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She turned her nose up at my joint camping meal, then added her own stuff!

171 replies

MerchantGourmetLover · 06/08/2024 16:00

On our camping trip with friends we decided that each night one family cooks a meal to feed everyone. I got allocated the final night, so a bit more difficult in terms of bringing fresh stuff from home as it won't last.

My friend got allocated the first night and presented a home cooked chilli using all these organic ingredients picked from a local allotment. She also made some pointed comments about how she is trying to reduce her consumption of ultra processed foods.

To make life easier, for my meal (which to be fair was similar to hers) I used some packets of Merchant Gourmet cajun beans and Mexican grains - which I happen to think are really nice. As soon as I mentioned this she started quietly grumbling about UPFs and I overheard her describe it to someone else as "slop from packets". I tried to ignore and rise above it, but at the moment I served up my meal to everyone, she popped up with a load of extra stuff (of course from the organic allotment) which she claimed was "just some sides to add to your meal", but she then proceeded to only eat her stuff and ignored everything I had cooked.

She has form for this as something similar happened last year! Should I have tried harder with my offering or AIBU to be upset that she was rude about my meal in front of everyone else?

OP posts:
Thevelvelletes · 06/08/2024 16:02

CBA with any of that.
Definitely be separate holiday trips.

cheddercherry · 06/08/2024 16:06

Are you sure this was a trip with friends?

Goldcushions2 · 06/08/2024 16:07

Pig ignorant.
Dog rough.
Uncouth.
Take your pick.
She is no friend, and you shouldn't have accepted such treatment.
I wouldn't be holidaying with her again, life is too short.

Hardcametherain · 06/08/2024 16:08

That would be the last time I holidayed with her. Camping food is difficult and your menu sounds great.

ToothPickk · 06/08/2024 16:09

She shouldn't share in this type of thing as her standards are clearly different to everyone else's, I couldn't be arsed with someone like that.

missmousemouth · 06/08/2024 16:10

She's horrible.

FranceIsWhereItsAt · 06/08/2024 16:10

If she has form for this OP, can I ask why you went away with her and expected her to be different this time?

I certainly wouldn't be going with her again, rude woman.

Sarvanga24 · 06/08/2024 16:11

Goldcushions2 · 06/08/2024 16:07

Pig ignorant.
Dog rough.
Uncouth.
Take your pick.
She is no friend, and you shouldn't have accepted such treatment.
I wouldn't be holidaying with her again, life is too short.

Also wrong and needs to revise her view of UPF - the MG above is fine.

LemonTreeGrove · 06/08/2024 16:11

She sounds a pain

IBegYourBiggestPardon · 06/08/2024 16:12

YANBU she'd be getting a pot noodle or tinned hot dogs next time if it was me!

GreyCarpet · 06/08/2024 16:12

She's not your friend.

Sunshineafterthehail · 06/08/2024 16:12

I haven't camped with anyone for many years... We had a caravan with awning.. Friend had a trailer tent.
We arrived and got organised, unpacked our week's groceries..
Friend arrived and got out of the passenger seat having travelled with a cooked chicken on her lap.. It rained all week. Guess who hosted an extra family of 5? Never a fucking gain.
Another family we drove to meet them abroad for a few days. I fed our family and theirs one night. Huge task. Their turn friend announced the camp shop was shut and cancelled.

Absolutely never again. Was 19 years ago this summer and stuck to my guns.

Pinkypinkyplonk · 06/08/2024 16:12

No, you should have tried harder with your choice of friends!

TomatoSandwiches · 06/08/2024 16:19

Don't invite her again, I'm sure others that attended would be far happier with her gone.

BobbyBiscuits · 06/08/2024 16:21

Grains and beans from a packet probably don't even have UPF. What a cow.
I'd just ignore her and not eat with her again. Is she that picky in restaurants?

OneTC · 06/08/2024 16:21

She's a dick

Aniseedtwists · 06/08/2024 16:23

She sound insufferable, I can’t stand people that are really judgemental about food choices. I would avoid going away with her again.

MoveToParis · 06/08/2024 16:25

The kindest I can say is that she sounds very neurotic and anxiety driven. Certainly her behaviour is atrocious. I hope she is reading this.

Differentstarts · 06/08/2024 16:26

That's very outing your friend is definitely on mumsnet, normal people outside of mumsnet aren't this obsessed with upf.

KreedKafer · 06/08/2024 16:27

Bloody hell, if this is how your friends behave I'd hate to meet your enemies.

She's a complete cow, OP.

Also, UPF hysteria is fucking tedious

5128gap · 06/08/2024 16:27

I wouldn't have a problem with her adding to it and eating her own stuff (I'm vegan and do this so not to be an inconvenience) but to describe your food as 'slop' and complain was extremely rude and Unpleasant. There are tactful ways to avoid foods you can't or don't want to eat without making out the food is inferior.

Devilsmommy · 06/08/2024 16:27

IBegYourBiggestPardon · 06/08/2024 16:12

YANBU she'd be getting a pot noodle or tinned hot dogs next time if it was me!

This is what I would do too🤣

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 06/08/2024 16:30

Look at it positively - there was more of your food to go around everyone.

MabelMaybe · 06/08/2024 16:33

Merchant Gourmand don't think they're UPF: https://www.thegrocer.co.uk/big-interview/merchant-gourmets-richard-peake-on-plant-baseds-bright-future/689315.article. She's the one who went hungry and ate less than everyone else. Awful behaviour from her though.

Simonjt · 06/08/2024 16:34

We’re camping, I usually cook a proper meal everyday, today is a fuck it day so we’re all having instant noodles. If anyone complains they can plan, buy and a cook a meal themselves.

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