Aibu to decline my child going to birthday party.

[Singlemamabear]

Hi,
it’s about my friends daughters birthday who’s turning 6. My friend initially inviteded me and my daughter to her birthday, she told me she will be going to a petting zoo and has booked a petting zoo package for 8 people. She told me her daughters already chosen 8 class mates so I would have to pay for my child’s ticket. The petting zoo was very very far so I couldn’t bring my daughter regardless.
its now been a few weeks I’ve heard nothing from her, she’s now texted me today and asked if me and my daughter would like to come to Lego land for her child’s birthday on Tuesday ( I guess she’s changed plans) I agreed to which she then texted me “ you took your daughter CBeebies land in a vclass for her birthday can we do that for Tuesday ? Can you please arrange that and we go halves? If anything I’ll pay”
(a vclass is a modern version of a limousine but with tv and PlayStation etc)
sorry but I think this was out of order. Yes I rented a v class for my daughters birthday but that’s my daughter and I paid ALL COSTS. I think it’s out of order she invites us and then asks me to pay half for a v class I didn’t ask for nor arrange for her child’s birthday ?! She keeps inviting me and my child to these birthday plans but wanting us to pay ontop. V classes are very expensive btw, it ranges from 500-1000 depending on trip and hours so why should I go halves for her daughters birthday ?! Bear in mind this is not my family, nor best friend just a friend. It’s really upsetting me and I’m wondering if I’m being unreasonable.
i saved up my money to take my daughter to CBeebies land in a vclass and I didn’t expect a penny from anyone I invited. She’s inviting me last minute and asking me to pay ?! It’s really upset me honestly. I would never make anyone pay for anything on my daughters birthday and she also knows that in a child’s birthday you pay for everything hence why she paid for the class mates zoo tickets. (I’m not sure wether they went or not but she said she’s already paid for it )
And also asking me to arrange it I feel is very out of order when I’m already busy as it is being a mum.
I honestly want to end this friendship. Am I being unreasonable

Oh she’s trying her luck! Say no of course I shall not be doing that ( you cheeky fucker!) Yes absolutely bin her off! She must think you have money to burn and thinks she is entitled to it!

@Cardiganwearer thankyou! It’s so sad being treated like this honestly. It’s my daughters birthday next month I’m already saving up for that let alone hers 😳

No that's really cheeky!!

Just reply: “Lol.”

@PuppyMonkey i will be ! Thankyou

@DisappearingGirl she wants me to fork out up to 500£ for her kids birthday 😳 the audacity

Tell her no, OP! When she asks why, just tell her that you're too busy taking care of your own family to even think about booking something for someone else's child's birthday, particularly as you won't be going, as you have already made plans for the holidays, now.

Just send number for the vclass transport for her to book herself if she wants to.

She sees you as an ATM. I would avoid like the plague.

I mean you're obviously not being unreasonable in that she is being a complete cheeky fucker but you are being unreasonable to give her even the slightest bit of headspace. She isn't and can't 'make' you go halves or even organise it. Just say no (and yes then I would dump her).

tbh I personally also think you're a bit mad to have agreed to pay for your own child's place at all as if she's some sort of second class citizen not good enough to make the first 8 spaces, as well as for paying £500-£1000 for your own child's bday limo but that's your own money to spend...

@1offnamechange thankyou ! Yes that was the main reason we didn’t go and also it was far and I’m not going out my way to bring and pay for my child for what ? Thankyou !! And yes no more headspace the cheek of her

@SonicTheHodgeheg she saw what I did for my child and expects me to do for her and I have no idea why she views me as a atm considering I’m a single mum. I just manage to make it happen for my kid. Leaves me speechless

@FranceIsWhereItsAt thankyou I will be doing that ! Cheek of her

No. Can't. Have a great day. XXX.

I would literally reply-

'Pay half? What 🤣🤣🤣🤣

"No, I won't be paying for or arranging your child's birthday party. I can't believe you'd even ask. I think its best we don't attend Tuesday as im getting the feeling we are only invited to make it cheaper for you. I hope x has a nice birthday."

@Trallers awww yes this is the reply ! Thankyou

'I'm not sure why you're asking me to organise this, but I won't be able to do it - I can give you the rental company details if you like though.'

Of course it's unreasonable for her to ask you to go halves on expensive transportation to her daughters birthday party. How bizarre.

@Singlemamabear

When it was my child's party I paid for everyone I invited. I didn't invite people and expect them to pay. I sorry if you are struggling financially but I'm not in a position to pay for your child's party nor do I want to. Cheeky fucker.

@2sisters this is a even better reply ! Honestly it’s so upsetting. She has the money to drink and party every weekend which I’ve put off because I have a my child to look after

Yes send her that OP and come back to tell us what she replies

She’s taking advantage - absolutely say no and I would rethink the relationship completely.

Fuck her. She is not a friend. If she was a friend she'd say @Singlemamabear I'm really struggling to do a party for little Nova's birthday. I'm so upset about it because I'd like her to have a good day. Would you mind doing a day trip with us and paying for Daisy? Obviously, I wouldn't expect you to bring a present because your paying for yourself but you both bring there will make Nova's day. Not 50:50 on transport you don't want or need. I wonder if she's paying for the other attendees.

There aren’t people out there that are this thick skinned surely!?