Is it ever ok for your husband to call you a cunt?

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Had a bit of an argument with DH last night over text, when he was at work. He was very angry at something VERY minor I had done. Today he relaxed all day (because he’s night shift tonight), so I did everything. Did a supermarket shop, put it all away, loaded dishwasher, unloaded it, emptied all the bins, made a lovely homemade meal. He ignored me all day. He got up from his nap and came downstairs, collected his dinner, said I was a cunt last night and went off. We normally eat dinner together, but I just took my dinner into my little office and ate it there alone. Is it ever ok to call your wife a cunt?

Sounds like he hates you. And I’m frankly wondering why you don’t hate him too as he himself is in fact, a cunt

Thanks all. Much to think about. He was VERY apologetic before work.

I would never use it but neither would I ever call someone a Dick. On here it is fine to use male genitalia as a term of abuse but it is never acceptable to use the term for female genitalia. It is an MN thing.

OP, would you ever call him a dick or do you have double standards? I would never use either term. They are both disrespectful (except on MN)

Why are you with a man that treats you like a domestic slave and calls you a cunt?! I don’t know you but I can be sure you deserve better than that.

Till the next time. Stop doing everything in the house. He's a capable functioning adult isn't he?

By apologetic do you mean he's now promised to step up and do his fair share?

What is his excuse for not contributing?

I'm guessing he's not planning to change - can you start by not doing things for him like cooking his dinner or washing his clothes?

Oh blimey OP what is he for exactly?

Time for a sit down and firm discussion on what is acceptable. This is not.

My dh would only get to call me a cunt once in our marriage

Not ok but also I’d be more angry about the lack of helping. The swearing is potentially a one off or at least a first (not that that makes it acceptable) whereas the not pulling his weight is presumably a long term thing

My DSis and BIL regularly swear at each other but not in an angry way, more jokey. It’s not for me as I’m not a swearer but I can tell they mean to malice in it.

He should do more around the house but perhaps he had a bad day.
I wouldn't be too hard in him this time, tho if there's a next time it would need addressed

Absolutely never.

No, and that might be the last home cooked meal he eats for a long time.

So, he got very angry about a minor thing last night. Then sulked all today, did fuck all while you did all the housework and cooked dinner. Then called you a cunt.

He sounds like a prize dick.

And he absolutely is normally horrible if he never does a thing around the house.

Next time? My husband's life wouldn't be worth living if he called me that once.

Me too. Luckily it's a word we both agree is beyond the pale.

I'd have tipped his dinner over his head frankly.

What exactly is the point of him OP?

He shouldn’t use that language, do you have kids? It’s not exactly role model language!!! How do you speak to him ? I’ve seen some couples say horrible things to each other… both are wrong, but sometimes on mumsnet I guess you just get half the story..
why does he make you do all the house stuff. That sounds really annoying, I’d not be cooking him
dinner till he makes up for this atrocious behaviour and taking you for granted ..

He's okay with you doing all the housework, even the bins. That's pretty horrible. And no, it's never ok to call someone a cunt. Your husband is verbally abusive and has no respect for you--and where there is no respect, there is no love.

This. The word I could overlook the silent treatment absolutely not

I would 100% be going on strike after this.

Shame the bins won’t be going out this week then.

No. Never. I would not tolerate this.