ ]

Taking action only really involves you, though. Mainly involves you booking therapy IMO.

I'll handle the advice in my own way.

Not reporting back on here does not mean that I am not -
what is about people who expect instant action, or otherwise deeming me to unwilling to do anything.

I don't see the point of your comment/question, I really don't.

How ridiculous. Loads of people come on mn to get opinions from others and don’t act on them in the long run. This is no different. Offer advice or don’t - you’re owed nothing from the op in return.

I did, days(?) ago? I'm not expecting anything from the OP, but equally I don't owe the OP anything tbf. Just a warning to others not to get too invested, I guess.

I don’t think I’ve seen as much incessant and unwarranted bullying of an OP as on this thread

Why do you think people need warning? What were you expecting? Same as any other thread - you offer advice and it’s up to op how they take it. Op has seemingly listened to the advice she’s been given - the rest is up to her and absolutely nothing to do with us. If you’re expecting to comment on an internet forum and see results, you’re in the wrong place!

You're the one that seems weirdly invested in this, not me.

I don’t like to see people being treated unfairly online. If that makes me weirdly invested - I’m weirdly invested, I guess. I’m ok with that. I hope you’re ok with being unnecessarily shitty to strangers online. I know which one I’d prefer to be, but you do you.

@SwingTheMonkey
Thank you, and thank you again. The positive and kind hearted-comments have meant a lot. Your support is appreciated very much xx

"Weirdly invested" is such a nasty phrase - but sits well alongside an assumption that I have not taken the advice, So I am unsurprised that the two come from the same writer.

@piccolorhinoceros
You cannot think that anyone will still join this thread with any enthusiasm at this point? This is day 3 - it not been daaaays - and it is slowly dying. The nastiness will not be missed.

[MN would not close it.]

@mylkshake There has been a lot, and some of it quite offensive.
Honestly, life's hard enough.....
Thank you for remarking on it x

It really isn't clear. It reads as though it was written by somebody who's had a skinful...