Rage at friends friendship!

[Billyandharry]

My oldest school friend of 40 yrs and my oldest uni friend of 25 years are bezzy mates.
I rarely see either of them now - they both have loads of money and I only ever see them on posh holidays on social media. This has gone on for 20 years but it still drives me nuts/feels so hurtful/makes me cry.
I feel like I'm too old for this but i can't help how much it hurts.I honestly don't know how to get over this/myself. Just feel so left out year after year. Horrible.

I think you need some new friends. And I know it’s harder finding friends when you are past school/uni/having kids. But it’s worth making the effort, accepting that it may take a while. Think abou activities that interest you and joining a group, club, or class in your area. It’s never too late for new friends to enter your life - I met the woman who has become my best friend in my 40s.

I totally hear you why it upsets you to see a photo of them together. It would hurt me too. It sounds like these people are no longer your friends for whatever reason. If you’re able, ask the mutual friend is she can not share these type of photos with you. Focus on new friendships.

I haven’t read the previous posts on this post but unfortunately many posters on AIBU are pretty blunt these days, and have little empathy from behind their keyboard. I’ve seen so many posters say in the last few weeks alone they wish they hadn’t posted as they now felt a lot worse than before posting. I think people need to think how they’d give advice to a friend when they come on here and can clearly see someone is upset. Why do they need to put the knife in and twist it a bit. Maybe it makes them feel superior? Often they just upset the person more when they are clearly reaching out for help. I hope you’re ok

Reading the full thread and the OP’s reaction to any level of questioning it’s clear she just wanted to vent and wasn’t ready for solutions.

one thing stood out to me “I feel unlucky”. This along with the tone in other messages gives me a clue to the likely real problem. You’ve become a passenger in your life. If you can blame other old friends, lack of money, luck, then you don’t have to take responsibility.
I’ve definitely had close friendships disappear and watch lives I thought I’d be part of blossom without me. Those friendships lasted their course, you don’t own people, and people don’t owe you to hide their highs because you feel lows.

I feel it would be a good idea to do as others have suggested and seek a therapist. You clearly have some things to unpack to allow yourself to be happy and to be happy for others.
It is totally normal to be upset that something has changed, but it isn’t normal to hold such bitterness and jealousy for two people you once loved, who have done nothing wrong.