do you and DH share your locations on your phones?

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just curious really. DH and I have never done this, and I wondered if that is the norm?

@PoetryPlease I am pretty sure that many of the posters on here would not be happy if their child said no.

Yes we do, super handy. Why would it be an issue unless you had something to hide / had trust issues.

People, the technology is there. It doesn't bite. No need to rely on just pen and paper when there are laptops going spare.

Yes, because DH often cycles early in the morning before work, and if he came off, I'd want to be able to go straight to whatever remote hedge he was stuffed in.

I don't think he'd know how to check where I was on his phone.

Yea we do. Another one who uses life360. Again as other shave said it is useful to see when they're on their way home.

Yea, we use Life 360.

The thread is about sharing with a partner though, not a child. If you want to know if I think parents should track children without permission I would have a different answer. Especially teenagers. I think it should always be consent based.

@behindthemall I understand that's why you want tracking.... tutting and miffed and lying about dish washing emptying... all very odd.

Luckily my and DH, don't have that sort of relationship...

Hence no over the top tracking and trying to appease the other half.

Gen Z don't have the same sense of privacy. There are so many presence-detecting apps they are used to it.

I was at a uni open day with ds. He opened his snapchat app which told him who amongst his friends were at the same uni open day and where they were at. He then went to look for and meet up with one of them to do an accommodation visit. It is natural to them.

We do. All started when DP got a motorbike and commuted 1 hr each way. When doing so by car he'd call me on the way home but couldn't on a bike.

That’s what we do. If it were just DH and I then I wouldn’t.

@blueshoes
Gen Z don't have the same sense of privacy. There are so many presence-detecting apps they are used to "

There is a huge difference between kids finding each other and parents tracking their children.

We don't. I find the idea incredibly creepy. I don't think it's my right to know where DH is at all times or his right to know where I am.

I also worry about the potential of this stuff to become a tool of abuse and control. It's not something I worry about in my marriage but then I guess most people in controlling or abusive relationships don't realise until it's too late to change things easily. I imagine for anyone naturally controlling or anxious, having this technology would easily become an addiction that fuels their issues too.

To those who say it helps people to get dinner ready on time... surely that's what a quick phonecall or text is for? Likewise with when to pick kids up from buses / trains etc? Sounds like just another way to cut down on human communication.

Those saying they have it to follow their other halves when their running/cycling/walking, do you know there is a facility within Strava called Beacon which allows up to 3 emergency contacts to see where you are during your exercise session? So handy to be able to share location during periods where you are maybe at risk without being stalked when you're at work/going to the shops/out with friends/just going for a bit of peace and quiet and a sneaky coffee!

Consent is the unifying factor.

Yeah ok.

You can also turn location tracking on and off at will. 'Go dark' if you must.

Yes and I don’t see the issue.
For safety, for making sure dinner is ready, for making sure I’m at the train station to collect him etc.
If you’ve nothing to hide then why not?!

Of course they do.... it's just a convenient excuse to say that's why they have to track their OHs because of..... rubbish!

"Making sure dinner is ready"

Are you a 1950s wife?

@PommelHoss great minds think alike!!!

It's not a stupid question in the slightest.

The more things like this are normalised, the more they can be used in abusive and controlling relationships under the guise of "well, everyone else is doing it so why won't you?"

Again, would you be happy if your teens' boyfriend wanted to follow her every move? If not, why not?

All the people saying that they barely look at it... I wonder if they are understating their usage. And also, they can't possibly know how their partner behaves. To all the people that have said that there is no issue is you have nothing to add, I think that trust encourages trust and distrust encourages distrust, and there is something distrusting about feeling that one has to be able to track their partner at all times. Other than some very edge cases, most uses stated on this thread are entirely unnecessary... Do people really not bother to tell their partner when they have left work as they expect to be tracked? And as for tracking your kids, wow. Growing up is about taking risk and to some extent rebelling against your attachment figure in order to figure out how you are - not to be trackable at all times!

Okay, so what if starts off as "normal" because everyone does it - she sees you and your DH do it, for example, so sees it as perfectly healthy.

Then it progresses and her partner uses it to start arguments, or to randomly turn up where she is - how do you persuade her that it's not okay when you do it and see it as normal?