Mad to consider IVF in these circumstances?

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My little boy is the light of my life and we love him so very much. I've got a wonderful husband, son and a generally lovely life, but I'm yearning for more children so badly it's all I can think about. It was very difficult conceiving our son (took years, both DH and me fertility issues, but worked naturally eventually). I've always been afraid of IVF but have been considering it lately. However I've got a pituitary adenoma and been told with injecting hormones there's a chance it can grow and bleed into the brain (although chance is not big). It would also seriously diminish our savings to do IVF, but I'd love to give my child a sibling. My DH says to count our blessings and move on but I find it so hard - at the same time I wonder if it's good big of a risk! I need to make a decision soon as I'm 37 this year and can't think of anything else.

yabu- count your blessings and don't take the risk
Yanbu- you'll regret it if you don't go for IVF and at least try

Thank you so much. All the best to you too💐

Have you looked into (presumably you have!) doing everything you can to improve fertility chances. Taking supplements lifestyle changes etc etc.

I had ivf with my first child. DH sperm uses low mobility motility and morphology. Low AMH for me. We both took supplements and followed it starts with the egg plan.

We conceived DS from ICSI and he was a FET as I had OHSS from the stims.

Second baby we had sex once on New Year's Eve and fell pregnant. Go figure

Having been through ivf myself, I was made to have consultant letters to declare they thought I was fit enough to have the treatment due to a chronic health condition, you might find that the decision is taken out of your hands.
I completely empathise though, that yearning is all consuming. I was very lucky to have 2 children via ivf but couldn't seem to manage a third. It makes me sad to this day but I think eventually you settle for what you have and realise how very lucky you are.
Good luck OP xx

Hi, yes I agree somehow that I think I feel insecure about it as I'd originally planned on more than one child. However I have had a fair few comments from other people which I know I just shouldn't let get to me. This is something I need to work on as well ❤️‍🩹
The more I read the comments and the more I think about it all, I'm actually realising how happy I am with the set up we have and how lucky we are to have DS.

I feel for you OP, I have a daughter after years of trying and heartbreak. Would have loved another child but it’s not to be. Just to say that it is possible to grief this and it gets better over time. I used to be in tears every day and it’s all I could think about for a period of time, now I get an occasional pang but it doesn’t even go deep. Just remember grief is not linear, you’ll have good periods and then something like a friend having a baby will trigger the emotions again but gradually life will take over and you’ll feel content again. Hugs x

another option is don't inject hormones - try artificial insemination with your hubbies sperm based around when you are fertile with your natural cycle.
Or embryo donation if it can be agreed its done on your natural cycle? There are people with extra embryos who would rather they be donated and used then defrosted after their storage time is up.

Yes, that's right. A proper male fertility specialist (and there are very few of these in the UK, as in, about three of them) will give you tailored advice and probably prescribe hormonal medication for your DH to maximise his fertility. It's clearly possible for the two of you to conceive naturally given that you have your DS, so it's not impossible that you could do it again. But your chances would probably be much higher with expert advice.