Aibu to decline my child going to birthday party.

[Singlemamabear]

Hi,
it’s about my friends daughters birthday who’s turning 6. My friend initially inviteded me and my daughter to her birthday, she told me she will be going to a petting zoo and has booked a petting zoo package for 8 people. She told me her daughters already chosen 8 class mates so I would have to pay for my child’s ticket. The petting zoo was very very far so I couldn’t bring my daughter regardless.
its now been a few weeks I’ve heard nothing from her, she’s now texted me today and asked if me and my daughter would like to come to Lego land for her child’s birthday on Tuesday ( I guess she’s changed plans) I agreed to which she then texted me “ you took your daughter CBeebies land in a vclass for her birthday can we do that for Tuesday ? Can you please arrange that and we go halves? If anything I’ll pay”
(a vclass is a modern version of a limousine but with tv and PlayStation etc)
sorry but I think this was out of order. Yes I rented a v class for my daughters birthday but that’s my daughter and I paid ALL COSTS. I think it’s out of order she invites us and then asks me to pay half for a v class I didn’t ask for nor arrange for her child’s birthday ?! She keeps inviting me and my child to these birthday plans but wanting us to pay ontop. V classes are very expensive btw, it ranges from 500-1000 depending on trip and hours so why should I go halves for her daughters birthday ?! Bear in mind this is not my family, nor best friend just a friend. It’s really upsetting me and I’m wondering if I’m being unreasonable.
i saved up my money to take my daughter to CBeebies land in a vclass and I didn’t expect a penny from anyone I invited. She’s inviting me last minute and asking me to pay ?! It’s really upset me honestly. I would never make anyone pay for anything on my daughters birthday and she also knows that in a child’s birthday you pay for everything hence why she paid for the class mates zoo tickets. (I’m not sure wether they went or not but she said she’s already paid for it )
And also asking me to arrange it I feel is very out of order when I’m already busy as it is being a mum.
I honestly want to end this friendship. Am I being unreasonable

🤣 isn’t it the same thing?
Lol. I’d reply
No, not the same thing. Traditionally the child’s parents pay for the party and associated costs, not the guests. Hope x has a nice party, unfortunately we won’t be attending.

@Crystalbabe ive already told her the price, she knows that the crazy thing about it all 😭

I’d reply “you’re asking me to fork out £300-400 on X’s birthday?” And see what she replies.

I actually can’t believe her cheek!

I wouldn’t be going at all now

Some kind of limo
Apparently

If this is genuine - no you don't have to pay for another child's birthday party. Your friend is taking the piss. You shouldn't even have to pay for your own or child's ticket either.

With regard to your DD's birthdays, you really don't have to spend so much. A fancy car really isn't on the radar for most young children. They just want to have fun and be with their friends and family. Fine if you really want to spend so much but when you say you are saving up to pay hundreds of £s for a big car it seems rather bizarre at such a young age.

Ohh my. Unbelievably cheeky. I wouldn’t even attempt to remain friends with this one - she is a user and you can’t argue with selfish I’m afraid. I would certainly point out her blind cheek though. Something like “no it absolutely isn’t the same thing. This is not a shared night out, this is YOUR child’s birthday. You organise and pay for what you would like… not me. Obviously. We won’t be attending.”

@Crystalbabe response
“ girl like I said if its a issue I will pay stop makin it into something its not”

😳 atp I’m going to BLOCK her

@Lindy2 i will be posting a screenshot haha I bet u can’t believe the cheek either

god, she sounds awful

I’d just block and move on at this point

@Lindy2 ive not gone into context about t my child’s birthday as it’s my child and nothing to do with this post really but the train tickets to CBeebies land which is VERY far from us would amount to that cost so was better off doing a v class so my child would not be stressed and also have a lovely time. Thankyou. Not sure why it keeps being brought up but I hope that makes everyone feel better

Wow...shocked. I'd block too.. no friend.id want

The train tickets with all children and adults was coming up to a few hundred including return. so it was better off I got a vclass. My child also has autism so public transport is also a hassle v class was much better. But my post isn’t about that ?

Well I suppose you won't see her response if you've blocked her.

I’d be really clear with her. ‘An Uber at £30 is not the same as a vela’s at £500-£1k. Why do you think I should pay for your child’s birthday?’ Crazy.

"OK, would xxx like to come to Disneyland Paris for my daughters birthday next month. Rebecca from school took her daughter on a private jet for her birthday, can we do that and go halves?"

@Demonhunter omg this made me laugh 🤣

Id say 'I still haven't had your half for my DDs v-class so let's just call it quits!'

Cheeky fucker

Imagine if she has mums net and sees this 😭 🤣

That would be good. It might help her understand!

I'm so bemused by this and there's so many things id want to send and so many witty comebacks I want to come up with to demonstrate why she's being unreasonable.

But I don't know if a person who genuinely asks someone to put £500 towards their child's birthday for no reason at all just because you share the costs of Ubers on nights out can even be reasoned with?

Wow

And thankyou all ❤️❤️❤️ really appreciate it

Ohh god, is this actually real? There can't be people out there this crazy entitled can there... Can There??