Kid barged in my house

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I wfh today. I had a load of banging on the door. I answered it thinking it was a delivery. There was a boy there about 12. I thought maybe he come round to see my son though I didn't know him. My son is at sports camp today though

Before I could even say anything he ran in my house and barged past me and tried to get up the stairs. I grabbed him by the arm and asked him what he was doing. I was worried as my daughter was in bed and didn't want anyone I don't know upstairs.

I asked him repeatedly what he was doing and he wouldn't answer
He just kept trying to get up the stairs. I said you don't barge into people's houses. Eventually he said toilet. I was thinking perhaps he could go to my downstairs toilet but he ran off. I don't think English was his first language. I noticed he wasn't wearing any shoes either.

I just feel very shaken by the whole thing.

Scout most likely op

Make sure you lock all your doors and windows and outdoor storage if you can.

We live next to a holiday let. It’s very rarely families, mostly older couples, but one rare occasion, it was a family with children my dc’s age and we asked them if they wanted to come over to see our animals (we have chickens, ducks, pigs, horses, etc). We showed the kids the chicken house and where they lay their eggs.

That afternoon, I laid down on the sofa to have a nap while Dh and dc we’re out somewhere on the farm doing something. I woke up to someone poking me and I opened my eyes to their probably 8 year old child standing over me with a handful of eggs he’d found. He was, best I could tell, NT but I think just had shit parents. He’d managed to wander down our lane, into the farm yard over a gate, past an electric fence, into the chicken run, collected the eggs, let himself into the house to give them to me, which scared the crap out of me, but I suppose was thoughtful.

I walked him back to his drunk (ish) parents/caregivers - they appeared to be the dad and his partner and their kids and also his mum and what guess was an older sibling. I don’t know I’d probably be drunk too if that was the make up of my summer holiday. They didn’t seem at all relieved to have him returned. 😂

Agree.

I am sorry - my comment got deleted???? WTAF? I shared what my Bulgarian ex SIL told me about this type of crime, rife in Eastern Europe, we just are not clued up - so I shared it and my comment got deleted???? It is a crime perpetrated by a certain ethnicity, whereby adults ring doorbells in apartment blocks and ask for a glass of water or to use the toilet - because they are a roaming ethnicity and they do not have toilets in their caravans. Whilst adults distract attention, little children run around the flat and rob the place. Why was my comment deleted?????

This happened to us on holiday, a child ran into our hotel room, he would not engage with us at all, we stood outside the door for a few moments and a parent came along and encouraged them to go to their own room. The parent said they had sen.

Yes I would be interested to know this too.
Everything you say is the truth.

It's a good thing that guns are not widespread in Britain.

Some of the posters here have such a twisted mindset that they would have shot this child dead.

Your house is your own, private space and no-one, not even a child, has the right to barge in & behave like that. I would not have let them use the loo either and would have been very angry.

Glad you're getting a chain. Absolutely the right thing to do.

Apart from anything else you owe a duty of care to your children and the least you can do is try to keep them safe from strangers with absolutely unknown motives running around their home.

Get a doorbell camera too.

What has changed about the UK from your ideal?

The "certain ethnicity" bit is what makes it racist, hence the deletion.

In my opinion what has changed is the number of people who don't give a shit about anyone else including a vulnerable child but I don't think that is what the poster you quoted thinks.

I agree with you on both counts

Yes, let the police know. It may link to something else going on

No i dont blame you and if anyone i dont know barges into my house they will get pepper sprayed but I agree he could be escaping some one who abuses him so maybe ring social services.

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It's not up to the OP to keep this young person safe... that's his parent/carer's responsibility. If you care for a child who is known to run off then you need to take preventative measures to keep them close by and safe. This child could run into anyone's property who could pose a risk to him unlike the OP who sounds genuinely concerned and shaken up.

That,

no 12 years old would try to get into « any house ». Either it is a prank and then well…naughty naughty or it isn’t a prank and the kid needs help. No shoes, dirty feet? I mean obviously you « didn’t look » but did he look like someone was taking care of him??

hope it gets resolved. Would have been shaken too.

That too.

public services would be the only ones to actually link this with anything else. Give them a ring.

Holidays ya’😓

It has been dealt with by the police. He escaped the parents care. He's autistic and non verbal. He tried to get in many houses. They said the parents were taking care of it. Thanks for the responses.

Protect your children from what? You now know that this is a non verbal autistic child with a toilet obsession….who is in danger?

We've had a similar situation with a neighbour's autistic children. One "escaped" from his parents care and the police and neighbours helped find him.