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To be a bit concerned about DD's age gap relationship?

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QuirkyLemonBird · 16/08/2024 19:38

My DD 24 has recently begun a relationship with a man who is 29, I know there is nothing inappropriate about the age gap but I can't help but feel a bit uneasy at the different stages in life they may possible be at. DD is not sure if she wants kids, her new boyfriend doesn't want kids now but in 5 years he will be 34. Now at that age I would imagine a lot of men would want to settle down and have start having children. However, DD has told me she can't see herself wanting children in 5 years when she is 29.

DD has told me she has fallen head over heels in love with him and doesn't know what the best course of action is? They have been dating since the spring so not very long at all. The relationship may not even last so would it be bad advice to advise to DD that she should just take things as they go and enjoy the honeymoon phase of a new relationship and not worry about things which are a few years down the line?

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SunnyWavess · 17/08/2024 07:14

IF this is even real and not a wind up -Jesus wept. I thought it was going to be a 17 year old with a 40 year old when I read the title… 🙄

She’s 24 not 14!! You’re far too invested in this and she’d probably feel smothered if she knew you were putting this online asking for advice. You don’t need advice, it’s her life and she’s a grown adult!!

SunnyWavess · 17/08/2024 07:20

Sarah2891 · 16/08/2024 22:28

This must be a wind-up?

My thoughts too!

IamnotSethRogan · 17/08/2024 07:25

So you're worried about an unremarkable age gap and a completely hypothetical set of issues regarding a relationship that has just been going on for a couple of months ?

Josephinesnapoleon · 17/08/2024 07:28

With respect you need to back off. This is far too much and the age gap is fine.

LittleLantern123 · 17/08/2024 07:37

Flippin heck, total nonsense!!!
Are we all supposed to exclusively date and enter into relationships with people who were born within 6 months of us?
My husband is 16 years older than me and we have two children, we managed to work out a time line that suited us (because we were both adults that wanted children), my friends husband is 23 years older than her and they also have two children so I really can't see an issue with a 24 & 29 year old!!!!

needhelpwiththisplease · 17/08/2024 07:38

Have you always been an overbearing mother?

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