Quiet neighbours now making noise.

[OpalBird]

My neighbours talked to us about the noise coming from our property. OK, my son has a hobby that does make an annoying noise. Since then we have made sure he's doing it less but we obviously aren't going to stop him completely. They haven't said anything since and I think we've been considerate in reducing the number of hours our son does his thing.

It seems like they've now decided that they are allowed to make more noise. We've been neighbours for years and they've always been quiet. Now we get occasional music or radio in their backyard. When I asked them about it they said they have always worn headphones to be considerate but they don't really like listening that way, so they thought it was fair they got to have their hobbies the way they enjoy them best as well.

Would I be unreasonable to complain to them again? There is a difference between children playing and music when they have the option of headphones.

I stand with your neighbours here!

This. Unless it's blaring or played at unreasonable hours, since when did listening to music in your own house or garden become unreasonable?

Team neighbour

It could be argued it's inconsiderate and selfish to not allow a child their hobby. Maybe I'll limit it to three sessions a day but I think any less is not fair to my son.

He can do his hobby. Just not somewhere that disturbs the neighbours for over 2 hours a day.
My son plays drums- there is absolutely no chance he's playing a full drum kit 3 or 4 times a day. He has an electric one and we have moved it so it's away from any adjoining walls.

The world does not revolve around children's hobbies, especially ones that are disruptive to others.

This has to be a wind up. If not,then team neighbours all the way!

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This is absolutely a wind up.

A detached house with absoltely NO option at all to put a basketball hoop ANYWHERE else

@OpalBird ask to borrow their headphones now they’re not using them!

Seriously, you need to move the net. Or your son to a park which has a net!

When they complained they complained about the frequency of it. I think I've been a good neighbour responding to it by getting him to do it less.

Fuck that. In the words of Reddit, you are the arsehole(s). Multiple hours of bouncing a basketball every day. And you think you’re being reasonable as that’s ’less’ than before.

If I was your neighbour that music would be loud, rock music. For half an hour a time, several times a day. Probably coinciding with when the godawful bouncing ended.

Your poor neighbours.

You are being massively unreasonable OP and I’m glad I’m not your neighbour

There is somewhere else to put it. In a skip where it belongs.

So your DS is 13 and they think they've got what, 5 more years to enjoy listening to him bouncing a ball for hours every day and you think they are unreasonable? Fucks sake.

Does it not disturb you when you are working at home?

They are allowed to enjoy their garden.
Why do you expect silence from their home yet think noise from yours is acceptable?

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I’d tell you to go fuck yourself! They should listen to their music through HEADPHONES?? In their own home? When they would like to listen to it through a proper device for a mere couple of hours every now and then?

But your son is fine to bang a ball about several times a day?? 😂😖 and that’s a REDUCED amount?

gawd, you’re a nightmare neighbour! I love my music, I have proper sound systems that sound amazing, and sometimes I turn them up loud. I’d never do it an an antisocial time, and it’s not everyday. I’m allowed to enjoy my property and make a small amount of reasonable noise, as are your neighbours.

You sound quite selfish and entitled.

The world does not revolve around children's hobbies, especially ones that are disruptive to others.

More parents should take note of this.

We live in a detached house, and the house next door but one has recently seen a family with teenage boys move in. Now it's loud bouncing balls and Squeaky Voiced Teen every evening. Sound carries.

There you go!

You are so utterly self unaware. So your son does two hours of basketball spread out over the day… and you have your radio on for an hour… and you’re complaining about their occasional music?

Surely you can see that the noise you are creating exceeds theirs?

So your neighbours have been living in their home quiet as church mice while you live fully with lots of life and noise. They asked you to be more considerate, but still the thud of your son’s basketball twat twat twats on concrete several times a day. So your neighbours have thought fuck it and are now listening to music out loud and not being considerate, good for them, you didn’t really listen so they are just ignoring you and living life without concern.

Not everyone actually understands what persistant neighbour noise can be like, I don’t mean the occasional switching on of a plug through the wall, a hoover or maybe even a one off loud conversation, I mean constant loud, out of the ordinary noise and a neighbour who won’t reason with you. Basket ball can be done in a sports centre or park, I know what your going to say “but my child has a phobia of parks and all the sports centres and clubs were burned down by aliens waaaa!”, but if your child has a hobby that’s loud and out of the ordinary, then you make allowances for that, you didn’t, you lost!

I had a neighbour growing up who delt drugs from their maisonette and played loud garage music, they were violent and aggressive when approached, that’s a problem neighbour, you can solve your issues, apologise, get your kid in a sports club, if the aliens haven’t ruined them all, and maybe you can go back to what sounds like a nice life, with pretty decent neighbours.

Yup, me too!
So, OP, you're allowed to make noise, but you want them to be silent?!!

Your poor neighbours if you think 3-4 half hours sessions a day is a compromise. How many hours a day was your son playing before this 'reduction'?

Send your kid to the park

He used to bounce for 8 x 30mins a day? Fuck that, I'm surprised they didn't pop the bloody thing. If this isn't a reverse, then tough. Well done neighbours for fighting back.

Basketball sounds are so annoying

Eerm, not it couldn't. At least, not using your rationale of 'My child is allowed to make a noise but my neighbours are not'

Good on your neighbours. The pounding of a ball multiple times a day is far worse than someone enjoying some music in their garden.

She said it used to be twice that!

The only thing that is unreasonable is having the basket ball hoop right by their house. I'm sure there is somewhere else you can place it, even if it screwed onto a wall of your detached house.

Other than that, noone is unreasonable...its all just neighbour noise. They have to live with your hoop noise, you live with their radio.