do you and DH share your locations on your phones?

[buggeroo]

just curious really. DH and I have never done this, and I wondered if that is the norm?

Doesn't take much of an imagination to conjure up the idea of an affair to be honest. 20% of the population has been caught out done it!

I would find it incredibly oppressive to feel that my partner was tracking me everywhere I went.

We do, he runs and cycles a lot so good to know where he is in terms of how long he might be before getting home, also travels with work so again can see where he is to start dinner etc.

I’d split up with my DP of 10 years if he insisted on tracking each other, I’ve been in a controlling relationship before and I’d rather be single than be in another one. It would be the same the other way around, if I felt I needed to track him what would be the point in staying together? That’s just us, but I understand how it would be useful to locate someone who goes cycling/running/has a random schedule.

I worry (it is very far down my list of things to worry about, tbf) that these things are becoming normalised step by step and one day we’ll all be tracked by the State - I’m well aware that makes me sound like I should be wearing a tin foil hat and I’m not saying it would happen in any of our lifetimes, but it could happen.

No not something I’ve thought about. I do have his sign in details for find my iPhone though and vice versa if I really wanted to see.

Our whole family use Life360 - kids are 21 now and they still voluntarily use it - it's been useful to know where people are. We have nothing to hide from each other and if we did we could switch it off - have asked the kids to switch it off but they are not bothered - we have used this since they were 10 - no big deal.

I would hate this!
Don't like everyone to know where I am all the time.

Not really. We both have Snapchat but only so we can see where our teenager is if we need to and vice versa. Never use it as we normally just respond to WhatsApp messages and generally discuss what we are all up to anyway.

Single but yes I would. Mostly because I lose my phone a lot. The kids are on life360

No, we just tell each other where we're going and what we're doing. We don't have location on kids' phones either.

I do, there was a serious sexual assault local to me recently and the first thing I done was activate locations on both our phones. If I’m out on my own (with or without the kids) and I miss a phone call from him I want him to check my location. It’s unconditional.

Absolutely not.

Certainly helped him when he fell off his bike and fractured his collarbone and i could go find him and help.

Don't speak for me please!
I don't use Strava and it's my choice to let my husband see where I am and I can see where he is. I also like a pp use it l to see if he's almost home and have tea ready. Not because I have to but because I want to and he does the same for me.
I go where I want to, when I want to but having location tracker on works for us and we track DS who is 11 and yes he knows and is happy that we do.
I don't understand why everyone thinks there must be a sinister reason.

Yeah, affairs are clearly on your brain.

No. I am perplexed about everyone tracking their other halves to know when to start dinner. It is faster for us to text than for one of us continuously check whether the other person left work. And even if we left work, it doesn't mean we are heading home. I find this practice really strange and I don't want anyone to keep an eye on me like that. I'm not a child and neither is my partner.

It's not keeping an eye on each other, honestly why does it bother people so much.
I have tea ready when DH and DS get in from his club, I don't have to, I don't get abuse if it's but ready but I like to as everyone is hungry. He doesn't text me as he's driving and would forget anyway.
I feel safe if I go for a run knowing DH can see where I am should it be needed.
We don't sit looking at our phones tracking each other constantly.
I really think there are some super paranoid people on here.

I love how the "know when to make dinner" has become an excuse in other posters minds, for what I don't know!

To be clear - we are all not glued to the app 24/7 like you seem to suggest. It's just there and on. No issue. Not checked constantly and definitely not pinging.

This is farcical - do share / dont share doesn't mean anyone is right / wrong/ controlling or cheating

Here here 😀

Or even 'hear hear'. 😃

Or she not just he. Finding out if on the road works both ways. Especially with jobs that are dangerously and unpredictable finish times, can't be. Othered to ring text or bother the other person as they have lives too and like me who live in the middle of nowhere so my phone signal is crap but my maps seem to work much better

Omg I'm getting too invested

Brief example :

Text: I'm leaving work should be on 42.

Then as we know what time 42 gets in and we need to wait for a bus then walk up the road .... no-one needs to text
"off tain / train late / waiting for bus / on bus / busy / off bus" or whatever. (And no I don't need a running text update either!!)

And yes we could wait and start dinner/ time it / text "when is your eta"

But it's just easier this way

The dinner "excuse" as other posters refer, is a mere example of how it's used for mundane life events not the cheating, controlling, stalking, un trustworthy notion of the "non users/ sharers"

No. Although I did recently think I might try and go out on bike rides in the day. And then thought I should probably do something then in case he just comes home and I'm not there and in a ditch somewhere.