SIL wants holiday updates

[Beachdays86]

We are currently away for 2 weeks with DD and enjoying some much needed quality family time together. DH has put a few photos on his family WhatsApp chat, but SIL is messaging every day asking for more photos and holiday updates. I have a strained relationship with her anyway after she has caused problems between myself and DH. I don’t go out of my way to contact her, but I’m getting fed up of the constant requests for holiday updates. She needs to know everything that’s going on and I have stopped her having access to me after she said a number of things to DD about me. AIBU to tell her to fuck off?!

Just burn bridges with her. You will always be the sacrificial goat who will have her needs put last especially by your DH. Fuck it. Trll her on the family group that after what she’s done you do not wish to engage with her or have anything to do with her.

another question is why didn’t you divorce? What have you allowed your DH to get away with this? Are you actually happy?

That 'she would make a better mummy than me' comment is SO WEIRD.

Like she sees herself as her brother's partner and is jealous of you.

My sister in law can be like this and it’s usually so she can copy or try and out do what we are doing. she’ll take the same picture I’ve taken but in an inferior location, and say “lovely family holiday” - or just post my photo as hers 🤣

This is a great example of a situation where boundaries can be and need to be set. So a boundary is something that YOU do. You can’t control what someone else does, I agree with you, it’s invasive and strange that she’s messaging you guys every day for updates… so you need to decide what boundary to set. Don’t make up excuses like others have said about your phone being broken etc. there is no reason whatsoever to lie or feel awkward about not giving her what she wants. My response would probably be ‘hi, sorry we’re enjoying family time so not on our phones much, if we do have some pictures we’d like to share, we will let you know when we’re home. Speak to you in 2 weeks’ then just silence chat til you get back.

Personally I would say this is the last update as we're tacking a break from the tech and switching off yo spend some quality time. Then sign out on all socials so she can't keep track.

Feel good about telling her to eff off! Why does she want more and too many photos? block her for a long while. starve her of knowledge! She might waste away with nothing to talk about and have no gossip to share about you!! Also tell her you are blocking her!