Quiet neighbours now making noise.

[OpalBird]

My neighbours talked to us about the noise coming from our property. OK, my son has a hobby that does make an annoying noise. Since then we have made sure he's doing it less but we obviously aren't going to stop him completely. They haven't said anything since and I think we've been considerate in reducing the number of hours our son does his thing.

It seems like they've now decided that they are allowed to make more noise. We've been neighbours for years and they've always been quiet. Now we get occasional music or radio in their backyard. When I asked them about it they said they have always worn headphones to be considerate but they don't really like listening that way, so they thought it was fair they got to have their hobbies the way they enjoy them best as well.

Would I be unreasonable to complain to them again? There is a difference between children playing and music when they have the option of headphones.

Occasional music is ok! If it was constant then yes ask them to wear headphones, but not with occasional!

So they're showing you the same level of consideration you're showing them, but you don't like it?

But you still can’t ask them not to play the radio during the day. That’s perfectly acceptable noise (unless it’s really, really loud).

Is he in a basketball team?

Reducing to 3 sessions a day of basketball? Are you joking? The only inconsiderate neighbour here is you @OpalBird

Why can your son. It go to the park? And you do realise there are plenty of other things he could do, it’s not just basketball or screen time

occasional music or radio in their backyard is fine during the day.

A banging ball is really annoying.

Sorry OP but all they are saying is that if 2 hours of basket ball is reasonable in your eyes, then why have they been so worried about making noise on their side and they will relax a bit about enjoying the radio. What size is your garden, how close are your neighbours, where is the net.

They shouldn't have to 'tolerate' anything

Someone will always come and say this on EVERY thread.

And so far I've never seen it to be the case.

^^ This. There’s nothing wrong with having a hobby, but something like basketball should be done in a park not a private garden. Your son’s 13 so he’s old enough to go to a park by himself not spend two hours a day torturing the neighbours.

The fact these nice, quiet neighbours complained shows how disturbing they’re finding it.

There isn’t really a difference is there? Both of your households have hobbies that make a noise. As long as they’re only doing it during the day and it’s not constant (i.e. they give you the same consideration you give them), you haven’t got any basis for making a complaint.

Something people suggest when they have nothing else to say.

I really wouldn’t bother trying to bargain an exact basketball time with them. In return for what? They go back to their headphones? I wouldn’t agree to that and neither should your neighbours. They’ve tried not making any noise at all and probably resorted to headphones to block out some of the basketball noise, but now they’ve ceased giving a shit and I don’t blame them.

This has highly amused me.

my son makes an annoying noise for two hours a day , used to be more
my neighbours are doing the same thing. Aibu to think it’s ok for us to do it but not them ?

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The basketball is only about half an hour at a time, a few times a day.

This is wild!!!
i cant believe this is a serious post and not a reverse 😅
I think you are getting off likely if all they are doing is opening their back door and playing a bit of music whipe gardening ir relaxing.
your neighbours have been crazy reasonable.
they have stopped showing you any consideration as you are showing little or non to them so they clearly think whats the point?

Our lovely (and imo) "quiet" neighbours regularly play music in the garden and have big parties 3 or 4 times a year. They are just living their lives!

Your poor neighbours are listening to basketball bouncing 3 times plus a day 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

He is 13 not 3 he can go down to the local park and do a couple of hours there.

Normal kids playing noise isn't wrong, but it can also be annoying for others. It's just people put up with it because it's life.

An hour of radio playing (or even more) is also fine. The fact you're working from home is irrelevant. Perhaps others near you have to work from home too while listening to repetitive ball bouncing.

You've deemed your noise fine and theirs unacceptable. You are being incredibly unreasonable.

You sound deluded and entitled. You’re mad about a little inoffensive radio music when your neighbours are listening to a basketball being slammed into the ground for hours on end. Send your precious baby boy off to the park to practice!

I'm not saying anything here that no one else has said, but a bouncing basketball is such a jarring sound. I'd be on edge never knowing when it was going to start up or stop again.
They were very considerate to you, but you haven't shown them any consideration back, so I don't blame them.

You can't expect silence when you wfh. I wfh and my neighbours don't, when they're in in the day they make noise. If it's the holidays and there's a fair bit of noise from the children etc, I wear headphones. Maybe you could try that?

OP does he play outside? Are you terraced?

I'm trying to understand how the noise from basketball carries so much to make it they annoying to them. I guess it must be the noise of the ball bouncing.

It's great your son has a hobby. I'll go against the grain and say if I were your neighbour, I'd try to ignore the noise unless it was really bad eg unsocial hours and he plays right by their window.

God you'd be driving me insane and then you get annoyed at far less intrusive and frequent noise.

Two detached homes next to each other. The net is right next to their house but there is nowhere else to put it. They did understand why it was there when I explained.

I would genuinely move house (or gauge my ear drums out) if a neighbour was making basketball noise four time a day for half an hour at a time. That is beyond excessive.

Why do you think it's reasonable for you to inflict 2 hours a day of basketball on them? And previously you thought 4 hours was OK. Did you not consider them at all?

Now they have chosen not to consider you, which I don't blame them for at all.

I suggest you sit down with them and make a plan and try to maintain a relationship.

I moved house because the child next door played football alone for up to 6 hours a day every day. He was very good so he kicked the ball hard with every kick accompanied by a loud piercing scream. It was hell.

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