Kid barged in my house

[Ontobetterthings]

I wfh today. I had a load of banging on the door. I answered it thinking it was a delivery. There was a boy there about 12. I thought maybe he come round to see my son though I didn't know him. My son is at sports camp today though

Before I could even say anything he ran in my house and barged past me and tried to get up the stairs. I grabbed him by the arm and asked him what he was doing. I was worried as my daughter was in bed and didn't want anyone I don't know upstairs.

I asked him repeatedly what he was doing and he wouldn't answer
He just kept trying to get up the stairs. I said you don't barge into people's houses. Eventually he said toilet. I was thinking perhaps he could go to my downstairs toilet but he ran off. I don't think English was his first language. I noticed he wasn't wearing any shoes either.

I just feel very shaken by the whole thing.

Op you need to report. It could be a scam but it's a child who could be in great danger.

Not if some of the posters on here had their way. If it was up to them it would have been another match of Xaver vs Jean ValJean. Beyond the pale.

Even if he knew your son, why is this okay?! Not understanding that at all. You don’t know him, he pushed his way into your house and tried gaining access to your upstairs. Why didn’t you call police then and there when you had him restrained?

Well, the child could also be deeply mentally unstable and carrying a weapon as well. Just because it's a child doesn't mean that they possibly can't commit a crime. Where are this child's carers. The police should be looking into that because he has done it loads it seems.

which case in America?

How do you restrain someone and call the police at the same time, while making sure you read the full thread before putting your foot in it?

Yes put a chain on the door in case he escapes his parents ever again so you can ensure a vulnerable child can't come in and be kept safe until the police come. It is important to ensure you aren't put out.

THANK YOU!!!

Unbelievable.

This exact story happens in my street on a regular basis. An autistic 12 year old boy goes up the street trying every door until he gets into a house, runs straight upstairs and runs around. It happened to me twice and I now lock my door all the time.

We now can't open windows if he's around on the street as he yanks them open and tries to climb in, mum sometimes comes out and stops him other times she's not there. No-one wants to report her and make her life even more difficult. Some neighbours have tried to talk with her but didn't get very far.

Well he's going to end up in prison or dead in the next few years if she doesn't get it sorted.

In case it needs to be spelled out to you, a disabled child isn't a "wee bastard".

Jaysus, you can't be more Les Miserables if you tried.

Nonverbal autism in prison or dead? Well, it would be if you had your way, wouldn't it, as why should the likes of you pay taxes so this country could have proper adult social services or even, the horror, supported social living?

It’s a fear I have for my dd.
I’m glad OP reported it….he won’t end up in prison but it may help his parent/s get more help to keep him safe. My dd has done similar things, it scares me that I can’t keep her safe, how can you when there’s next to no help offered? Luckily I live in a quiet area and my neighbours know my dd, she has gotten into neighbours gardens and has gotten out of the house (I am not allowed to lock her in). I hope something good comes of OP and others reporting it.

He wasn't. Read the update.

Yeah she really does need to get it sorted but she doesn't take it very well when approached. He took her car keys once and she caught him just in time sitting in the car. The reason I don't want him in is because of the speed he flew down my stairs when he ran down again .How he never fell down them I'll never know. If he just came in for a little visit I wouldn't mind.

She was holding him with her hand. Nowadays phones have ok Google and Siri, so why can’t you call on speaker? How hard is it?
I have read all of ops updates. Maybe you’re the one who’s putting your foot in it now

That’s awful, OP. Glad you reported it.

Distraction robbery. Call the police. Alert neighbours and local Facebook group.

How do you know she had her phone in her pocket?

Right now, mine's about 20 feet away from me on the dining table, and I don't take it with me to answer the door.

Or was she supposed to drag him through the house to get it?

How can you possibly say that with certainty? There are certainly far more children with SEN about than child robbers! It’s impossible for anybody to say for sure what was going on, I don’t disagree it could have been some sort of scammer as I know these things can and do happen, but so does children with SEN absconding. For a lot of parents with children who have, for example, complex autism this is one of their biggest fears, that their child will abscond and put themselves in a vulnerable position such as entering another persons home as often these children have no concept of danger and may be fixated on a specific thing (eg: going to a specific shop or leisure place, finding a television or a toilet) and will seek this out with no awareness of keeping themselves safe or of social norms and the difference between public and private etc spaces. Nobody on here can say what the reason for the child knocking and trying to enter the home was, we can only offer up theories, and either way it sounds like the child was clearly vulnerable and so the OP reporting to the local police is sensible.

EDIT: Just seen the OPs update and he was in fact a non-verbal autistic child, so FFS maybe you need to check your own viewpoint.

Read the updates.

Well he isnt going to stay a kid is he? Soon he could well be a 6ft man entering people's houses, they'll be no "oh he may have autism" then.

He could end up with a knife stuck in him by a terrified householder.

I don’t know she even had a pocket. What are you so mad about? He was in the house. If she couldn’t call then, she let him out, so she could have called then. That was my question. Then and there.
boy, you’re being very defensive and mad about nothing.

Fascinating to see how few people use the 'read all posts by OP' facility! No need to post any more folks - it's all sorted. Kid was autistic with a toilet obsession and police were aware and updated her. She's going to get a chain on her door.
www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5145577-kid-barged-in-my-house?postsby=Ontobetterthings