To want to see my boyfriend after his month on holiday?

Sinderalla · 02/08/2024 14:28

No YANBU but there's a reason he doesn't want to see you. You need to have that chat with him x

completeworks · 02/08/2024 14:29

He doesn't sound interested.

BotDranning · 02/08/2024 14:31

I agree with PP. He doesn't want to. So very sorry xx

ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 02/08/2024 14:34

Sorry, sounds like he is using this as an excuse to break up. After a month away I would definitely want to spend time with my bf when I came home.

FoxtrotOscarFoxtrotOscar · 02/08/2024 14:35

You are a free taxi service and he sounds like a user/loser.

Buddysbunda · 02/08/2024 14:37

If he wanted to, he would. Send this one back.

Tel12 · 02/08/2024 14:37

Sounds like he's moved on.

LightDrizzle · 02/08/2024 14:38

He’s not your boyfriend. I’m not sure what he is but he doesn’t think he’s your boyfriend or that you are his girlfriend.

Sunnydiary · 02/08/2024 14:38

What was he like when you picked him up?

It sounds like he’s not really into you any longer. Sorry.

DaisyChain505 · 02/08/2024 14:39

it sounds like he’s distancing himself from the relationship and doesn’t have the guts to just say out loud that he wants to finish with you.

BeeCucumber · 02/08/2024 14:40

He is hoping you will end it so that he doesn’t have to. Sorry.

StormingNorman · 02/08/2024 14:40

He’s not that into you.

DelphiniumBlue · 02/08/2024 14:43

Whats the deal with his DD? As he's been away for a month, is it now his turn to look after his child, hence the summer hols "being difficult"?
But, sorry, I agree with everyone else, if he wanted to see you he would be making some effort.

Olika · 02/08/2024 14:44

If he really was into you he would turn the heaven and earth to be with you. Just end it.

Comingupriver · 02/08/2024 14:45

I said YABU and you are to be in a relationship with this man. He clearly isn’t treating you or prioritising you. Move on and find happiness. Don’t chase him.

Starlight1979 · 02/08/2024 14:47

he won't commit because he is still on holiday in his mind.

Huh? What the hell does that mean?

But anyway yeah I agree with everyone else, he's not interested. Cheeky fucker wanting a lift home from the airport though.

DaniMontyRae · 02/08/2024 14:47

It's been 2 weeks since 16th July not a month.

And you've seen him at the 2 week mark to pick him up from the airport and you are spending time with him again next week (week 3).

sunsetsandboardwalks · 02/08/2024 14:51

How is it a relationship if you never see each other?

OuchIsLife · 02/08/2024 14:54

Have a word with yourself. Why do you want to have this person as your boyfriend if he doesn't want to see you?

Starlight1979 · 02/08/2024 14:54

bradmore47 · 02/08/2024 14:27

Basically my boyfriend of 2 years has been travelling as he had a month off between jobs - I haven't seen him since 16 July properly (I picked him up from the airport on Weds but I had to insist as we didnt have anything in the diary - and just had to drop him home as he had to look after DD) - he won't commit to seeing me citing summer holidays being difficult. We have an evening event next week to go to but he can't stay the night and then nothing in the diary. I miss him and I just want us to spend some time together but he won't commit because he is still on holiday in his mind. Am I being ridiculous about wanting to see him?

OP I have just noticed your other thread from last week with completely different details to this post.

Anyway, based on the key facts in this and your other post (he doesn't let you ring him, doesn't respond to your messages, can't be with you overnight, doesn't arrange to see you etc) I'm going to point out the glaringly obvious.

He is married / in a relationship with someone else.

The fact he says you can't ring him and he can't reply to texts in case he is with his daughter is absolute bullshit. it's because he is with his wife / girlfriend.

coxesorangepippin · 02/08/2024 14:54

He's not your boyfriend

Starlight1979 · 02/08/2024 14:57

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Justcallmebebes · 02/08/2024 14:57

Starlight1979 · 02/08/2024 14:54

OP I have just noticed your other thread from last week with completely different details to this post.

Anyway, based on the key facts in this and your other post (he doesn't let you ring him, doesn't respond to your messages, can't be with you overnight, doesn't arrange to see you etc) I'm going to point out the glaringly obvious.

He is married / in a relationship with someone else.

The fact he says you can't ring him and he can't reply to texts in case he is with his daughter is absolute bullshit. it's because he is with his wife / girlfriend.

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This doesn't sound good at all. This is not a relationship. I'd bin and move on

BobandRobertaSmith · 02/08/2024 15:04

How long have you been dating? If it’s only been a matter of months, he has a DD you don’t know yet, maybe you are being a bit demanding… Realistically, if he has a child, he is never going to be able to stay over whenever you want, he has commitments, she should be a priority. Perhaps this relationship isn’t for you.

If it’s a long term relationship, he’s just not that into you…

IamSmarticus · 02/08/2024 15:06

You are not ridiculous in wanting to see him but for some reason, it doesn't sound like he wants to see you unfortunately.

In fact after reading your other post, I would tend to agree with a PP that he is either married or in a relationship with someone else. Even if he isn't, this isn't a relationship, you need to get rid and find someone else.