do you and DH share your locations on your phones?

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just curious really. DH and I have never done this, and I wondered if that is the norm?

Yeh we do and it’s works well. If I’m off doing the shopping and he is cooking dinner or something, he can keep on when I’m heading home so ye knows when to start and I don’t have to remember to let him know. Or if I’m on a work trip abroad it gives us both peace of mind that I’m okay!

I suspect that the reason the majority of posters track their spouses this way is because of trust issues, actually. Nothing screams 'I don't trust you as far as I can throw you' like tracking someone's every move.

You think this will only be the issue in this abusive relationship?

I suspect the abuser will be abusive regardless of whether or not she shares her location and regardless of whether the abuser even asks for it.

If it acts another red flag to get out of the relationship, then she should end it and I’d encourage her to do so.

Absolutely not. I don’t let Apps track me.
I don’t care where DH is, if anything happens to him the police would soon get in touch.

No, absolutely not. If one of us is traveling or otherwise doing something specific where tracking will be helpful then we’ll share our location for a set period of time (iPhones make this easy, I don’t know about others). I do the same with my parents/PIL if I’m on a long drive to see them. At most we set it to last until end of day.

Our DC will keep location visible to us until they leave school or pay for their own phones, whichever comes first, but we consider that a safety backup and don’t look at it regularly.

We do - I leave work late at night and it even sends a notification to DH when I’m leaving the building, without me doing anything. I’d rather someone was able to check on me in those circumstances.
it also helps us plan things.
i rarely check his unless he’s on a 4 hour journey to his head office at 5am. I just want reassurance he’s safe

You have an active imagination.

A good reminder to teach dd to spot an abuser. I don't think she has lost her mind just because she shared her location with her parents once upon a time.

Nope, husband and teenage kids. None of us would dream of such an idea.

We do but don’t really check. If something happens to me, I want to be tracked.

If this is your best argument against tracking, I think you have run out of ideas.

I think you’re missing the fact that I’m happy to share my own location with DH. I assume he feels the same. I trust him not to track me relentlessly and I trust that he won’t think anything untoward if I’m at a location he wasn’t expecting me to be at. Five years of location sharing has proved me right as he doesn’t always know my plans in advance and he has never once mentioned having “tracked” me at a suspicious location, and vice versa.

I feel more safe having at least one person know where I am.

My work calendar ALWAYS has my plans on it too, and my colleagues can see this. One morning a last minute meeting was arranged so I was late into the office but with nothing in my diary. Three colleagues called or text me during the meeting to check I was okay as I hadn’t made it in and they couldn’t see where I was. I was incredibly grateful that if something had happened there were multiple people aware and checking in. I feel exactly the same way about sharing my location with DH.

But I’m also happy with Apple and Google knowing my every move and purchase so long as it makes my life easier.

Because I talk to her about what is and isn't acceptable in a relationship? She wouldn't even see me and DH do it because although technically we have the ability too, we very rarely do. So if someone she knew was going on about it then it wouldn't look normal to her. Because we've had conversations about the ethics of location sharing already. It's an interesting topic.

I do feel safer knowing that at the back of my mind I am being tracked. That is because the person tracking me - dh - is someone I trust to look out for me.

Or it could be dcs wondering when I am coming home with their KFC!

For those who are against sharing the location, are there times where if your partner rang and asked where you were you would lie? And why would you lie? What would be the ramifications of you being in that place?

And if you’d always tell the truth, why does it matter if they can see where you are? As they could always just ring and ask and have the same effect…

You’re going to have your minds blown when you realise DH and I share a credit card and get notifications when the other makes a purchase 😂

No, we don’t track anyone in the family and have no desire to.

We’ve discussed doing it if one of us is on a long car journey perhaps, but that’s it.

Some of DD’s (19) friends are tracked by their parents. As they’re adults, presumably they’ve given their permission. DD hasn’t given hers.

I’m happy to share my own location with DH. I assume he feels the same.

But who is going to say 'Well actually dear, I would prefer you didn't track me constantly, because its quite the inconvenience when I want to meet my mistress'?

If my DH tings and asks where I am...

I tell him where I am!

You clearly have trust issues that your OH would lie.

We don't, we just say where we are!

Quite simple really.

The old adage of if you're not doing anything wrong, why are you bothered.

I'd say if you trust me why are you checking?

I’ve got bigger relationship issue than location sharing if that’s his issue. But he’s capable of turning it off from his end and so I probably wouldn’t even notice if he did turn it off for his affair meet-ups then back on afterwards.

Sharing locations isn’t stopping either of us cheating, and would only make it marginally more difficult to get away with.

Exactly only couples who trust each other share locations with each other.

Wonder what you non-tracking couples are up to 😂

I’ve given many reasons on this thread as to why it’s a useful tool for us, as have others.

Yes we both do and also have DH mother's location.

All of us have consented and it works well for us. I go walking in remote parts so it's nice to know that if something happened like I twisted my ankle DH could find me. I often use his to see when he will be home when cooking so he doesn't have to phone.

We often use it to avoid each other when walking independently so that our dog doesn't come across the other person and then get upset when we continue separately.

I agree.

Location tracking is just a useful tool for lots of reasons. But non-trackers seem fixated on checking and being checked up constantly like that is all anybody will do but be glued to the screen if they have the app.

Because I’m entitled to privacy and DH isn’t entitled to know where I am at all times.

Because it takes 5 seconds to text ‘will be at the train station for 6:30’ or ‘traffic is crazy, will be closer to 7 now’.

I’ve also never made sure that dinner is ready ‘on time’ for DH.