do you and DH share your locations on your phones?

[buggeroo]

just curious really. DH and I have never done this, and I wondered if that is the norm?

Family of 5. We all share location and love it. None of us have anything to hide from each other, why wouldn’t we. Even my Dad follows me to reassure himself I’m home safe 😍.
Totally depends on your family, relationships and family set up Great for some people and not so for others.🤷🏼‍♀️

You assume wrong. Make no difference, other than be exceedingly annoying because I am trying to work.

@blueshoes I just like a bit of privacy in a world where nothing is private anymore!

I think it’s also a generational thing. I’m 50 this year so grew up without cell phones and CCTV. As a child, my best friend and I would go off on our bikes all day in the summer and as long as we were home by 6, no one worried. Same when I was traveling in the 1990’s, you just went and made one phone call home a week.

It’s a different mindset, I suppose.
My DD certainly doesn’t want me tracking her activities at university. 😂

We don’t have any trust issues so we don’t mind sharing locations. It works well for us.

My car broke down in the middle of nowhere last week when I was on the way to a meeting. I called my husband and he could see my exact location with a glance at his phone.

I could also track his progress on my phone as he came to me which was reassuring

You keep telling yourself that. I'm sure your husband can leave his phone at work so you can't see when he's at the local Travelodge with an escort. Or do you have a chip planted directly into his neck too?

Nope

@behindthemall you have given reasons why, like your DH being miffed or irritated with you.

Quite telling and sad really.

@BruFord I am 56 so older than you. When I started work, it was fax and pre-email 😱

If the tech is useful, I adopt it. don't think it is the thin end of the wedge re: erosion of privacy because of the consent element. Am I the only one who takes the extra clicks to reject cookies? I do like the personal safety element of location tracking. It may not bring me back alive but I'd hope they'd at least find my body!

Not with H but do with DD

If your partner asks you where you are then it should be enough that you tell them and they believe you.

The only reason someone would need to check on a tracker is because they don’t trust their partner enough to tell them the truth if they asked.

You could tell the truth every time but a controlling partner is still going to think you are lying anyway, which is exactly why they love these trackers.

If you need to know where your partner is, just ask them.

If they lie or you don’t believe them, then that means there are issues in the relationship and tracking each other isn’t the answer.

We do, the kids too. Our daughter is almost 20 and has been asked if she’s happy to stay on and she is.

Apparently most kids her age can see where each other are all the time on Snapchat! I’m happy for family to see where I am but definitely wouldn’t about all my SM contacts seeing it too.

Trusting each other to tell the truth & communicate info a partner needs without needing independent evidence to verify 🤷🏼‍♀️

For people who are happy to leave tracking on all the time, you do you. Neither choice tells you anything about a relationship in isolation.

You think that the app is for me to check whether my dh is having an affair. Nope.

Once again, it he was determined, he would have another phone. As mentioned by @behindthemall it is easy to turn location on and off to conceal an affair even without a second phone.

My mind does not go down the same rabbit holes as you or others on this thread.

Exactly. I said it cuts both ways. The trust issue is a red herring.

Yes the roads where we were living at the time of my first pregnancy were pretty dangerous so I asked DH to allow me to location track him for my own sanity. We just carried on after that. It’s helpful when trying to track him down in a mall sometimes or where he is if I need to start dinner.

I don’t think it bothers either of us tbh, we aren’t exciting people and I don’t feel the need for privacy. Fairly sure Dh doesn’t bother checking in on me at all.

We share locations. We find it useful to know where our phones are. Was helpful when ...

Teen left theirs on bus
Teen dropped theirs in town
I left mine at work

A sign of someone who has nothing useful to add to the argument. How about pick up on my grammar.

Oh yes forgotten how many times DH has asked me to see if his phone is still at work because he can't find it at home 😁

@blueshoes Fair enough, it’s just personal preference. I’ve always loved my privacy so prefer not to be tracked nor track others.

Exactly only couples who trust each other share locations with each other.

Wonder what you non-tracking couples are up to 😂

On the contrary the only couple I know who track each other have both had affairs

Find my phone does the same without tracking.

Well that's no surprise really.

Find my phone..

Useful app

Where did I say it would be the only issue?

I'm saying that if something like this starts being seen as "normal" in the vast majority of relationships, then it's an easy way for an abuser to get their claws into someone new. If you start by using normalised methods of communication and control, it becomes harder for people to notice the red flags - the boiling frog method, so to speak.