AIBU to think that men who pee in public are disgusting and should be heavily fined?

[ArcheryAnnie]

I work in central London, the entrance to my office is on a small secluded side street, and it is an unusual week when I don't run into one man or another who has nipped into the street to have a pee, despite there being an open pub opposite and public loos 2 mins away. On my way home tonight, waiting to get the lift from the tube platform to the ticket hall, yet another guy whipped his dick out and had a pee onto the doorframe of the lift. When I pointed out we were yards from a public loo, he said "I have a weak bladder", and laughed.

You know who else has a weak bladder? Half the other middle-aged women I know. And yet we (usually) refrain from peeing in the street next to strangers.

All these men with their dicks in their hands will then go on to touch lift buttons, handrails, touch pads, etc.

Oh how I want them all to be arrested and given enormous fines. I am so sick of it.

I agree. I find it awful and it absolutely stinks. I work in Manchester and around the town hall regularly gets used as an open air urinal despite public toilets being just there and open 24 hours (close at 4pm for an hour's cleaning then reopen). There's wooden hoarding around the town hall and it smells of man piss, despite being hosed down every single morning, the piss has just totally soaked in to the wood and also the stonework of the buildings which smells delightful on sunny days like we had recently. It is absolutely unacceptable. I had two massive babies, my pelvic floor is like a knackered hammock and I still manage to not piss in the streets because I have some sense of dignity

Yep, it's a daily event opposite my flat, men are just revolting 🤢

I would like them to have more than just a fine. I bet many are on a good income and denying them their summer holiday abroad for a couple of years would be a better sentence.

I know it's far less frequent but I was walking my dog the other evening and turned a corner to find a woman squatting by a wall with her arse sticking out of her trousers pissing on the pavement. God knows what she had been drinking but it was like a ruptured water main running across the footpath. I was so stunned I couldn't believe I was seeing it. But yes men are far more likely to piss in the street.

I was just saying this today. Disgusting.

I have no idea if this was true but there was a story when I was at uni about one of the students who had peed in the street and been charged with urinating/masturbating in public and threatened with the sex offenders register. I suspect if the police took this approach it might reduce the incidence quite a lot

I think it would be an absolute crime to start putting men caught peeing in public on the sex offenders register. If any man can say 'oh I was just pissing in a bush' and it becomes a believable reason to be on the register at all then there's literally no point in it. It also means police disclosures to women could be lied about, as they don't give the exact details of the crime. If a man is a known sex offender but it's reduced to meaning he might have just pissed in an ally when he was 18 on his way home from a nightclub it belittles abs invalidates it.

I do agree when public toilets are nearby etc then it's absolutely no excuse. But in a lot of arrears councils have cut funding and closed public toilets, in these places of course there will be piss in random alleys and parks, because people need to use the toilet. We should encourage councils to make them more available. A lot of narrative was that as part of business licensing that businesses would pick up the slack but often they are 'customer toilets' which means you have to buy something. A lot of people don't want to waste money and don't have time to buy something. A pub in the example given id particularly bad as you likely know a drink kill just make you need to pee again and could take you a few minutes to drink.

There'll be various people along shortly to tell you that it's quite acceptable and it's all the councils' fault for not providing public conveniences.

Seems in the length of time it took me to type the post....

Oh God, I’m cackling at your last sentence 😂You’re an absolute poet!

I've got a terrible overactive bladder and have been known to use a bush when desperate. And I mean completely hidden away and not seen. Certainly wouldn't dream of doing it in plain sight on the street! Also always tena'd up to my eyeballs when going out as always wondering if there's a toilet near. Really affects my life and stops me from going out.
I can confirm over 20 yrs ago desperate for a wee after a night out, was about 3am in the morning and no toilets/fast food open and needed a wee, I went behind a bush out of sight. A policeman (obviously a quiet night) asked me what I'd just done and I was completely honest, went for a wee. He didn't see, I wasn't drunk, tipsy, and wasn't exposed. Got an £80 fixed penalty for it. When I told my dad years after (I was so ashamed!) he said he didn't think it would of been right for a single police officer to off followed a young woman like that but who knows!
I'd never and have never been in trouble with the police and was petrified! Even had to ask if it would exclude me from teacher training. Only told my mum a few years ago 😂
Oh to be able to pee in a bottle! Men have it so easy!

Police used to report people who we’ed in the street as it is an offence. One of the many public order offences that they’ve forgotten about!

I bet no one's seen this before. I was on the tube going into London the other day when I noticed a guy get up and stand by the door facing into the corner. There was then a very loud, and very very long, sound of pouring, and I realised he was peeing into his child's bucket (a sandcastle bucket). I couldn't believe it. He (eventually) zipped himself up, hooked the bucket onto the pushchair handle, and sat back down with his child, while I just hoped the tube didn't do a sudden stop and spill the contents of the bucket everywhere.

Years ago I was on a bus going through Clapham. We passed a woman squatting with her skirt up, pissing like a racehorse in the gutter.

The image will be embedded in my mind for life.

I completely agree. I also hate the pop up urinals dotted all over London (and presumably in other cities too). Pissing in the street is just another example of male entitlement.

I posted similar a couple of years ago after I saw out of my living room window a man standing next to his car, peeing into an empty car parking space, in broad daylight, practically onto the pavement, on a very residential street near the centre of town.

I got pounced on because he could have had a hidden disability that meant he simply couldn't wait. Let's forget the fact he wasn't even bothering to TRY and be the tiniest bit discreet which I think you would if you were really caught short. And do only men have these hidden disabilities?

Anyway Mumsnet is a strange place and YANBU

To add, I reported to the police who took it seriously but the car was registered to a female so there wasn't really anything else they could do.

All of this. It's not a sex offence; it's not being done for sexual reasons. It's often lazy and inconsiderate but those are very different things.

Over the age of 10
Or without a medical reason it is sick

I’m kinda jealous of how easy men have it when caught short. We got stuck for several hours due to a jack knifed lorry on a snowy road. Saw quite a few men jump out of their vehicles and run into the trees at the side of the road. I was trying to think how I could go discreetly, luckily we managed to turn round and go back to wherever started where it was less snowy. On nights out a lot of blokes would disappear at certain points on our walks home, the girls just had to hold it in.

That is grim. I can understand being caught short nowhere near a bathroom, and having go in a shrubbery by the side of the road or something.
But it's gross to just take it as a given.

I had a terrible time when I had to work in a really remote area. I desperately needed to go and there was no pubs or coffee shops or anything. I ended up squatting between two parked cars, mortifyingly I stood up to realise I was directly in front of a primary school! Thankfully shut as it was about 7pm. But I was so scared I'd be on camera and get done for flashing or perving or something. If it was a bloke he'd have given not one shit.

That is just so disgusting.

A couple of years ago, we were driving from Esperance to Perth and were about 10kms from Kulin. There is bugger all out there - look it up. Just the Tin Horse Highway. https://www.visitkulin.com.au/see-do/experiences/tin-horse-highway

And it was also about 48 degrees. Anyway, Back of beyond, stinking hot and some poor truckdriver had pulled into a turning bay, hopped out and gone to the other side of his truck for a leak. No one for miles - except us driving past at the wrong time.

The poor bloke was just out of luck that day.

It's exposure!
I caught one peeing on the carpark gates.
He said he had a weak bladder.
You realise this is a B Jobcentre with public toilets don't you ???
Ohh, Is it?
Big green sign
Just bloody lazy
Oh yes and filthy

Log it with your council and get them to use anti-pee splash paint. Works a treat. They might take more notice if the complaints come from a business premises, too.