Temporary tatoos on playdate

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Worried I might have messed up. DD (4) had a friend round for a few hours today, first time with this particular friend, but on friendly terms with her mum from the various class parties we've both sat through.

WIBU to send this kid home with temporary tatoos and kids nail varnish? I totally didn't think about it when the girls were playing dress up/ beauty salon, but it just down on me that not all parents are OK with that stuff.

@CandiedPrincess I think you need to wise up a bit! It’s foolish to assume that everyone else has the same views on parenting as you do and will do the same things you would. At the end of the day it’s your child, your responsibility so if you have a child with a particular sensitivity/allergy which will cause problems then it is slack parenting to not mention such things when handing over care to someone else.

Temporary tattoos? No
Real tattoos? Yes

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And why should they say anything? If its not on their body, it has naff all to do with them

It’s where I disagree. It’s a visual quagmire. Why should I have to look at it?

Same here.

I suspect it originally came from bluey, who plays it in an episode (stumpfest). At least that's when she started asking for nail varnish, which she got for last Christmas. I think yesterday she was just excited to have a friend over, so pulled out all her favourite toys (it was one if about 10 activities they played).

My daughter has very sensitive skin so I wouldn’t be thrilled, I also think 4 is too young for nail polish.

Get a grip.

You don't have to look. No one is making you.

Christ. This place.

So 4 year olds who have mum's that are beauticians are too young to know where their mum works?? Some have salons in their gardens/homes. My friend does.

They’re everywhere. Are you expecting me to keep my eyes to the ground or up towards the sky? They’re offensive to see and there’s unfortunately now no escape until hopefully a next generation see sense and reject the sheer ugliness of them and are ashamed of their parents.

I wouldn't be happy with that. My daughter had very sensitive skin and I would have been concerned about a potential reaction. I also never allowed any type of nail varnish, makeup etc at that age.

Well isn’t that lovely. I assure you my children would never be left with such unmannered individuals. Your poor children.

”gobbing off” ‘think carefully’ what on earth are you on about are you an Eastenders character?

So we are meant to be psychic? Surely anything that is being ingested or applied to skin adults would have to cop in to check with the parents? It’s pretty simple, unless you are familiar with all aspects of certain cultures or religions it would be common sense to check.

I suggest blinkers. Or just don't go out in public places. Everyone will be all the better for it.

It sounds as though they had a lovely time I don't see why anyone should object. They were at your house playing and you were engaging with them.
If a parent has objections to particular things or allergies intolerances etc then the parent should let you know just as they should let you know if they have food intolerances, allergies or religious objections to certain foods. If they didn't say anything I don't think OP has done anything wrong.
Different households do things differently and that's a good lesson for children

@Mop33444 - you don’t get it do you? Your child is your responsibility! If you are handing over care to someone else and there is something particular they need to be aware of then you speak out and tell them. It’s not their job to ask if little Johnny has sensitive skin, an allergy, a particular religion, a phobia, is vegan etc, especially if they are looking after a group of kids. My son had bad eczema and couldn’t use soap so I used to let people know - I didn’t expect them to ask me about it.

Jeez, perhaps any mums deciding to host a playdate or kids party should get people to sign disclaimers!! Such sloping shouldered slack parents expecting everyone else to do their job!

I would be a bit annoyed to be honest, especially if it's actual nail varnish and so needs to be removed with chemicals.

I think four is too young but then I wouldn't have left my kids alone at a play date at that age so this wouldn't have happened as I would have just said no in person.

I think the onus is on the host to check, not just assume.

See your point, but that’s not quite the same as going full out girly grown up at 4

I would always check with parent of a child under about 8 of they were OK with it as a courtesy. I wouldn't say anything if my child came back from a playdate with it on if i hadn't been asked, but I probably wouldnt be very impressed if the parent had allowed them without checking with me first. But equally I know that 4 year olds may go and do it without asking permission, and then it's not the parents fault.

@Priggishsausagebore - 4 is too young to be left alone at a play date?? Most kids in the UK start school at that age!

What a low class thing to say to someone you do not know. Very rude.

Haha. At this point I know you're just out to cause a bunfight. My low class, tattooed self, is not going to rise to a judgmental berk. So don't waste your time duck.

Yes and during the reception years for both my children (born five years apart), all parents attended playdates, it's how we got to know each other.

But it's only fairly recently that children attended age 4, in the 70s children went when they were 5, and 5 is compulsory school age still, so yes four is young.

Good grief

Oh carry on reading, they get worse 😂