Family holiday drama

[familydrama1]

So we are due to go on holiday next year with family. We invited my parents, they booked their own room - they then invited my nephew (who is 17). My brother didn't pay for my nephew or even offer to pay for their place.

I found out I was pregnant recently and can't book the baby's space until they are born. Also there will be no spaces as, the baby is due 4 months before the holiday. Anyone we trust with our child will be on that holiday. We need to take my nephew off the booking and change it to the baby when they are born.

AIBU to take my nephew off the booking (I have spoken to my parents about this and they understand) but I know my brother won't be happy and it will cause drama. Or should just not go and lose thousands 😣

Need an outside perspective pleaseeee

OPs parents have paid for his place and their own cabin where they will have one of OPs children who is under 6 and they'll be looking after that child overnight. She now wants them to have two of her children in their care so one of hef children takes the spot for DN who her parents paid for.

Yes.

You can book people into various rooms

BUT THEY DO NOT ACTUALLY NEED TO STAY IN THAT ROOM!

so you can cram a few kids in your room when in the cruise. As long as the booking is correct.

Separately the baby needs to be booked on to check the ship overall had capacity on the baby range. If they do not, then who sleeps where doesn't matter. They can't go and so none of your family can go (though both your parents could still go with nephew)

None of this is adding up, first of all you said your baby is due 4 months before the cruise then you changed it and said baby will be 6 months old. But aside from that. You seem to have 3 children already with one on the way, so you are the ones who should suck up the cost and need to pay for an extra room for you or your husband to go in with some of the kids. No your nephew should NOT be kicked off. How utterly mean. I actually can't believe people can be so selfish. You said yourself that you were going to book an extra room until your parents kindly offered to have one of your children. But now that you are having another child, you will have to book another room. Jesus the entitlement of some people!

@familydrama1 this, book a room now for husband and either one of your already named children or on his own then add baby 6 months before. You have not confirmed why this can’t be done when you say you’ve tried everything else bar evicting nephew?

Her parents PAID for their own room and DN and are looking after one of OPs DC overnight as well. OP wants to kick DN out when that spot has been paid for by her parents, not by her. It's their cabin she wants them to kick their grandchild out of, not hers.

This.

You said, OP, that this was originally supposed to be a holiday for your own small family, ie presumably you, DH and your children. If the other family members hadn’t invited themselves along, in other words taking them out of the equation, how were you intending to manage this situation?

Oops, ignore that, I see you initially invited your parents.

All her children are under 6 years old

Op, there’s been lots of sensible replies on here already. The solution is really not that hard.

YABU to even consider asking your nephew not to go, that’s so unnecessary, very mean, as well as entitled.

I suggest you cancel the whole thing and instead use the money for some intensive therapy for yourself at least. Even your username includes 'drama', along with the thread title. Your problem is not this holiday, it's your addiction to drama. If that were not the case this would be sorted without even needing to post. As it is, you've ignored every sensible response and probably lied about elements of the story to get people to agree with your selfish plan. Good luck, really, you'll need it. So will everyone around you.

This thread is hilarious. Also, it’s reminding me never ever ever to go on big joint holidays, OR cruises. I’d be wanting to cancel the holiday at this stage for sure! Who’s wanna be onboard a cruise ship with a 6 month old baby anyways? Doesn’t sound fun to me (but then a cruise sounds like my idea of hell anyways)

Booking a suite for another 2 people would cost thousands, probably more than what OP has already spent for 2 regular cabins. I assume that's the reason she's ruling it out.

She's only spent money on one. Her parents paid for themselves and their nephew. They have 2 adults and 4 kids between them so they need two cabins.

Oh right, of course, in which case she's looking at spending probably double what has already been spent for the 5 of them.

That's her problem, not anyone elses.

Which is exactly what she would have had to do for her ‘little family’ when it was just supposed to be them at the start… they were already a family of 5 so would never have fitted in one cabin. The parents were invited to pay for their own cabin and take a kid or two which nearly solved their issue.

This is a good point. Op is salty nephew is being paid for, but GP are also paying for one of her dc if they're staying in GP room!

Your parents booked and paid for their own room, they invited nephew, not you.
You keep repeating it but there is no logic to in inviting the nephew, he wasn’t sharing your room so if the baby doesn’t fit in your room according to the company then it’s for nothing to do with the nephew.
Either way no, it’s not reasonable to uninvite someone from a holiday because you got pregnant.

😂😂😂

OP has had loads of suggestions as to how this could be fixed. She shoots every one of them down because at the heart of this is the fact she's pissed off with her brother and by extension, her nephew.

Nobody is going to justify you telling your nephew he can't come, OP, especially when you didn't pay for either him or your parents. So I doubt you're going to get what you're looking for from this thread.

You can book people into various rooms

BUT THEY DO NOT ACTUALLY NEED TO STAY IN THAT ROOM!

Oh now come on there.

Stop with the logic.

You’re being incredibly entitled, who says your parents even want to share their cabin with two under 6 anyway? Would you pay them at least half the room cost, or are you expecting them to subsidise your family too? Book another room OP, stop pretending you can’t, you can book it in your husbands name.

Your baby, your expense.

Sounds like the holiday of my nightmares. Who takes multiple under 6 year olds and a 4-6 month old baby on a cruise??

My understanding is that you were going to book 2 rooms initially with yourself and some of the kids in one room and your dh and at least 1 of the kids in another room. I'm assuming you currently have 3 kids. Instead your parents booked a room so one of your children is staying with them and as they have a spare space they invited your nephew. You would now like to shift baby into nephews space as it will be too late to book a room once baby is born.

As you are going with your inlaws too could baby not be added to their room booking? It doesn't mean baby has to actually sleep there you could shift one of your older children their instead?Could you book another room in your name instead that way baby could be added to your booking and your dh could have the original room with 2 of your children? The second option of course adds more cost to your holiday. As for bumping your nephew off the holiday you could only do that if your parents agreed as they are covering his cost. From what you have said your mother is unlikely to agree.

It's also a cost issue

Book 2 inside rooms a year out. May cost £1k or 2k say. But did as parents said we will come too and have a kid listed on our room.

But now all rooms gone. Bar expensive suites which cost £8k or so.

So the cost of getting an extra room is way higher than it would have been if you had done it on booking. Which is frustrating.