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Driving medical - depression

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Wonderfulday · 31/07/2024 15:56

My son applied for his provisional driving license and had to go for a medical as he was on anti-depressants. His own GP and his CAMHS counsellor gave their statement to say he was stable and his condition nor his medication would have any impact on his ability to drive. HOWEVER he was still subjected to a medical by the driving agency which asked questions about my marriage, where we happy couple, what relationship did he have with siblings, they asked about the reason he self harmed, how deep the cuts were, where on his body he cut, why he had depression, what does he talk to his counsellor about, how was his school life, they didn't accept generic answers, they pushed and pushed. What relevance does any of that have on his ability to drive! I was expecting questions like, does your medication make you drowsy, have you thoughts of harming others etc AIBU to take this further as in a complaint?? Surely if the people treating him for years say he is stable they should accept that without making him divulge personal issues to a complete stranger about things that happened when he was about 15!!! I am so furious that he was put through this!

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I still can't agree that where or how deep he cut 2 years ago is relevant, but I will take on board they are maybe getting a bigger picture

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It wasn't the DVLA, it was the private hospital and that was agreed was that IF they needed more info and couldn't get a hold of him they could speak to me, I see that as a supportive family but you crack on and believe it's a negative if that makes you feel better

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Wonderfulday · 01/08/2024 10:40

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Of course

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CeruleanDive · 01/08/2024 15:18

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You're pretty close to harassing the OP. Why is this preoccupying you so markedly?

Parisseb · 01/08/2024 15:21

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RedHelenB · 01/08/2024 15:27

It would have been simpler to wait the 3 months by the sounds of it

Wonderfulday · 01/08/2024 18:04

RedHelenB · 01/08/2024 15:27

It would have been simpler to wait the 3 months by the sounds of it

You are absolutely right, hindsight is wonderful lol

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Wonderfulday · 01/08/2024 18:05

CeruleanDive · 01/08/2024 15:18

You're pretty close to harassing the OP. Why is this preoccupying you so markedly?

Fairly certain this is the same person under a different name, his previous posts were all deleted by admin

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I'm sorry if I got it wrong

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CeruleanDive · 01/08/2024 22:48

Wonderfulday · 01/08/2024 18:05

Fairly certain this is the same person under a different name, his previous posts were all deleted by admin

Oh yes, looks like it. Goodness, you’ve not had much luck on this thread, OP!

gardenroombeauty · 05/08/2024 16:25

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A subject access report takes 4 weeks, you should surely know that since you know everything else

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Wonderfulday · 07/08/2024 20:03

A subject access report takes 4 weeks, you should surely know that since you know everything else

i know squat all!

yepyouknow · 07/08/2024 21:34

how long will it take before he finds out whether or not he can get his provisional?

Wonderfulday · 07/08/2024 21:40

yepyouknow · 07/08/2024 21:34

how long will it take before he finds out whether or not he can get his provisional?

No idea, whenever then DVA give him his results but I don't know how long that usually takes, he emailed them yesterday but no response yet

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Wonderfulday · 14/08/2024 16:09

He passed the medical, still waiting on the official letter (which he needs to apply for his license) but at least he knows he passed!!

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Lilith666 · 14/08/2024 16:39

That is good news!