Family holiday drama

[familydrama1]

So we are due to go on holiday next year with family. We invited my parents, they booked their own room - they then invited my nephew (who is 17). My brother didn't pay for my nephew or even offer to pay for their place.

I found out I was pregnant recently and can't book the baby's space until they are born. Also there will be no spaces as, the baby is due 4 months before the holiday. Anyone we trust with our child will be on that holiday. We need to take my nephew off the booking and change it to the baby when they are born.

AIBU to take my nephew off the booking (I have spoken to my parents about this and they understand) but I know my brother won't be happy and it will cause drama. Or should just not go and lose thousands 😣

Need an outside perspective pleaseeee

But they did have a spare bed -the grandparents paid for their cabin which sleeps four, somewhere along the way they paid for their grandson to occupy one of the bed spaces in that cabin and the OP paid for her daughter to occupy one of the bed spaces. So the room is to capacity.

Seems a strange set up to have grandparents, a 17 yo old teenager and a much younger child sharing the one cabin. But each to their own.

She’s just trying to justify why she wants the fourth place in their berth. She wants two of her kids in there now so she doesn’t have to spend any more.

If you’re going to keep firing out kids (4 under 6 is a LOT) then you’re going to have to accept that you need more than one room on a holiday. Book another room, shift the booking to some time more sensible when you don’t have a tiny infant, or lose the cruise, it’s really that simple. You have zero right to boot your nephew off, and you haven’t paid for him.

Several people have asked that, and OP seems to have ignored the question!

Did I say it's anyone else's problem?! But it's pretty obviously a barrier to the OP 'just booking another room' like everyone's suggested. Doesn't mean I'm agreeing that the nephew should be booted, I'm not. But 'just throw a few more grand at the problem' isn't the easy fix people are making it out to be.

I’m assuming the in-laws said they didn’t want the kids in their cabin. Which is fair enough, you’d need to go to bed early, be quiet, lack of alone time etc,and basically you’re providing child care. It’s a very different holiday if you’ve a small kid in your room.

so as the in-laws said no she invited her parents so she could get a kid in their room without fully spending on another cabin,

But they aren’t really guests are they. They are people paying for themselves.

@familydrama1 can you explain who is in PILS room?

It seems an easy solution to allocate one of your children, probably the baby, to that room.

@Putting @Staunchlystarling Thanks for the info. I thought I'd solved the problem!

Well no, you said your parents paid for themselves and nephew so they actually paid 3/4 of the room and you paid 1/4.

So now you’ve changed the narrative to fit what you want again?! 🙄😂

But the baby in pil room does not actually have to stay in the room. No one will be checking who sleeps where (unless kids clearly left alone)

It's your problem you decided to have another baby, not your parents and not your nephews. Fucking atrocious to bump him off the holiday when you could stop being so grabby and just book another room. That way you can accommodate all your little ones together and your parents and nephew get a decent break.

OP appears so bitter about the money, I am almost convinced she got pregnant deliberately to create a situation where he got bumped off! 😀

A large static caravan at Mablethorpe would be a more appropriate option me thinks …..

Get holiday insurance or ask family to take a vote
Perhaps your nephew doesn't even want to go?

You won't lose thousands anyway, there's enough time for you to get some sort of partial refund or move your family to the following year.

I personally don't think it's fair that the nephew loses out cause you got pregnant and these are your circumstances.

YABU

Why don't you just tell your parents you need to book a second room now to accommodate your family so will need half of your costs back to book this, this way your parents can book and invite who they want.

😂😂😂😂😂😂

Thought so too. My guess is that it was only meant to be the much younger child and the grandparents, but the grandparents invited their grandson afterwards.

The supposed childcare aspect that a pp suggested is a bit bonkers because there is no evidence that the 17 yo is even close to his cousin and would be doing childcare duties, especially since OP wasn’t expecting him. Plus, of her parents were planning that, it would be weird of them and ridiculous without telling OP.

@Staunchlystarling
I don't know why that is so funny to you. I've invited my in-laws on a holiday with us. I would not be impressed if they decided to invite my niece without discussing with us first.

Tell us exactly what the cruise organisers said when you called them to explain your change in circumstances????

Really? Why on earth ?

I think by mentioning DB didn't pay for DN she is trying to justify why she thinks DN shouldn't go.

It’s a boat, they are allowed a max of 4 per cabin. As such she can’t add a fifth to either her or her parents cabins, for safety reasons. She needs to book an extra cabin with one of the existing adults. She’s been fairly clear and this is the norm on boats.

Or, additional child can be added to PILS room…

You stay at home with baby.
Let hubby and other DC go on.
That's what I'd do.