Kid barged in my house

[Ontobetterthings]

I wfh today. I had a load of banging on the door. I answered it thinking it was a delivery. There was a boy there about 12. I thought maybe he come round to see my son though I didn't know him. My son is at sports camp today though

Before I could even say anything he ran in my house and barged past me and tried to get up the stairs. I grabbed him by the arm and asked him what he was doing. I was worried as my daughter was in bed and didn't want anyone I don't know upstairs.

I asked him repeatedly what he was doing and he wouldn't answer
He just kept trying to get up the stairs. I said you don't barge into people's houses. Eventually he said toilet. I was thinking perhaps he could go to my downstairs toilet but he ran off. I don't think English was his first language. I noticed he wasn't wearing any shoes either.

I just feel very shaken by the whole thing.

Do you think this is a rational response?

This is such a strange response in a discussion?

Do you accuse everyone with a different view to yours of being 'mad'?

Very strange.

At very least put on neighborhood FB. Advise to lock doors, there’s kids running thru homes.

I think this would be a very good idea.

Although obviously state that it's one kid.

Um - yeah sure, maybe, if this post is true - which I have my doubts.

I will stick with my view and my experience in life and of working/living in other Countries.
So many of you are totally naive to what is happening in your own Country. You really are.
Good luck with it all.🙄

Countdown to MN taking this thread down so they can take a look at it
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Have you got a ring doorbell or cctv & can you contact the police? I would be very shaken too.

So what happens when he gets to 16

😂

I let anyone in who can get past my Dutch Shepherd. I would definitely have let a 12yo in though but closed the door behind me and followed him to the bathroom and waited just outside the door then offered him use of a phone.

Will you leave it out he was 12.

Have seen the OP's update (local child, nothing sinister).

But generally, if you have someone knocking at your door wanting something from you, it's best to be extremely skeptical. It's more likely to be someone looking to rob you, than the SEN child in this instance.

My first thought is the child was a distraction technique for burglary. You either chase off after the child into the house or/and agree to let them use the toilet and follow them into the house, while several other people run through the front door

Another possibility is maybe he had autism. I only say this as my adult son is always shoeless, he’s pretty much non verbal and wouldn’t think twice about walking onto someone else’s house, eating food off of people’s plates, taking peoples belongings etc. of course I watch him like a hawk and thankfully he’s not a runner but I know plenty of his peers that do run off.

it's a social media trend. Did you notice anyone outside trying to film him?

12 year old boys have been known to commit truly heinous crimes.

Either he was up to no good, or he may need help.

Either way, report this and put a chain on the door so nobody can just barge through it again.

https://edition.cnn.com/2024/06/10/europe/machete-attack-uk-12-year-old-boys-intl-latam/index.html

The op has updated us.

Good.

@DBSFstupid I do think you're right about people being incredibly naive. But I think this is much more the case on Mumsnet. where people fall over each other to see who can be the most PC in almost every thread. I don't think people are quite this naive in the real world.

For what it's worth, if a 12 year old boy barged into my house and tried to run up my stairs, my first thought would be to assume that he was trying to rob me. I doubt that his age would really register before I whacked him with the table leg I keep by the door for just such purposes, while pressing the panic button on my alarm..

@SENDmam

that was what I was going to write too.

[I said earlier I'd have detained him until the police arrived (assuming he was up to no good) but it would be fairly easy for me to quickly as certain he had SEN & was non verbal rather than trouble!|]

Once I knew he was a vulnerable child I'd happily let him in & keep him safe until he was collected if possible.

Report to police but don't expect any help. This happened a lot on our estate last year and police kept trotting out that trespass is a civil matter 🙄

@Lovemusic82

its scary isn't it xx

however 'not allowed' ?? How can anyone stop you?

I have a bridge to sell you.