To be a bit concerned about DD's age gap relationship?

[QuirkyLemonBird]

My DD 24 has recently begun a relationship with a man who is 29, I know there is nothing inappropriate about the age gap but I can't help but feel a bit uneasy at the different stages in life they may possible be at. DD is not sure if she wants kids, her new boyfriend doesn't want kids now but in 5 years he will be 34. Now at that age I would imagine a lot of men would want to settle down and have start having children. However, DD has told me she can't see herself wanting children in 5 years when she is 29.

DD has told me she has fallen head over heels in love with him and doesn't know what the best course of action is? They have been dating since the spring so not very long at all. The relationship may not even last so would it be bad advice to advise to DD that she should just take things as they go and enjoy the honeymoon phase of a new relationship and not worry about things which are a few years down the line?

Lots of my friends married men about 5 years older that they met in their twenties. And some, vice versa (man younger). It's totally fine.

Oh leave them alone, that's not much!!

Surely that's pretty much exactly the same life stage - mid-late 20's is one on the same imo. In 5 years time your dd will be thinking too about whether she wants a family bit for now they can have fun!

This is a non problem.

I can't imagine worrying about this. At 24 she might not want kids, by 29 she may have changed her mind. If not, they'll split up. Same as any other relationship if you want different things 🤷🏻‍♀️

That's just over half our gap, I met DH when I was 21 and he was 30. 16 years later we're still going.

24 and 29 aren't that far apart in life stage, especially not when it's woman v man.

And can I ask why you believe your daughter when she says in 5 years time she can't see herself wanting kids, but reckon he'll change from not wanting them to wanting them in the same timeframe?

Exactly

Keep out. And stay out until you are invited in.

One of the most ridiculous threads I’ve come across.

That’s not an age gap to be concerned about. DH is four years older than me and back in the day that was considered quite normal.

How long is it going to be before we have people posting about being worried about a six month age gap? What’s wrong with people these days?

This must be a wind-up?

I’m a similar age to your DD and usually go for men in their 30s 🤣 sounds fine to me…! If she’s happy and the relationship is healthy then I genuinely don’t see an issue

5 years isn’t an age gap issue at all at that age and she’s 24 an adult

DD has told me she has fallen head over heels in love with him and doesn't know what the best course of action is

Talk about jumping the gun. Does she always over think things like this

If they're still together in 5 years then they may very well be marries. Her thoughts might change long before then if he is 'the one' Alternatively he may be more than happy to wait a bit longer, its not like he's said he wants kids then

How about she just goes with the flow & sees how the relationship goes

Oh & 5 years at her age is not an age gap relationship

My DH is 5 years older than me. Never ever thought of there being an “age gap” it’s so normal.

They've only been dating for a few months, so I wouldn't worry. 5 years difference in age is nothing. Just let them get on with getting to know each other, maybe they will last and then the subject of kids will come up naturally if it's want they want.

You’re being ridiculous sorry.

Nothing to worry about. Things change overtime. Someone her age could cause these problems and someone with an age difference might not. Looking 5 years into the future on what may be the case is madness

My husband and I are 5 years apart and met at similar ages (17 years ago) and I have never considered us to have a significant age gap. It has never given us any issues at all.

I knew from the title it'd be a ridiculously tiny age gap. Not disappointed 😆People are really taking things to extremes now.

I met my husband when I was 21 and he was 28, 10 years later we have 2 kids, didn’t think anything of the age gap and nor did my parents. I think actually it helped as he was more mature and ready to settle down!

I met my husband when I was 24 and he was 29. We've been happily married now for 22 years. For me men the same age were too immature. 5 years is nothing.

5 years is nothing. Pretty sure it’s normal for a lot of people to not be sure whether or not they want kids in their 20s. The 30s and even 40s (especially for men) is when most people choose to have children these days, if ever.

I’m not really sure I understand the problem….

Age gap? What age gap? It’s not as if she’s 14 and he’s 21.