People are talking about my 10 year old DD

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I’m really confused what to do and how to handle this. I’ve ignored it as been going on for about a year but it doesn’t seem to end. I stupidly thought I had heard the last of this! Saw a mum whose DS is in same class as my DD. She told me sorry she didn’t come to my DD’s party and she told me it’s because her DS is trying to stay away “from all the drama”, I wasn’t aware there was drama obviously I did know something was going on but not to this extent. It seems innocent enough that my daughter for about a year and a half has been saying she has a crush on so and so (changes from week to week). She’s my eldest so I had no experience but apparently the kids have been going home and telling their parents she has a crush on all the boys in class etc. I dontknow how to handle this. Should I ignore like I have been? Shall I say something to DD? I briefly spoke this morning to her and explained sometimes small things people can take wrong way and we should be careful but I don’t think she understood.

I’ve told her to just play with the girls when she gets back to school. The thing is I cannot ignore this anymore as so many parents have come to me to tell me so it’s not as small as I’m thinking plus she is getting left out now as people are trying to stay away from her, I didn’t think I would be dealing with these kind of issues at such a young age! Please be kind. I’m prepared for weird and thoughtless responses that attract these kind of threads in the beginning, so I won’t read straight away but will come back later to get a jist of what people are saying and answer any follow up questions to help me understand this. Thank you

I agree with this. She's 10, so it's not cute and you shouldn't indulge her with this boyfriend and crush nonsense. Also telling her younger siblings she's going to marry them, surely by 10 she's old enough to stop saying things like that?

I think at this age children are maturing and figuring out which kids are annoying and immature. You need to have a firm and proper conversation about what she's saying, because she is gaining some sort of reputation about the things she's saying.
Also speak to her teacher about what's happening at school.

There is more to this there has it to be how could that be drama just that she has a crush on so and so sher thats normal obviously some kinda thing going on when people are avoiding her

This is horrible! Why would you speculate on her child’s appearance? It is not only absolutely irrelevant but ridiculous.

Yesterday, when picking up my DD I saw a group of mums whose children are in my DD’s class stopped talking and smirked at me. I walked past and said “hi” and carried on. In the past I would have thought nothing of it but I know they are talking my about my daughter. Should I say something today?

Which just goes back to the idea that she is being bullied. Mumsnet goes through absolute contortions to make the OP the one who is in the wrong.

Obviously talk to the teacher what is going on in class?
As for crushes, they are both normal at the same time embarrassing. I don't have a girl, but i remember myself that age. Maybe "redirect" her romantic interest at film stars or pop singers? Much safer and less cringe.