do you and DH share your locations on your phones?

[buggeroo]

just curious really. DH and I have never done this, and I wondered if that is the norm?

I am utterly baffled at how bitter / conspiracy theorist / judgemental etc the posts are from people who choose not to share their location. Nobody is asking you to.

The posts are really unhinged? Literally why do you care what others do of they find it helpful? Are you projecting your own insecurities on it?

Fair enough. I suspect most families don't do that, though.

There are lots of people on here saying entire families share locations - so I'd wonder how those people would normalise it one sense, but advise against it another. I agree that it's interesting and personally think the lines between "acceptable" and "controlling" can be crossed far too easily with this kind of technology.

@blueshoes but surely turning your stalking app off would signify an affair?

I don't understand your analogy of a second phone, the first one would still show where you are?

Just occurred to me this expression is quite misogynistic and of its time.

Are women only allocated a finite amount of speaking time because we are meant to keep quiet?

I don't think I have an active imagination - I've read enough threads on here to know that using apps to control/spy on your partner is scarily common. From both sides - men and women.

Ummm are people taking about different location tracking?

We use find my phone to track our location.

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Oh yeah literally thousands of dead people have been found by tracking.....

No. Turning on and off does not signify an affair because I am not checking all the time and might not spot it. Even if I did, there will be periods where the app loses signal anyway. Far more reliable is to watch change in habits and behaviour of the partner, you know, like the old fashioned way.

As for second phone, it is more inconvenient, but leave the first phone in the office (to give impression of being hard at work) and go out with second mistress phone. Some people have one phone for work and one phone for personal. So leave the location sharing phone and use the other one.

I'm glad there wasn't tracking when I was young so my parents could see where I was when I had hitchhiked to go out somewhere miles away.

Another good reason not to location share. Keep scraping.

@blueshoes oh give over.....

If you noticed that the "app" turned off you'd be all over it checking all the time.

I never ever need to check my DH, total trust and glad I'm not you, because you're either distrustful or paranoid.

Probably if they have different phones I have Apple and DH has Android so I guess if we wanted to track each other we would probably have to use some different app for it to be possible

@blueshoes

Another good reason not to location share. Keep scraping.

What on earth are you talking about?

What's scarping??

My partner and my mum can see me on Google 24/7, I drive the kids across the country and both like to be able to check how far away I am, if I've been diverted, that I made it safely etc and it's easier just to leave it on than send a new link every time

I can see my mum all the time too, set up again for travel (her coming to ours) but I also use it to check that she's at home before I video call. I can't see OH but never needed to set it up, he doesn't drive and tbh doesn't go out much without us 🤣

Not 'scarping' but 'scraping' as in 'scraping the bottom of the barrel'. It is an expression.

No, never used it, never seen the need and to be honest, I’m illiterate when it comes to tech.

Give over? okey. I sleep well, thanks.

I agree with you about the lines being easy to cross. I don't personally think it's a great thing if the younger generation are completely unbothered about everyone knowing where they are all the time. Partly why I do talk about it with my kids. Or at least the one who has a phone. I think they need to consider the pros and cons themselves.

That's what it's used for in the majority of cases, yes. Akin to people placing tracking devices on their spouse's car to catch them in the act, except this comes with the added threat of them KNOWING you're tracking them 24/7, to ensure they daren't ever put a foot wrong.

But no, I'm sure you're one of the women on this thread who legitimately uses this to 'get the tea on' and 'make sure my partner is safe on the perilous fifteen minute journey to work.'

Sad to disappoint but the uses of location tracking are far more mundane than the cloak and dagger dreamt up by feverish minds.

Dh shares with me but I choose not to share with him. It just doesn't feel right to me (it's a bit like I have the whatsapp read feature turned off too). My life is busy and stressful and I reserve the right to bugger off somewhere for an hour or so and not be questioned / tracked (e.g. finish work at 3 and go for a walk instead of straight home, not go off and have a affair)

I do activate it in situations where it's useful, but then I turn it off again

Absolutely.

I don't think it's always a bad thing by any means, I can certainly see it having its' uses - but I'm not a fan of it being normalised in any sense - and I think it's definitely heading that way.

DH often goes off fishing alone at night - knowing exactly where he is in case he gets hurt could be really helpful, but I'd definitely only want it in specific incidents rather than as 24-7 thing.