Temporary tatoos on playdate

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Worried I might have messed up. DD (4) had a friend round for a few hours today, first time with this particular friend, but on friendly terms with her mum from the various class parties we've both sat through.

WIBU to send this kid home with temporary tatoos and kids nail varnish? I totally didn't think about it when the girls were playing dress up/ beauty salon, but it just down on me that not all parents are OK with that stuff.

I wouldn't have minded when mine were 4

That's some playdate!

80s kids used to come home from school with temp tattoos, from the germoline flavoured bubblegum they were actually allowed to chew. Not even Gen X kids!

Most parents let others know of allergies etc before sending them off for free childcare.

Happy children having fun and safe, good for you OP.

I always checked with parents on things like that mainly due to allergies/sensitive skin.

I dislike nail varnish on small children more than temporary tattoos! I have never mistaken a transfer for an actual tattoo and people seem to work out the application process is different long before adulthood. I don't like make-up on children either but have no problems with face-painting.

It wouldn't bother me so much but my eldest had super sensitive skin so temporary tattoes (and face paints) left a rash for a good week or so, so generally we avoided them.

What religion is that and it includes wash off tatoos.

If people dislike temp tattoos because they might lead to the real thing goodness knows what they would feel about liquorice pipes

I’d say you were being a little unreasonable. My mother didn’t let me wear nail polish as a child, and the kid might have been going somewhere the next day where the parents didn’t want her to have a fake tattoo. I normally wouldn’t care about fake tattoos, but I wouldn’t want my daughter wearing one to someplace like a wedding.

Not a huge deal, though. Just possibly creating inconvenience for someone else who has to remove them.

Traditionally, Judaism doesn’t permit tattoos, though I doubt temporary tattoos count.

I agree. My DD got Hello Kitty tattoos at a party, the stick on one's. She has very sensitive skin and excema. She had an allergic reaction resulting in a trip to the emergency department.

You learn something new everyday.

Just out of curiosity what if a jewish person got a real tattoo, what would happen to them.

I don’t see the issue so long as they’re not like my niece and her friend that put them all over their faces 😬

They did ask for face tattoos (why do kids think that's a good look?). I said arms or legs only. They were glittery butterflies if that makes it any better or worse.

@Marblessolveeverything - it’s not having to be psychic, it’s being a responsible parent who ensures they protect their child’s well-being by mentioning any allergies/sensitivities to anyone they are handing over care to! Why would you make it someone else’s responsibility to check?

Nothing “happens to them” - it’s just a violation of the Torah. Reform Judaism tends to be more okay with tattoos.

www.myjewishlearning.com/article/the-tattoo-taboo-in-judaism/

Well thankfully I have friends with manners. Rules involving makeup on children and defacing their skin with god knows what chemicals, yeah nope.

I personally wouldn't put nail varnish on a child as I think it's a bit tacky, but DC has come home from parties with it on and I wasn't bothered. I'd just be grateful that you were kind enough to invite them over in the first place, and I accept that everyone has different taste. I'm sure a lot of people think some of my stuff is pretty iffy, style-wise, and they might be right! It takes all sorts.

I wouldn't bat an eyelid at something like this. My DD does have eczema and sensitive skin but she knows what she can and can't do/ have. You've been kind enough to host the child and they've had fun, that's the main thing! You have to accept, within reason, that if you're leaving your child with another parent then it's their rules and it's on the parent to say if there are clear things they wouldn't be happy about. Both things are only temporary so if it's something they prefer their child not to have, they can remove easily at home, it's not the end of the world. What would be the end of the world for the child at that age is if their parent kicks off at their friends parent and then they're not invited to any more play dates. Word quickly goes around if you're one of 'those' mums

@Mop33444 - did it never occur to you to mention the reaction to transfers after the first flare-up? 🤔

@AquaFurball 😂🤦‍♀️

Can't speak on behalf of someone else @Inastatus but actually no, I never thought to mention it on play dates because it's so far removed from what I would have done on a play date.

@Mop33444

your child is in my care it's your responsibility to convey any major issues you might have with normal child play.

im not texting you every 5 minutes to ask your permission for them to do perfectly ordinary things.

cop on yourself & think very carefully before gobbing off at people

@Marblessolveeverything it is up to the child's parent to make any religious restrictions known to the hosting parent. It's not up to the hosting parent parent to know the child's religion & what is not allowed. Not to mention there's vast differences in interpretation & how much ach family follows their religion.

@sweeneytoddsrazor

thats a walk down memory lane-liquorice pipes!!

they're probably liquorice vapes now!!

4 is too young to know what a beauty salon is