How sick do you have to be to ask husband to come home?

[sickandtiredtoday]

DH is working today (he works every other weekend). I am home with our 3 year old feeling like death - it started yesterday with a sore scratchy throat and losing my voice, a bit headachy, and today it's horrendous pain when I try to swallow, sinus pain all over my face, banging headache and the room spins when I stand. I'm too nauseous to eat. My 3 year old wants to go swimming as we usually do on a Saturday morning and I genuinely think I'd collapse if I tried. I know I can't ask him to come home from work but I do not know how I'm going to survive the day😭 Is it ever acceptable to ask DH to come home as I just can't do it today? Any tips on how I can make it through the day til 6om with a toddler feeling like this 😩

I called once, eldest was about 5 months old and I couldn’t see (migraine, joy) at all. When he got home I crawled upstairs, literally on my hands and knees, and slept for about three days.

I hope you’re feeling better soon OP.

Don't be ridiculous, kids need to learn sometimes things don't always go to plan. You tell her you'll go when you're feeling better next week. Not today is fine to tell a child.

Telly on and lie on the sofa , hope it passes soon x

Swimming pool will be there next time you feel up to it. Duvet on living room floor, lots of cushions, take it easy. Make dens etc. Low key. Lots of TV. Take care.

I have four DC and each have learned from a young age that life is full of disappointments. That's life. Sooner they realise this the better...

in 16 years of being married and a parent - twice. And in both cases it was because I was being admitted to hospital. Everything else, from Covid/flu/norovirus I’ve just plonked dc in front of tv/ in playpen/somewhere safe.

I found (and occasionally still do for 6 year old) that a bubble bath can pass a lot of time without much energy needed from me if we need an indoor day. I hope you feel better soon, good luck.

Yes he's working tomorrow.
Too late notice for family to make the journey unfortunately. I'll just have to power through.
Made it to lunch time, I'm hoping DD naps after her lunch so I can lie down with her

Honestly if you’re asking here then you aren’t ill enough. Having been that ill you know.

Awwww horse on. She didn't say it was to look after her, it was to look after the child as she is struggling to do it

You do need to let him know. And he needs to ring in regularly so he knows if you don't answer there is a problem.

I was s single parent with my oldest so had to just get on with it but what used to make it easier is we would have a lazy day watching movies in the living room. Blinds Shut, duvets out, would take toaster, bread, cheese, chocolate spread, fill up an empty 2ltr bottle with water and what ever other nibbles would be needed so everything was within an arms reach

I've had two nasty bouts of covid that sounded like what you have. I managed on my own with 4 kids - 3 of which I had to get to school. Feeling weak, sweaty, and with everything spinning. I virtually crawled the entire way.

Easy day and get DH to take DD out when he comes home - they can go to the park for an hour after dinner.

Unfortunately you just have to power through with these things. Don't feel guilty - you are ill and it can't be helped. There will be many other days you can take DD out and do lovely things with her.

I would never ask my partner to come home from work unless I was so ill that I wasn’t able to care for DD safely. I’d just have a sofa day like everyone else says - and no qualms at all about missing swimming.

Obviously it sucks being ill though, and the non ill adult would take over as soon as they were back!

Can you say daddy will take her swimming tomorrow? That should keep DD happy and give you some time alone to relax and recuperate. Don’t feel guilty at all.

The set up sounds fab BTW! Have you got DH cued up to cook or bring a take away tonight?

Please make sure all windows are open with good air flow. Do you have HEPA filters? If so, time to put them on full-blast. Don a respirator so you do not pass this on to family members. Likelihood it's covid.

If you can't stand up without vomiting or risk of fainting then I'd want someone home. It won't be good if you faint and hit your head on the way down. If you can take paracetamol and get on with life, good for you. Not being able to stand up to get to the child puts you in need of help immediately.

I also Lp .. agree Telly .

what time does Dh finish work .,

My lounge door opens onto back garden so I could let Ds have a run around .

colouring, Tv , snacks ..

look up baby yoga on YouTube.. or baby dance .. these are good activities for her to do whilst you lie on sofa ..

you are not going to be super mum today - keep her fed cuddled , clean nappy if still in nappies - the rest wing it .That is definitely good enough today

My Ds when I was sick would get super noodles and hot dogs as they didn’t have much of a food smell . He loved it was like a treat to him .

hope you feel better soon

Hope you start to feel better soon OP.

I'm amazed at all these people happy to put a child in danger (mum might faint, can't move quickly if she needs to) because a man can't possibly be asked to come home from his Incredibly Important Job. Good grief.

Well, he could come home, but presumably they'd lose pay and he'd potentially have to make up the hours another day/time which could cause further problems (childcare, for example).

Of course it's shit to be stuck looking after a toddler when you're unwell, but I think most parents have done it at some point - it's grim but nothing OP says implies that her child would be in danger?

I wouldn’t call him home, but I’d be doing absolutely base parenting. Sofa and TV day. Any food is acceptable, no guilt about a bit of junk. The one thing we’d do as a couple is he would prepare food for the next day once he’s home this evening or before he goes to work in the morning - so we can grab stuff as needed (eg a packed lunch in the fridge so you and child can eat without having to stand up preparing stuff).

Only time I've ever asked was when it was coming unstoppably out of both ends and I had 2 under 4.

Turns out I had campylobacter poisoning. 0/10 would not recommend.

Only happened once in 12 years.

Op said DH works for the emergency services (or similar) he can't just drop everything and come home.

Oh @sickandtiredtoday it’s just the absolute worst. I remember it well - it’s so awful. Poor you.

Firstly stop feeling any guilt because you can’t go swimming/be more ‘on’. You’re ill. She’ll be fine. So put that down.

Talk to your DH tonight if you’re feeling worse and discuss him taking leave or a shorter day tomorrow if you feel you really can’t cope. That’s ok.

Tv, rest, crap food, just do whatever you can to get through. Get well soon.