Grandparent child care while parent is off sick

[NannyK62]

I look after my grandson (2) one day per week, he goes to nursery on the other days. My son and DIL both work full time.

my DIL is now off sick due to stress but still wants me to have my grandson on my “usual day”. He is still going to nursery the other days which I understand as they have to pay to keep his space but I feel like he should stay home with mum if she is off work.

I work 4 days a week myself and it would be a nice change to have that day to myself for the next month which is the length of her current sick note. I love having him but it is tiring at my age. Am I being selfish to refuse to have him? Do you think it will damage my relationship with son/DIL?

many thanks

Hmm, I'm assuming that the child would have had a nursery space for that day if you hadn't asked to have him one day a week. I think I would feel differently if they had asked you to do the day but the fact you asked to have him a day a week is swaying me to say you really need to either stick to that agreement or tell rhem it is too much for you on a permanent basis so they can book him into nursery

It drove you mad? She gave you free childcare while you were working ffs.

Yes she is your slave she must obey you

I’m with you OP.
I really can’t understand why there are some on here that are giving you a hard time. Your son and daughter in law are lucky that you are saving them a days nursery fees. Before anyone thinks I am being unsympathetic to DIL being off work with work related stress - I’m absolutely not - and I am sure that if she was totally incapacitated you wouldn’t be thinking that you’d like to take the opportunity to have a break, but she is having 4 days when she’ll have plenty of time to focus on herself and presumably your son will be available to help her at the weekend. I don’t t think it’s unreasonable therefore that on one day out of the 7 she looks after the little one so you can have a break.

Sadly it seems to be true that some parents on here, who have had support from GP's, take it for granted.
I thought the 10am-3pm solution was a good one, but it could start an all-mighty rumpus.
OP I think you are great xx