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Walking into neighbours garden

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hippopandamouse · 10/08/2024 22:50

Random one I know haha!

We live in between 2 of my family members. Our cat had a litter of kittens and one of them is being rehomed by my auntie next door. Every single time they have friends over they are lining the fence with them and staring into our garden to show them the kittens, fine - kittens are great!

However last week they had a huge piss up and after I’d put my 3DC to bed I came down to round up the animals and noticed my dog was stood staring in through their garden gate. Refused to come in when called (very unusual for her) I then realised why as my auntie briskly walked back into my garden holding one of the kittens.

She was a little taken aback to see me stood in the doorway and said “Oh I was just borrowing one of your kittens to show everyone!” I let it go and locked up.

Today same situation but different friend selection! I just so happened to be walking into the kitchen at 9pm and see her marching down towards our gate. She only noticed noticed us as the kids were making a racket. She looks at me and says “Oh!…I was just going to borrow the black and white kitten as C is really taken by him”

I know they’re family but there is no way in a million years she’d tolerate someone walking into her garden and helping themselves to something even if the intention was to return it. Am I being unreasonable to think this is just rude? I wouldn’t dream of doing that to anyone. Not the end of the world I know it’s just niggling at me.

My dad is the other side of us and whenever he’s not in both of his siblings (other lives a mile from us) and their family use his garden as a footpath but will never do it when he’s home.

My aunties DC is getting married and when my dad isn’t in she goes into his garden and takes rose petals from his bushes to make confetti. I know as she’s told me but hasn’t asked my dad if this is okay!

They also use his driveway to park their cars but again only if he’s not there.

Maybe I’m just being silly but I’m feeling a bit uncomfortable 😣

OP posts:
LuckysDadsHat · 11/08/2024 09:57

Sharptonguedwoman · 11/08/2024 09:25

Well that’s what OP wrote🤷‍♀️. I’m not a vet. All of ours have been out after second vaccination and when I was sure they knew where home was. I was really careful with a young female till she could be spayed but otherwise all was good.

Cats and kittens should not be outside until they are neutered. Doesn't matter after 2 vaccines, it is the responsible thing to do to not let them out until they have been neutered.

Male cats are more likely to be injured or killed if they are out before neutering. Males will wander much further afield seeking females to mate with.

Females more likely to get pregnant which can kill young kittens as they are not big enough to give birth (they can get pregnant from 4 months old). More likely to be attacked by whole males looking to mate. And it is savage for female cats.

Sounreasonable · 11/08/2024 10:28

@hippopandamouse I have nothing helpful to add because I’m one of those weirdos who doesn’t mind family and friends coming and going- my friends have keys to my house! (I would start keeping the kittens in or in a locked enclosure though so no one upsets and scares them)

But I’d love to know how you and your family ended up with 3 next door houses in the middle of nowhere? Were they inherited? Did you build them together or something??

mondaytosunday · 11/08/2024 10:41

But it's your taunt - wouldn't bother me. But stealing rose petals is beyond the pale!

sunsetsandboardwalks · 11/08/2024 10:42

Sharptonguedwoman · 11/08/2024 09:25

Well that’s what OP wrote🤷‍♀️. I’m not a vet. All of ours have been out after second vaccination and when I was sure they knew where home was. I was really careful with a young female till she could be spayed but otherwise all was good.

You've been incredibly irresponsible.

Sharptonguedwoman · 11/08/2024 10:45

LuckysDadsHat · 11/08/2024 09:57

Cats and kittens should not be outside until they are neutered. Doesn't matter after 2 vaccines, it is the responsible thing to do to not let them out until they have been neutered.

Male cats are more likely to be injured or killed if they are out before neutering. Males will wander much further afield seeking females to mate with.

Females more likely to get pregnant which can kill young kittens as they are not big enough to give birth (they can get pregnant from 4 months old). More likely to be attacked by whole males looking to mate. And it is savage for female cats.

Thanks but we have loved and looked after many cats over the years. All vaccinated, spayed, chipped, cared for with vet visits. Vet advice followed. No pregnancies or accidents. All accidental arrivals to friend's cats or rescues. Mostly girls, and one rescue neutered male. We're all good.

Whatevershallidowithmylife · 11/08/2024 10:46

Honestlynotsure · 10/08/2024 23:25

This whole thread just screams 'tell me you live on a council estate without telling me you live on a council estate' 😄😄😄

And your post screams ‘I haven’t read the thread and I’m a snob’

KreedKafer · 11/08/2024 10:52

Honestlynotsure · 10/08/2024 23:25

This whole thread just screams 'tell me you live on a council estate without telling me you live on a council estate' 😄😄😄

Your whole post screams ‘Tell me you are not very bright without telling me you are not very bright’

StarryDance · 11/08/2024 10:55

Honestlynotsure · 10/08/2024 23:25

This whole thread just screams 'tell me you live on a council estate without telling me you live on a council estate' 😄😄😄

What?

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