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Walking into neighbours garden

83 replies

hippopandamouse · 10/08/2024 22:50

Random one I know haha!

We live in between 2 of my family members. Our cat had a litter of kittens and one of them is being rehomed by my auntie next door. Every single time they have friends over they are lining the fence with them and staring into our garden to show them the kittens, fine - kittens are great!

However last week they had a huge piss up and after I’d put my 3DC to bed I came down to round up the animals and noticed my dog was stood staring in through their garden gate. Refused to come in when called (very unusual for her) I then realised why as my auntie briskly walked back into my garden holding one of the kittens.

She was a little taken aback to see me stood in the doorway and said “Oh I was just borrowing one of your kittens to show everyone!” I let it go and locked up.

Today same situation but different friend selection! I just so happened to be walking into the kitchen at 9pm and see her marching down towards our gate. She only noticed noticed us as the kids were making a racket. She looks at me and says “Oh!…I was just going to borrow the black and white kitten as C is really taken by him”

I know they’re family but there is no way in a million years she’d tolerate someone walking into her garden and helping themselves to something even if the intention was to return it. Am I being unreasonable to think this is just rude? I wouldn’t dream of doing that to anyone. Not the end of the world I know it’s just niggling at me.

My dad is the other side of us and whenever he’s not in both of his siblings (other lives a mile from us) and their family use his garden as a footpath but will never do it when he’s home.

My aunties DC is getting married and when my dad isn’t in she goes into his garden and takes rose petals from his bushes to make confetti. I know as she’s told me but hasn’t asked my dad if this is okay!

They also use his driveway to park their cars but again only if he’s not there.

Maybe I’m just being silly but I’m feeling a bit uncomfortable 😣

OP posts:
Overtheatlantic · 10/08/2024 22:54

Could it be that your family are horrified that you allowed your cat to have kittens??🐱

GrumpyPanda · 10/08/2024 22:57

My advice would be to take up topless sunbathing.

cabbageking · 10/08/2024 23:01

Your kittens should be under lock and key so no one can take or hurt them.
I would be putting a bolt on my gate and a light that goes off if someone enters.

My garden and my privacy. I would not be happy if they treat my garden as their own. I would also be safeguarding my dog so it doesn't get out and get injured.

Overtheatlantic · 10/08/2024 23:05

Are these kittens even vaccinated?

Cherrysoup · 10/08/2024 23:06

Why are the kittens not safely inside? I would speak to her and remind her (forcefully!) that she is not to go into your garden and upset the mother cat by taking her kittens. She’s very rude.

hippopandamouse · 10/08/2024 23:08

cabbageking · 10/08/2024 23:01

Your kittens should be under lock and key so no one can take or hurt them.
I would be putting a bolt on my gate and a light that goes off if someone enters.

My garden and my privacy. I would not be happy if they treat my garden as their own. I would also be safeguarding my dog so it doesn't get out and get injured.

Probably should have mentioned we live in the middle of nowhere, it’s literally our 3 houses. Animals (and children haha) are safely secured. We also have land at the back of the garden which is where the garden gates are so dog was perfectly safe ☺️

OP posts:
pinkstripeycat · 10/08/2024 23:11

Another irresponsible person bringing kittens in to the world when there are so many waiting to be rehomed

hippopandamouse · 10/08/2024 23:18

pinkstripeycat · 10/08/2024 23:11

Another irresponsible person bringing kittens in to the world when there are so many waiting to be rehomed

Thank you for your opinion however she was pregnant when we took her on. Kittens are due second vaccinations next weekend and she has been spayed! 🙃 garden is fully fenced in and vet was happy for us to allow them into it. Just trying my best over here haha!

OP posts:
hippopandamouse · 10/08/2024 23:19

GrumpyPanda · 10/08/2024 22:57

My advice would be to take up topless sunbathing.

My favourite answer haha!😜

OP posts:
hippopandamouse · 10/08/2024 23:20

Overtheatlantic · 10/08/2024 22:54

Could it be that your family are horrified that you allowed your cat to have kittens??🐱

She was already pregnant when we took her on and has now been spayed!

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Cobblersorchard · 10/08/2024 23:23

Kittens should not be outside! We live very rurally and ours didn’t set a foot outside until they were 8 months old and absolutely never at night.

Honestlynotsure · 10/08/2024 23:25

This whole thread just screams 'tell me you live on a council estate without telling me you live on a council estate' 😄😄😄

maplelatte · 10/08/2024 23:27

Honestlynotsure · 10/08/2024 23:25

This whole thread just screams 'tell me you live on a council estate without telling me you live on a council estate' 😄😄😄

OP has said she lives in the middle of nowhere, not on an estate?

hippopandamouse · 10/08/2024 23:28

Honestlynotsure · 10/08/2024 23:25

This whole thread just screams 'tell me you live on a council estate without telling me you live on a council estate' 😄😄😄

I have a grand total of 2 neighbours and surrounding by fields 😂

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maplelatte · 10/08/2024 23:29

This living situation would drive me nuts, OP, and I can't really see it improving as they all sound quite entitled. How are they when you're firm with them, with anything?

Silvers11 · 10/08/2024 23:29

Honestlynotsure · 10/08/2024 23:25

This whole thread just screams 'tell me you live on a council estate without telling me you live on a council estate' 😄😄😄

And you worked that out how?? Not what the OP says

Barrenfieldoffucks · 10/08/2024 23:31

God, between this and the 'wrong windows' thread it is really obvious where all the knobbers are hanging out tonight.

You're not unreasonable, obviously OP. Not sure why you're getting such odd responses.

NotbloodyGivingupYet · 10/08/2024 23:31

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TheDandyLion · 10/08/2024 23:34

Why are the kittens outside?

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InWalksBarberalla · 10/08/2024 23:36

I couldn't be living so close to family. They clearly aren't concerned with normal neighbour boundaries. Also as you let it go one time they probably figure you aren't going to make a fuss. Can you move??

Myfluffyblanket · 10/08/2024 23:37

Honestlynotsure · 10/08/2024 23:25

This whole thread just screams 'tell me you live on a council estate without telling me you live on a council estate' 😄😄😄

Tell us your reading and comprehension skills are rubbish without telling us your reading and comprehension skills are rubbish .

TheMaddHugger · 10/08/2024 23:38

Barrenfieldoffucks · 10/08/2024 23:31

God, between this and the 'wrong windows' thread it is really obvious where all the knobbers are hanging out tonight.

You're not unreasonable, obviously OP. Not sure why you're getting such odd responses.

wrong windows?

link please🌻

Saz12 · 10/08/2024 23:40

Family are yr neighbours, AND you live in arse end of nowhere? Of course youll have issues w privacy. What eas discussed before you all ended up l8ving beside each other?

Barrenfieldoffucks · 10/08/2024 23:41

I would assume some sort of family farm set up