A warning to the curious

[BrianBlessed01]

If you are in the fortunate position of being able in terms of material things - ie, a comfortable home, laundry done from home, nice holidays abroad - if your child has already experienced those things, be VERY careful. Otherwise, they can, and will, make your life hell. PUT BOUNDARIES DOWN - deal with tantrums and rudeness, shoot those down, take no prisoners. You should have been doing this from the start, tbh.

Now look what you've all done, you've gone and upset Brian.

How do you 'deal' with tantrums and rudeness?! I'm asking after a nightmare day myself 😔

@BrianBlessed01 A culture of "nip it in the bud" or "shut things down" only causes problems, and this should never be used anywhere.

Instead of shutting down your child's tantrums, try having a discussion with them. Explain that you won't engage with them if they're having a tantrum, but have discussions when they are settled and let them debate.

No. Noone knew what you meant.

You good, Brian?

I'm really sorry your kids are wankers, but most kids can cope with clean clothes, adequate shelter and the odd holiday without becoming entitled banshees.

Actually OP, you raise another interesting point. Up thread I mentioned a conversation I (coincidently) had earlier this evening in a cafe, about being spoiled.
Now I see I only looked at this superficially.
It all makes more sense now. I do think that being a spoiled child directly influences how we mature as an adult.
Life invariably throws obstacles in our paths. If we are lucky, we can go for many years without too many (major) setbacks. However, when those challenges do strike (and they most definitely will - in different forms) well, that's when we really find out of what we are made of. Ultimately, I figure that's when the adults who experienced discipline, may have the advantage of being able to overcome adversity with more ease.
On a side note, I am sorry to hear things are tough right now. Rest assured, there will be light at the end of this. Even if it doesn't feel that way right now. It always amazes me how our fighting spirit can materialise. Maybe some of these comments will be the catalyst for you to turn things around to a positive outcome.

Wouldn’t it have been easier to just say “don’t spoil your kids or they’ll turn into wankers”?

No maybe you should have made a bit more sense with your OP

Because as it is it really doesn't say much about what your experience or issues are. Most of us aren't mind readers

Calm down Brian

Sorry about your washing machine but your kids aren't brats just because you used to be able to do your washing in the house.

Well Brian. We always had a washing machine and took our DC on holiday. They're now adults and perfectly reasonable and well balanced people.
I may suggest that other things have possibly gone wrong?

Keep your voice down Brian, some of us are trying to sleep!

😂

If only Brian was around 18 years ago when I got pregnant with my first. I would have removed the pesky washing machine from the property immediately! I genuinely didn't know about the links between washing machines and wanker kids😱
We also took our (delightful) offspring on holiday, even worse, we bought them expensive toys and tech.....oh no, they have expensive hobbies as well.
Perhaps it's not too late, if I move us all into a log cabin by a river and dress us all in sack cloth it will beat the wankerism out of them?
Please come back @BrianBlessed01 I don't know how I'll manage the rest of my life without your (bonkers) advice!

Maybe you should have read 'Lord Of The Flies' before having nippers OP.

Anyone that was ever a child knows that without guidance, our baser instincts come to the surface, even if that is just choosing comfort over actually getting off our arses.

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Tbh I think the majority of us are more worried about our kids turning into the kind of person that writes utter shite online than they are about them being spoilt.

Here’s a heads up for you. We know how to parent our own kids and don’t need some dodgy bloke patronising us.

Are you from Hull OP?

#itoowashedtheirclothesandtookthemonholiday

Better go back to doing my laundry in the local river then.

I thought it was going to be "never google dragon butter".....

Oh my goodness, @CurlewKate ... what on earth is that?!

Blink three times if you need help.

Jesus, another “ All teenagers are twats” post.
Just what nobody needed.