do you and DH share your locations on your phones?

[buggeroo]

just curious really. DH and I have never done this, and I wondered if that is the norm?

We do. For years now, DP shares his location with me via Google maps when he's on a long journey and then doesn't bother to turn it off for months.

I didn't used to share my location but we've recently got Life360 for the kids so we can see their location and DS was reluctant so I shared mine to demonstrate that I'd do it and it's a 2 way street. DP shares his on there too now.

It works for us as none of us are controlling arseholes.

But, I just spent an evening with a friend who's in an abusive relationship and he tracks her to control her. It's horrific.

If he's driving it's best not to be phoning people. Not everyone has or wants Bluetooth in car

@blueshoes as you don't need to justify when you post, so perhaps realise that no one needs to make up excuses to not be tracked.

Another baffling post from you!

It looks like you might have lost perspective and have become slightly stalkerish for you to be tracking my posts on this fast moving thread.*

 says the person literally tracking others and arguing with people who say no!!

You're the poster that keeps on giving @blueshoes !

I'm honestly not sure what you're talking about.

No never felt the need to. We tell each other where we are going and what time we are likely to be back so no one worries

Yes. Both are often solo running/walking/cycling, including around the cliffs or later in the evening.

Actually, I'm on your 'side' of the argument.

So what if the parent is stuck in traffic on the way to picking the kids up assumed that the other parent will check where they are and the other parent is busy and doesn't check? Who picks the kids up?

No. Me and the teens can see each others location but I never asked DH as he’s an adult and I don’t feel the need to keep a track on him. I like it for the kids because as kids I want to know where they are and safe etc

@Coconutter24 "I like it for the kids because as kids I want to know where they are and safe etc"
Why do you need to know exactly where they are if they are old enough to be out alone? How do you know they are safe?

We have it as a family group between myself, dh and all the children. Its really useful for the teenagers as they use me as a taxi frequently. I cannot be bothered with a teenager trying to explain where they are at 11pm (ie. remember that cinema we went to watch frozen years ago, it's behind that building across the road and down the street, friend xyz lives in that street at no 37....🙄)

Dh walks the dog after work and if he can see me on there leaving work, he'll come and meet me and we'll do an extra loop of the park together to get our steps up. The alternative would be that he phoned me which would be intrusive and inconvenient if I was in the middle of a work thing.

I'm a road cyclist and came off my bike in a country lane. I badly hurt my leg and arm and I rang dh in sobs and he was able to come straight over. I would never have been able to explain to him where I was exactly otherwise.

Tracking other people is creepy and weird so I can see why it's not approved! However, I only share it with people I love and trust and its in my intrests that they know where I am. We are all consenting to do it as we can all see the benefit of it.

I view it as a handy tool for modern life but can't absolutely see why some people are against it

You are presuming that they haven’t previously agreed a course of action should those circumstances arise. That is unlikely if the risk of it happening is great enough for her to check to see if it is actually going to happen.

Yes but only part of the wider family sharing on iPhone. It’s mostly only ever used when a member of the family says I’ve lost my phone so we can ping it to find it.

🤣🤣🤣🤣
your kids are neither resilient or independent

Trust me they are. 😊

So independent and resilient you have to track them? 🤣
I don’t think so

No, I’ve never felt the need to and I doubt that will change.

🥱 Yawn

It’s been explained to you countless times how it’s used to aid a busy family life and in no way impacts on independence or resilience.

You carry on with your juvenile, spiteful and petty posts and we’ll carry on doing what serves us well.

I’m not spiteful at all.

busy family life 🤣🤣🤣

that’s just normal life

@Magn01a let's not waste our time with goady emoji-galore posters who cannot string a decent argument together.

Never wrestle with pigs. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.

Too true. 😊

You raise a good point, parents/partners won’t know what their loved one is doing just where they are. The more I think about it we're at risk of creating a generation who a brought up hearing “it’s just so I know you’re safe” then this becomes their normal to track anyone you care about which isn’t healthy.

Yes but only because we are so busy and all over the place with the kids, and we live rurally so it means we can see when the other is on their way back with one of the DC and stick the dinner in the oven, if we were worried that they weren't back long after we expected them we could check if they were stuck on a country lane etc.

I have no reason to not trust him so it's never a "I want to know where he is because I don't trust him", and the same is true in the other direction - he just uses it to see if I'm on my way back etc

Only reason not to is trust issues