SIL wants holiday updates

[Beachdays86]

We are currently away for 2 weeks with DD and enjoying some much needed quality family time together. DH has put a few photos on his family WhatsApp chat, but SIL is messaging every day asking for more photos and holiday updates. I have a strained relationship with her anyway after she has caused problems between myself and DH. I don’t go out of my way to contact her, but I’m getting fed up of the constant requests for holiday updates. She needs to know everything that’s going on and I have stopped her having access to me after she said a number of things to DD about me. AIBU to tell her to fuck off?!

…just let DH deal with it.

Or you could just not send any updates?

I think this is a better option

Tell her that your phone is playing up and tell her to contact DH then block her.

Annoying.

I would try block out all that and let your husband deal with it

I never post anything on his family WhatsApp group and send things individually now to others as I’m literally done with her. I just get pissed off that she feels she has a right to have access to every thing we do.

To say F off, no. Not classy. Just ignore her/turn phone off/silence WhatsApp or the chat/her.

Mute the family WhatsApp group while you’re on holiday - or forever!

She’s messaging you directly, or, messaging on the family chat ?

His family chat that I’ve muted and archived!

Archive the family chat and ignore it while you are on holiday. Let DH deal with it.

…so if you can’t see it, why’s it an issue ?

Mute and ignore her. Send a couple when you get back.

Get him to mute the chat whilst you’re away. You could be me, my SIL is a twat as well 😆

Sounds like you're making a drama where there is none?

Just tell your DH to update her and ignore her messages to you 🤷‍♂️

Just ignore her. Can you not just do that?

Can you get yourself to a mental state where you see a message from her and, instead of feeling annoyed/pressured to answer/stressed, you just roll your eyes and get on with the holiday? She has no power to make you do anything, she is the needy one.

Sorry, just reread.

So she's not even sending the messages to your personal number?

In that case, definitely drama where there is none.

No drama. I just don’t want her having access to us all of the time. DH and I nearly divorced over her. DH told me she’s literally begging for updates and after the shit she’s caused, she has no right to ask for anything even if it a few holiday snaps.

Then ask your DH to stop mentioning her and get on with your holiday.

There's clearly more to this remove yourself from the chat. Don't look at it.

Just tell your husband you don’t want to hear about it and let him get on with sharing updates. It doesn’t have to be anything to do with you.

So why are you going out if your way to read it?

Your DH should tell her that you are enjoying your holiday so you don't have time to be sharing pictures all the time.
I would tell-- her to get a life and then stop responding to anything she says.--

Tell him you don’t want to hear about it and it’s up to him if he sends updates or not.

Maybe he should archive the chat for the duration of the holiday too.

Well you are going to have to tell us about the shit she caused because I can't decide if yabu or not. What did she do?